Re: Joyce Dalton's Memorial Service

September 27, 2008

Kerry

Thanks so much for posting what had to be very difficult. We thank you

too for being the friend there for Joyce when none of us could be. I'm

sure you still have no idea what you really meant to her. Also, what you

meant to us in us just being able to touch her through you, wherever she

was.

I know Joyce is now at peace and feeling no pain. I now hope for Lucian,

that he will find a way to grab pleasure in life without her. I loved

reading your part about the planned trips and know that you and friends

and family will continue to encourage him. The best remembrance he or

any of us can provide to Joyce is by living our lives as she taught us

and as she would want us to.

>

> I haven't posted because what can I possibly say... yet I feel I

> need to share at least a few things. My husband luckily took the

> call when Lucian called to tell me Joyce had passed. When I did

> speak with him personally I can't tell you how tough yet wonderful

> the conversation was. He really needed me and all of us to know

> that Joyce went the way he and she had prayed she would, in peace,

> without pain and with family around. He said it was like a whisper

> and she was gone. After telling him what a treat it was to witness

> a couple who so clearly loved each other, but really liked each

> other. Lucian said that when Joyce could barely speak she still

> took the time and made the effort to take his hand and say, " you are

> so good to me " . Do you need any simpler example of what a good

> woman Joyce was at loving, appreciating and expressing it and doing

> so when it meant the most. Did I mention these two were just

> wonderful together, a pair that was perfect for each other. In the

> following days I kept checking to see if I could do anything to

> help. Nothing was needed, but even so I wanted to visit w/ Lucian.

> I called to tell Lucian I was coming over and he said he had

> received a card from Blue Bell, PA and I immediately said oh, from

> Zion. He laughed and said yes. He said he was really having

> a tough morning and the girls had both headed out for the day when

> he opened 's card and it made him laugh. He had no idea we

> referred to Joyce as the Queen. If ever you think that those cards

> or contact with people don't make a difference know they do. Lucian

> said he had been trying to think about what to say at the service

> and here a woman he had never met had painted a picture eloquently.

> At that moment I realized there was something I could do. In

> mourning the loss of my mother one of the most powerful and

> rewarding experiences was to talk to others who knew her. From

> childhood friends to new friends, neighbors, doctors and support

> group members (my mother was a breast cancer survivor). I decided

> to bring Lucian a small sampling of the board members comments about

> Joyce. I tried to give a sampling of newer members, long time

> members, different ways of expressing our feelings. I printed ones

> from across the country and across the world to show the impact this

> one woman that he loved had. I knew some had sent cards and he had

> spoken to Peggy, Leanne and I. I brought him individual posts from

> Caro, Ken, Joy, , , and Geeta. I took them to him and

> read them aloud. I can't tell you how much Geeta's post and poem

> touched me. I had the most difficult time reading it to him, but

> obviously it touched him. Lucian said he wanted to speak today if

> he could find the strength. He was wonderful and I was so proud of

> him. He told the entire gathering about 's card and how it

> made him laugh, he told about the group and what it meant to Joyce.

> He told about the Foundation and how Leanne was there. He used

> comments from us including that I told him I could print him

> thousands of pages and never sum the feelings of the group, he spoke

> of Peggy's longing to be there, and quoted all the posts I gave him

> and closed w/ Geeta's poem. Joyce's pastor officiated the service

> and it was beautiful. As I sobed for my loss I tried to focus on

> the beauty of the stained glass in front of me, the fantastic

> portrait of Joyce and the beautiful flowers the voices of Joyces

> church members poured in from the back. They sang there acapella

> and were stunning! Oh, and Vicky's daisy's that she requested

> Leanne pick from my garden were hand delivered on her behalf. We

> spent the next couple hours visiting w/ Joyce's friends and family

> in her home and shared the good cooking of her church family. Today

> has been an emotional day. I left Lucian w/ a couple dates planned

> for walks in the park, breakfasts, lunches and coffee's. I will

> continue to enjoy my relationship w/ the Dalton family. Please know

> that they appreciate all of you and would be happy that you have now

> shared in the day.

>

> Good night,

> Kerry

>

September 27, 2008

Kerry, Thank you so very much for your

sharing Lucian's feelings with us. I am really touched that the simple

sympathy card I sent made such an impact! I hope that Lucian and his

wonderful family will find peace in knowing

that their Joyce was our Joyce too! And that we miss her and her wisdom

and her strength.

