Re: Catching up - my evil tattoo reply

May 29, 2011

It was the oldest who was most interested in a

tattoo.. and well.. his mother isn't wrapped to extremely tight

either.. So I kind of hinted that my choice of tats would be a

nice big red set of lips... and NOT on his butt.. flip him over to

get the idea.. I don't remember if he ever did find out what I had

intended to tell him would be the tat of my choice.. or if he, by

that time, knew me well enough to know it WOULD be something quite

embarrassing.. and something he wouldn't want for the rest

of his life.. LOL..

I did buy him a six pack of Budweiser for his 16th birthday party...

Of course he got all excited and reached out for one.. they started

singing & dancing!.. such disappointment.. and I DID give him a

"Sweet Sixteen" party just like all the girls were having.. (I

didn't have any girls, and for some reason, at that time all he had

were female friends! -- and they were ALL cute!! -- gotta wonder if

that's the reason he didn't have many male friends.. all the

pretties preferred hanging with him?).. I had the Sweet Sixteen

Banner and everything!

Earl, the youngest, just never "caught on".. (he has at 29 now)..

but he'd always, but always be dumb enough to ask me if he was still

"grounded" for such & such... reminding me, again, of the reason

he was grounded in the first place.. and I'd say.. Yes.. He'd say

for how much longer and I'd tell him again (and again and again)..

for as long as it takes me to forget the reason you're grounded in

the first place.. (that particular time, was a BAD one.. he took his

dad's new bank card, that hadn't been activated yet following some

shoulder surgery -- so he wasn't going anywhere alone therefore

didn't need to activate the card -- but when I'd check to make sure

the card was where I left it.. it was.. same exact spot..

unfortunately when $240 worth of checks started to bounce I was on

the phone with the bank.. Basically sounding like a lunatic telling

them THEY had to have sent out cards with duplicate numbers on them,

because Bill had NOT been at a Sheetz to pull $80 from an ATM ONE

time, let alone THREE!!.. -- Earl was trying to "impress" some

girl!!! GRRRR.. still makes me angry.. and it's been 13 years!.. Oh

he was grounded for a very very very long time following that

episode.. (But just how a 15-16 year old would know that

replacement/new cards would be sent out with the same PIN # as the

old one.. when he'd never had an account is beyond me.. but he knew

his dad's numbers!)

Though Earl, did sort of get even with me for that one.. I remember

having the "talk" with them (and I had to cause their dad sure

wasn't going to).. It's really hard to tell them to NOT being doing

something that they darned well knew their mother had been doing at

15.. (otherwise Bud wouldn't have been born 2 weeks following my

16th birthday)... and I was really NOT naive enough to think that

they were not going to be at least "trying" when they got the

chance, if they could.. they WERE boys!.. So I did give them the

"talk", and explained that it wasn't something that would be

approved of.. not by any means.. but that I also wasn't dumb enough

to think they'd listen to me.. so.. IF they ever found themselves in

the situation, though I still thought they should refrain from

physical stuff until they were older, and closer to marriage age,

and know they were truly in love and that this was a "special" thing

that would be soooo much better if they waited.. and all the "right"

things to try and keep them from becoming active.. hoping for the

best.. but still preparing for the worse.. I did tell them both,

that if they found themselves going to become "involved".. they

didn't even have to come right out and tell me that they were.. just

hint that they might.. and I would see that there was a supply of

"prevention" in a closet for them to access.. and that I'd check and

re-supply as needed.. Because at that point in time.. there were a

whole lot worse things they could get from that type of "activity"

than fatherhood.. they could get "dead"..

Earl was 19, and I wasn't living with him or his dad, when the phone

call arrived one night.. round 11 p.m. reminding me of what I'd told

him.. soooooooooo many years before... and I'm like... NOW???? you

take me up on that offer NOW??? But off I went in search of a place

to find those little things.. in the middle of the night!!! I had,

after all, promised..

