Guest guest Posted September 28, 2001 Report Share Posted September 28, 2001 I know that my husband Art is truly a wonder . . . in many ways. He isn't a the stereotypical male who was out looking for a hot babe (although I believe that he has ended up with one!) When we met, I weighed close to 300 pounds. It made no difference to him one way or the other. He was the first man I'd met in a long time who genuinely seemed to want to know me for who I was. Of course, I think the fact that we were both in our 30s at the time helped. Maturity is a great thing. Terry168/155.25/154 (minigoal)/ ? (To be determined) Visit my web page at www.dtnorth.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2001 Report Share Posted September 28, 2001 Dear terry you are so lucky to have art.. and those of you who have found men who love you for yourselves are equally lucky i went out on a date last weekeknd and he took one look at me and it was instantly obvious to me that he could not get past my weight even to be friends.. shows me what kind of person he is oh well take care catherine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2001 Report Share Posted September 28, 2001 > I don't think it is men that cause bad self image with women, we do > it to our selves. I know when I was in my teen years all I wanted was > to be loved and liked. I always wanted a boyfriend who would publicly > adore me like all the skinny girls had. Well I found mine when I was > 16 and he never publicly adored me back then but he has for all of > our adult life together. 19 years together, 13 years married. I don't > even remember what single is like. The best way to find someone is to > let that light shine from within. Just like when you were so happy > for your friend at her wedding, it shows and glows from within. I > think that attracts men, like a moth to a candle. *applause* *cheers* Very well put, . And it sounds like you're very lucky-- and you deserve it, too!! My bf of almost 6 years is always accusing me of " glowin'. " --jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2001 Report Share Posted September 28, 2001 > Dear terry > you are so lucky to have art.. and those of you who have found men who love you for yourselves are equally lucky > i went out on a date last weekeknd and he took one look at me and it was instantly obvious to me that he could not get past my weight even to be friends.. shows me what kind of person he is oh well Does anybody else here wonder, if you find someone when you're a new, skinny you, that if you slip up you'll lose him, or you don't know that he would love you if you were heavy? I know it's cliche but it's a real concern if you're single and losing a large amount of weight. --jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2001 Report Share Posted September 28, 2001 well a few years ago i was 180 i met a guy that i really liked and we dated for three mos and then he dropped me so i lost 40 pounds and thought that was it . i went to see him and he was really happy to see me and we had a great time and then he never called me again so you cant get someone to care about you just by looks .. it has to be more catherine ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2001 Report Share Posted September 28, 2001 i agree with you i know alot of men who keep fit and trim and i know they expect their women to do the same and i respect that but what irks me is when you see someone 45 in a T shirt and jeans with a gut who is looking for someone 28 years old who weights 120 lbs . where do they get their reality from I remember having lunch with a client who was over weight balding and not very attractive who told me that he could not find a woman because he had the playboy image in his head.. well maybe looking in the mirror to see that hes not the play girl type??? .i just think if you expect a woman to look like that then you should keep yourself that way too catherine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2001 Report Share Posted September 30, 2001 My story is a little different, Ruthie, I was about 65 pounds lighter when my husband and I met a few years back. He told me he loved me unconditionally and it wouldn't matter what I weighed-that would not change. Guess what? It didn't change. No matter how awful I may feel about what I look like or weigh, he doesn't waver one bit in his affection toward me or the way he treats me. He is a jewel and I'm truly blessed. Cindy in TX --- Ruthie wrote: > My hubby and I have the same story!! Aren't they > great that no matter what we look like they are in > love with us, even when sometimes we aren't in love > with ourselves!! > Have a great Vaca! > > Ruthie > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Terry L. Ross __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2001 Report Share Posted September 30, 2001 My story is a little different, Ruthie, I was about 65 pounds lighter when my husband and I met a few years back. He told me he loved me unconditionally and it wouldn't matter what I weighed-that would not change. Guess what? It didn't change. No matter how awful I may feel about what I look like or weigh, he doesn't waver one bit in his affection toward me or the way he treats me. He is a jewel and I'm truly blessed. Cindy in TX --- Ruthie wrote: > My hubby and I have the same story!! Aren't they > great that no matter what we look like they are in > love with us, even when sometimes we aren't in love > with ourselves!! > Have a great Vaca! > > Ruthie > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Terry L. Ross __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2001 Report Share Posted September 30, 2001 My story is a little different, Ruthie, I was about 65 pounds lighter when my husband and I met a few years back. He told me he loved me unconditionally and it wouldn't matter what I weighed-that would not change. Guess what? It didn't change. No matter how awful I may feel about what I look like or weigh, he doesn't waver one bit in his affection toward me or the way he treats me. He is a jewel and I'm truly blessed. Cindy in TX --- Ruthie wrote: > My hubby and I have the same story!! Aren't they > great that no matter what we look like they are in > love with us, even when sometimes we aren't in love > with ourselves!! > Have a great Vaca! > > Ruthie > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Terry L. Ross __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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