Thank you for being there for all of us.

Z fibriotic NSIP/05

Z 64,

fibriotic NSIP/o5/PA

And “mild”

PH/10/07 and Reynaud’s too!!

No, NSIP was not

self-inflicted…I never smoked!

Potter,

reader,carousel lover and MomMom to

Darah

and Sara

“I’m gonna

be iron like a lion in Zion” Bob Marley

Vinca

Minor-periwinkle is my flower

Kerry wrote:

I haven't posted because what can I possibly say... yet I feel I

need to share at least a few things. My husband luckily took the

call when Lucian called to tell me Joyce had passed. When I did

speak with him personally I can't tell you how tough yet wonderful

the conversation was. He really needed me and all of us to know

that Joyce went the way he and she had prayed she would, in peace,

without pain and with family around. He said it was like a whisper

and she was gone. After telling him what a treat it was to witness

a couple who so clearly loved each other, but really liked each

other. Lucian said that when Joyce could barely speak she still

took the time and made the effort to take his hand and say, "you are

so good to me". Do you need any simpler example of what a good

woman Joyce was at loving, appreciating and expressing it and doing

so when it meant the most. Did I mention these two were just

wonderful together, a pair that was perfect for each other. In the

following days I kept checking to see if I could do anything to

help. Nothing was needed, but even so I wanted to visit w/ Lucian.

I called to tell Lucian I was coming over and he said he had

received a card from Blue Bell, PA and I immediately said oh, from

Zion. He laughed and said yes. He said he was really having

a tough morning and the girls had both headed out for the day when

he opened 's card and it made him laugh. He had no idea we

referred to Joyce as the Queen. If ever you think that those cards

or contact with people don't make a difference know they do. Lucian

said he had been trying to think about what to say at the service

and here a woman he had never met had painted a picture eloquently.

At that moment I realized there was something I could do. In

mourning the loss of my mother one of the most powerful and

rewarding experiences was to talk to others who knew her. From

childhood friends to new friends, neighbors, doctors and support

group members (my mother was a breast cancer survivor). I decided

to bring Lucian a small sampling of the board members comments about

Joyce. I tried to give a sampling of newer members, long time

members, different ways of expressing our feelings. I printed ones

from across the country and across the world to show the impact this

one woman that he loved had. I knew some had sent cards and he had

spoken to Peggy, Leanne and I. I brought him individual posts from

Caro, Ken, Joy, , , and Geeta. I took them to him and

read them aloud. I can't tell you how much Geeta's post and poem

touched me. I had the most difficult time reading it to him, but

obviously it touched him. Lucian said he wanted to speak today if

he could find the strength. He was wonderful and I was so proud of

him. He told the entire gathering about 's card and how it

made him laugh, he told about the group and what it meant to Joyce.

He told about the Foundation and how Leanne was there. He used

comments from us including that I told him I could print him

thousands of pages and never sum the feelings of the group, he spoke

of Peggy's longing to be there, and quoted all the posts I gave him

and closed w/ Geeta's poem. Joyce's pastor officiated the service

and it was beautiful. As I sobed for my loss I tried to focus on

the beauty of the stained glass in front of me, the fantastic

portrait of Joyce and the beautiful flowers the voices of Joyces

church members poured in from the back. They sang there acapella

and were stunning! Oh, and Vicky's daisy's that she requested

Leanne pick from my garden were hand delivered on her behalf. We

spent the next couple hours visiting w/ Joyce's friends and family

in her home and shared the good cooking of her church family. Today

has been an emotional day. I left Lucian w/ a couple dates planned

for walks in the park, breakfasts, lunches and coffee's. I will

continue to enjoy my relationship w/ the Dalton family. Please know

that they appreciate all of you and would be happy that you have now

shared in the day.

Good night,

Kerry

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September 28, 2008

Leanne ... thanks for the poem.

MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. NasturtiumsDon't fret about tomorrow, God is already there!