Yeah.. I wasn't a real good mother.. but the boys didn't turn out

too too awfully bad.. they were hard workers, Earl holds a job when

there's a job to be held.. makes it every day, unless he's near

death's door.. Bud was a hard worker too, and held a job, so long as

his ADHD and borderline personality didn't overtake his common sense

and he'd tell his boss to shove it and walk off (funny thing was..

those very same people would give him his job back just as soon as

he calmed down & came back.... they even showed up and sent a

spread for his repast dinner.. and they didn't do that for most

other employees.. maybe a basket of flowers)...

And the funniest thing was when we lived in CT.. and the gal next

door told me that I had the best set of boys she'd ever met.. always

so polite and kind and helpful.. and I turned and looked at her and

just had to ask if we were talking about the same two boys that

lived in MY house.. cause the one's she was talking about didn't!..

LOL.. I did have a slight inkling about Earl.. he was one of two

children on the block that would play with her daughter.. her

daughter had/has brittle bone disease.. in an extremely high

degree.. just ducking once broke her hip.. and Earl would play with

her for hours when he had the chance.. and he was always very

careful around her.. at 6 even.. it only had to be explained once

just how easily she "broke".. and he'd park his bicycle clean across

the yard away from her to walk over to play with her..

I wasn't a really good mom.. but most of the kids thought I was the

"cool" mom.. and helped keep my boys out of trouble.. wouldn't want

the really "cool" mom to be upset, and not let them "hang out" at

her house anymore.. LOL.. except for the ONE kid who at 16 looked

like he was 25 and could walk into a "package" (liquor) store up

there.. and never ever get carded... at least not until... well

don't be buying the booze & bring it to MY house and NOT expect

me to take a picture of you to the store so that your face is well

known.. that drys up your supply real fast!!!. He fell all over

himself to apologize and the bent over backward to re-prove that he

could be trusted to not be leading my boy(s) astray.. LOL

Yup.. I'm horrible.. but the tat would still have been funny!

HUGS

|)onna

Of all the things I've lost, I miss my

mind the most.

I'm slow...could you spell out what you would have picked

cause I missed the boat on this one~ lol.

Dee

From:

|)onna

To:

MSersLife

Sent: Sat,

May 28, 2011 7:40:45 AM

Subject:

Re: Catching up

Hmmm... guess you know

what was on my evil little mind eh?

HUGS

|)onna

I LOVE it!!!!

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~*~Hugs~*~

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From:

|)onna

Date:

5/27/2011 10:20:53 PM

To:

MSersLife

Subject:

Re: Catching up

Told my

boys they could have them.. and I'd even

pay for them.. Provided that I got to pick

the tat & the locations.. They opted

out of the deal.. =-O ....

Wonder why?

HUGS

|)onna

I didn't get my first till

I was 38, so I have told

Robbin he is welcome to get as

many as he wants as long as he

doesn't get them younger then

I was when I got mine

Well we are FINALLY getting

some very needed rain.

Hopefully it will help put out

the fires...

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~*~Hugs~*~

~*~Akiba~*~

Pragmatic

Visionary

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nne

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Date:

5/27/2011 3:05:21 PM

To:

mserslife

Subject:

Re: Catching up

I have one tattoo. Took me

64 1/2 yrs to get it :-)

Hugs

nne

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> From: akyba@...

> Sent: Fri, 27 May 2011

13:12:12 -0400 (Eastern

Daylight Time)

> To: mserslife

> Subject: Re:

Catching up

>

> I have tattoos too, how

many do you have? I have 9,

but when I am

> wearing,

> say, shorts and a tee,

they don't show...now, a

bathing suit reveals

> all....

>

> ~*~Hugs~*~

>

> ~*~Akiba~*~

>

> Pragmatic Visionary

>

> http://www.affiliates-natural-salt-lamps.com/pages/156.php

>

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>

> From: D Q

>

> Date: 5/27/2011

10:11:15 AM

>

> To: MSersLife

>

> Subject: Re:

Catching up

>

> yes it is~ I volunteer

at a community run pregnancy

care center that is

> run

> and staffed by Catholic

ladies and is pro-life~ I

laughed at the last

> luncheon/meeting and

said one of these day's they

might convert me lol.

> they

> all do this memorized

prayer and the sign of the

cross etc. that of

> course I

> don't know the routine

being a basic christian~ I

have tattoos as well so

> the gal that runs it

and is a spunky 93 year old

come June, was taken

> aback

> and disgusted. I

laughed and asked if I could

still volunteer~ by the

> time

> she saw them I'd been

there and built a

relationship of fun fussing

at

> each

> other for being a

trouble maker. she is

amazing~She'll be in the

> counseling

> with the gals coming in

for pregnancy tests and

you'll sometimes hear her

> ask "well why are you

having sex then?!" pretty

funny and bold gal. Seems

> she knows or is related

to nearly everyone around

here. She use to be a

> teacher and teaches sex

ed classes at some of the

catholic schools or

> church

> groups.

>

> To: MSersLife

>

> Sent: Thu, May 26, 2011

11:22:22 PM

>

> Subject: Re:

Catching up

>

> I don't mind you

asking, Dee. I am Roman

Catholic. We have a variety

of

> denominations and

faiths on this group. We are

diverse:) I love the

> fact

> that many of us are

very different in faith or

no faith but we all

> respect

> each other. Isn't that

what it's all about?

>

> hugs

>

> Sharon

>

> This email is a natural

hand made product. The

slight variations in

> spelling

> and grammar enhance its

individual character and

beauty and in no way are

> to

> be considered flaws or

defects.

>

> To: MSersLife

>

> Sent: Thu, May 26, 2011

12:11:14 PM

>

> Subject: Re:

Catching up

>

> that's so wonderful

Sharon~ prayer is difficult

to be consistent with for

> me

> I often spend too much

time analyzing things and

analyzing myself which

> interferes with the

just 'do it' that would make

more sense. I don't

> often

> listen to June Hunt but

she caught my attention with

her topic yesterday.

> She mentioned in there

somewhere that she may not

have as much of a

> 'feeling

> of love for God as many

people there that just have

it pouring out of

> them

> (very paraphrased) but

she was secure in her

salvation and relationship

> with

> the Lord. She points

toward past hurts and events

that have left her

> guarded

> or effected her

expression of feelings or

something like that...but it

> made

> me think about the fact

that I believe I am saved, I

believe in the Lord

> Jesus Christ, however

the 'feelings' of closeness

or a relationship isn't

> felt inside like I

admire in others. I have a

hard time realizing the

> issue

> of Christ dying for me

as an individual...that it

is something like going

> to

> a concert with

thousands of people and

saying the singer knows me,

sees

> me,

> and is there just for

me...as an individual. I am

one that won't fight to

> be

> seen, won't push to the

front, rather the opposite.

This is a big

> interference for me on

the front of spirituality.

What denomination are

> you?

> I hope you don't mind

me asking~

>

> Dee

>

> To: MSersLife

>

> Sent: Thu, May 26, 2011

12:34:05 PM

>

> Subject: Re:

Catching up

>

> Dee

>

> Does your daughter have

endometriosis? I know there

can be more painful

> menstruation with that.

Just a thought since the

cramping is a new thing

> for her.

>

> Prayer is such an

individual thing, isn't it?

I love to go to church and

> say the prayers with

the congregation. But mostly

my prayer is my own.

> As

> a family we always say

a prayer before every meal.

I pray at bedtime and

> if

> I wake up during the

night I sometimes pray. When

I say to someone on

> this

> group that I will pray

for them I usually mean I

actually pray for

> blessings

> for them and say their

name. I also ask in prayer

for blessings for

> everyone I said I will

pray for. That covers me

when my MS-memory issues

> affect me:) lol

>

> s

>

> hug

>

> Sharon

>

> This email is a natural

hand made product. The

slight variations in

> spelling

> and grammar enhance its

individual character and

beauty and in no way are

> to

> be considered flaws or

defects.