Re: Joyce Dalton's Memorial Service> > > I just now am coming to the Board to post about Joyce's memorial > service....and I'll say what Kerry said.... She summed it up > beautifully. Lucian did such a great job. When he read Geeta's poem at > the end, there wasn't a dry eye in the house. Kerry and I were just > sobbing....As the Pastor said, we don't cry for Joyce, she's with her > Maker....we cry for the family and we cry for us....it was a very > emotional tiring day. The picture of Joyce was absolutely beautiful. > (the new girl in our office at the Foundation) made up a poster > which I will post as soon as I can get a decent picture of it...but it > is a drawn picture of lungs with the folks from the on line support > group in the lungs......They put it up at the chapel. Lucian and > saw Zion. You so touched their hearts.... They saw the board of > folks that meant so much to Joyce and of course, our Queen meant so > much to us. She will be missed. But she will forever be in our hearts. > We have an angel watching over us.> > Leanne>

September 28, 2008

Thank you, Kerry and Beth for your beautiful tributes to a lovely, courageous Christian lady. I found her online guestbook. Here's the link: http://www.legacy.com/news-tribune/Obituaries.asp?Page=SearchResults

Elisa

Subject: Re: Joyce Dalton's Memorial ServiceTo: Breathe-Support Date: Sunday, September 28, 2008, 8:32 AM

Kerry,

Thank you so much for posting to all the rest of us about your conversations with Lucian and about Joyce's memorial. I can't begin to tell you what it means to me personally to have this gift. You painted a picture of Joyce's legacy that will sustain me in my own ongoing battle with fibrosis. It makes me happy that Lucian has an idea now of what Joyce meant to all of us here on the board. She is missed and is loved but she remains with all of us who knew and loved her and her posts remain in our archives to serve as inspiration to future members!

Thank you again Kerry!

Beth-Moderator

Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08 I'm

Joyce Dalton's Memorial Service

I haven't posted because what can I possibly say... yet I feel I need to share at least a few things. My husband luckily took the call when Lucian called to tell me Joyce had passed. When I did speak with him personally I can't tell you how tough yet wonderful the conversation was. He really needed me and all of us to know that Joyce went the way he and she had prayed she would, in peace, without pain and with family around. He said it was like a whisper and she was gone. After telling him what a treat it was to witness a couple who so clearly loved each other, but really liked each other. Lucian said that when Joyce could barely speak she still took the time and made the effort to take his hand and say, "you are so good to me". Do you need any simpler example of what a good woman Joyce was at loving, appreciating and expressing it and doing so when it meant the most. Did I mention these two were

just wonderful together, a pair that was perfect for each other. In the following days I kept checking to see if I could do anything to help. Nothing was needed, but even so I wanted to visit w/ Lucian. I called to tell Lucian I was coming over and he said he had received a card from Blue Bell, PA and I immediately said oh, from Zion. He laughed and said yes. He said he was really having a tough morning and the girls had both headed out for the day when he opened 's card and it made him laugh. He had no idea we referred to Joyce as the Queen. If ever you think that those cards or contact with people don't make a difference know they do. Lucian said he had been trying to think about what to say at the service and here a woman he had never met had painted a picture eloquently. At that moment I realized there was something I could do. In mourning the loss of my mother one of the most

powerful and rewarding experiences was to talk to others who knew her. From childhood friends to new friends, neighbors, doctors and support group members (my mother was a breast cancer survivor). I decided to bring Lucian a small sampling of the board members comments about Joyce. I tried to give a sampling of newer members, long time members, different ways of expressing our feelings. I printed ones from across the country and across the world to show the impact this one woman that he loved had. I knew some had sent cards and he had spoken to Peggy, Leanne and I. I brought him individual posts from Caro, Ken, Joy, , , and Geeta. I took them to him and read them aloud. I can't tell you how much Geeta's post and poem touched me. I had the most difficult time reading it to him, but obviously it touched him. Lucian said he wanted to speak today if he could find the strength. He was

wonderful and I was so proud of him. He told the entire gathering about 's card and how it made him laugh, he told about the group and what it meant to Joyce. He told about the Foundation and how Leanne was there. He used comments from us including that I told him I could print him thousands of pages and never sum the feelings of the group, he spoke of Peggy's longing to be there, and quoted all the posts I gave him and closed w/ Geeta's poem. Joyce's pastor officiated the service and it was beautiful. As I sobed for my loss I tried to focus on the beauty of the stained glass in front of me, the fantastic portrait of Joyce and the beautiful flowers the voices of Joyces church members poured in from the back. They sang there acapella and were stunning! Oh, and Vicky's daisy's that she requested Leanne pick from my garden were hand delivered on her behalf. We spent the next couple hours visiting

w/ Joyce's friends and family in her home and shared the good cooking of her church family. Today has been an emotional day. I left Lucian w/ a couple dates planned for walks in the park, breakfasts, lunches and coffee's. I will continue to enjoy my relationship w/ the Dalton family. Please know that they appreciate all of you and would be happy that you have now shared in the day.Good night,Kerry

September 28, 2008

To find Joyce's obituary and guestbook from this link, select "modify your search" and type in Dalton.