>

> To: MSersLife

>

> Sent: Wed, May 25, 2011

7:06:35 PM

>

> Subject: Re:

Catching up

>

> wow, what a flavorful

dinner you had! thank you

for the prayers. I have

> to

> ask cause there's

always lots of prayers go

up. How is that process for

> you,

> any of you really, to

lift others up in prayer? is

it a stop and go

> through

> the list type of

thing...or do you just lift

them up and keep them on

> your

> heart so to speak? I

only ask because sitting

still is a daunting task,

> topped with remembering

who everyone is and what the

issue was to lift up

> in

> prayer. My heart goes

out to all of you, the way

you plug along, the way

> you

> lighten the issues

you're experiencing. I know

it is a lot about coping,

> loving, and reaching

out...I also know that the

two and a half months of

> chronic level 8+/- was

nearly more than I could

bare as I hadn't had the

> pain issues, only

numbness. Had to laugh when

my daughter mentioned that

> she

> now at 23 gets

"cramps"...that before her

friends would be struggling

and

> she'd say she was so

sorry but she just hadn't

any idea what that was

> like..

> I hate you they'd

jest...well now she gets the

cramps that nauseates you

> and

> make you want to hide

under a blanket for a few

days. I suppose before I

> had the pain episode I

was in a similar quandary.

Now, with just that

> small

> but horrific experience

that had me at my worst

mental state ever, I am

> amazed at the way you

guys generally push on

forwards. thank you for

> that,

> all of you. Blessings

and calm be with you through

your hard times that

> try

> your strength.

>

> Dee

>

> From: Thallas

>

> To: MSersLife

>

> Sent: Wed, May 25, 2011

2:40:12 PM

>

> Subject:

Catching up

>

> Prayers and good

thoughts for healing to

Margaret's mom, Dee's

>

> squished-deer son,

>

> Debbi H, and everybody

on the list who needs them,

and prayers for all

> the

>

> people in the paths of

these horrible storms and

flooding!

>

> Been a little extra

gimpy and extra cranky - I

think I said before that

>

> my right knee no longer

straightens, making my right

leg a good couple of

>

> inches shorter than the

left. Now, thanks in part to

my EDS, my left

> ankle

>

> pronates so far that

I'm pretty much walking on

the "inside" side of my

> left

>

> foot, which throws my

left knee and hip out of

alignment... I think I'm

>

> going to have to give

up on Cute Shoes and go over

to granny orthopedics,

> if

>

> I can find any I can

afford.. and still no

doctor, BTW, sigh.

>

> On the GOOD side, I

have a new design almost

ready for publishing ( a

>

> wedding sampler, and

though I say so myself it's

gonna be PURDY), I'm

> making

>

> slow progress on spring

cleaning, and on the

genealogy front I seem to be

>

> related to pretty much

everybody in a castle in

medieval Europe (that and

> $5

>

> will get me a giant Dr

Pepper at the Quik Shop!),

the history is

>

> fastinating...

>

> That's about all I can

remember at the moment! :-)

Today is veggie day,

>

> so it's going to be a

simple dinner of baked

potatoes with extra-sharp

>

> cheddar cheese and

French's fried onions on

top, baked beans, and

> something

>

> green...

>

> in WY

>

> Practical Blackwork

Designs

>

> http://practicalblackwork.com

>

> http://practical-blackwork.blogspot.com

>

> "You get a wonderful

view from the point of no

return..."

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May 29, 2011

I've got nothin' after all of that Donna! So glad things worked out~ we all do the best we can and what seems right at the time. Looking back I've made lots of not so good choices with my kids but they're alive, have me mom-ing in their heads, and I have things I can pass onto my young gf with the two little ones to possibly avoid~ She will make her own mistakes, so why not help her not repeat mine? parenting, ugh. DeeFrom: |)onna

To: MSersLife Sent: Sun, May 29, 2011 7:43:48 AMSubject: Re: Catching up - my evil tattoo reply