From: Beth <mbmurtha (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>Subject: Re: Joyce Dalton's Memorial ServiceTo: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comDate: Sunday, September 28, 2008, 8:32 AM

Kerry,

Thank you so much for posting to all the rest of us about your conversations with Lucian and about Joyce's memorial. I can't begin to tell you what it means to me personally to have this gift. You painted a picture of Joyce's legacy that will sustain me in my own ongoing battle with fibrosis. It makes me happy that Lucian has an idea now of what Joyce meant to all of us here on the board. She is missed and is loved but she remains with all of us who knew and loved her and her posts remain in our archives to serve as inspiration to future members!

Thank you again Kerry!

Beth-Moderator

Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08 I'm

Joyce Dalton's Memorial Service

I haven't posted because what can I possibly say... yet I feel I need to share at least a few things. My husband luckily took the call when Lucian called to tell me Joyce had passed. When I did speak with him personally I can't tell you how tough yet wonderful the conversation was. He really needed me and all of us to know that Joyce went the way he and she had prayed she would, in peace, without pain and with family around. He said it was like a whisper and she was gone. After telling him what a treat it was to witness a couple who so clearly loved each other, but really liked each other. Lucian said that when Joyce could barely speak she still took the time and made the effort to take his hand and say, "you are so good to me". Do you need any simpler example of what a good woman Joyce was at loving, appreciating and expressing it and doing so when it meant the most. Did I mention these two were

just wonderful together, a pair that was perfect for each other. In the following days I kept checking to see if I could do anything to help. Nothing was needed, but even so I wanted to visit w/ Lucian. I called to tell Lucian I was coming over and he said he had received a card from Blue Bell, PA and I immediately said oh, from Zion. He laughed and said yes. He said he was really having a tough morning and the girls had both headed out for the day when he opened 's card and it made him laugh. He had no idea we referred to Joyce as the Queen. If ever you think that those cards or contact with people don't make a difference know they do. Lucian said he had been trying to think about what to say at the service and here a woman he had never met had painted a picture eloquently. At that moment I realized there was something I could do. In mourning the loss of my mother one of the most

powerful and rewarding experiences was to talk to others who knew her. From childhood friends to new friends, neighbors, doctors and support group members (my mother was a breast cancer survivor). I decided to bring Lucian a small sampling of the board members comments about Joyce. I tried to give a sampling of newer members, long time members, different ways of expressing our feelings. I printed ones from across the country and across the world to show the impact this one woman that he loved had. I knew some had sent cards and he had spoken to Peggy, Leanne and I. I brought him individual posts from Caro, Ken, Joy, , , and Geeta. I took them to him and read them aloud. I can't tell you how much Geeta's post and poem touched me. I had the most difficult time reading it to him, but obviously it touched him. Lucian said he wanted to speak today if he could find the strength. He was

wonderful and I was so proud of him. He told the entire gathering about 's card and how it made him laugh, he told about the group and what it meant to Joyce. He told about the Foundation and how Leanne was there. He used comments from us including that I told him I could print him thousands of pages and never sum the feelings of the group, he spoke of Peggy's longing to be there, and quoted all the posts I gave him and closed w/ Geeta's poem. Joyce's pastor officiated the service and it was beautiful. As I sobed for my loss I tried to focus on the beauty of the stained glass in front of me, the fantastic portrait of Joyce and the beautiful flowers the voices of Joyces church members poured in from the back. They sang there acapella and were stunning! Oh, and Vicky's daisy's that she requested Leanne pick from my garden were hand delivered on her behalf. We spent the next couple hours visiting

w/ Joyce's friends and family in her home and shared the good cooking of her church family. Today has been an emotional day. I left Lucian w/ a couple dates planned for walks in the park, breakfasts, lunches and coffee's. I will continue to enjoy my relationship w/ the Dalton family. Please know that they appreciate all of you and would be happy that you have now shared in the day.Good night,Kerry

September 29, 2008

Elisa ... thanks so much for this link! Makes me feel a "part of" instead of just a door being closed.

MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. NasturtiumsDon't fret about tomorrow, God is already there!

Joyce Dalton's Memorial Service

I haven't posted because what can I possibly say... yet I feel I need to share at least a few things. My husband luckily took the call when Lucian called to tell me Joyce had passed. When I did speak with him personally I can't tell you how tough yet wonderful the conversation was. He really needed me and all of us to know that Joyce went the way he and she had prayed she would, in peace, without pain and with family around. He said it was like a whisper and she was gone. After telling him what a treat it was to witness a couple who so clearly loved each other, but really liked each other. Lucian said that when Joyce could barely speak she still took the time and made the effort to take his hand and say, "you are so good to me". Do you need any simpler example of what a good woman Joyce was at loving, appreciating and expressing it and doing so when it meant the most. Did I mention these two were just wonderful together, a pair that was perfect for each other. In the following days I kept checking to see if I could do anything to help. Nothing was needed, but even so I wanted to visit w/ Lucian. I called to tell Lucian I was coming over and he said he had received a card from Blue Bell, PA and I immediately said oh, from Zion. He laughed and said yes. He said he was really having a tough morning and the girls had both headed out for the day when he opened 's card and it made him laugh. He had no idea we referred to Joyce as the Queen. If ever you think that those cards or contact with people don't make a difference know they do. Lucian said he had been trying to think about what to say at the service and here a woman he had never met had painted a picture eloquently. At that moment I realized there was something I could do. In mourning the loss of my mother one of the most powerful and rewarding experiences was to talk to others who knew her. From childhood friends to new friends, neighbors, doctors and support group members (my mother was a breast cancer survivor). I decided to bring Lucian a small sampling of the board members comments about Joyce. I tried to give a sampling of newer members, long time members, different ways of expressing our feelings. I printed ones from across the country and across the world to show the impact this one woman that he loved had. I knew some had sent cards and he had spoken to Peggy, Leanne and I. I brought him individual posts from Caro, Ken, Joy, , , and Geeta. I took them to him and read them aloud. I can't tell you how much Geeta's post and poem touched me. I had the most difficult time reading it to him, but obviously it touched him. Lucian said he wanted to speak today if he could find the strength. He was wonderful and I was so proud of him. He told the entire gathering about 's card and how it made him laugh, he told about the group and what it meant to Joyce. He told about the Foundation and how Leanne was there. He used comments from us including that I told him I could print him thousands of pages and never sum the feelings of the group, he spoke of Peggy's longing to be there, and quoted all the posts I gave him and closed w/ Geeta's poem. Joyce's pastor officiated the service and it was beautiful. As I sobed for my loss I tried to focus on the beauty of the stained glass in front of me, the fantastic portrait of Joyce and the beautiful flowers the voices of Joyces church members poured in from the back. They sang there acapella and were stunning! Oh, and Vicky's daisy's that she requested Leanne pick from my garden were hand delivered on her behalf. We spent the next couple hours visiting w/ Joyce's friends and family in her home and shared the good cooking of her church family. Today has been an emotional day. I left Lucian w/ a couple dates planned for walks in the park, breakfasts, lunches and coffee's. I will continue to enjoy my relationship w/ the Dalton family. Please know that they appreciate all of you and would be happy that you have now shared in the day.Good night,Kerry

September 29, 2008

Kerry,

I am deeply touched by your post today,thank you very much I

appreciate all that you have done..

Trough you ,I have reached Joyce.

Geeta

-- In Breathe-Support , " Kerry "

wrote:

>

> I haven't posted because what can I possibly say... yet I feel I

> need to share at least a few things. My husband luckily took the

> call when Lucian called to tell me Joyce had passed. When I did

> speak with him personally I can't tell you how tough yet wonderful

> the conversation was. He really needed me and all of us to know

> that Joyce went the way he and she had prayed she would, in peace,

> without pain and with family around. He said it was like a

whisper

> and she was gone. After telling him what a treat it was to

witness

> a couple who so clearly loved each other, but really liked each

> other. Lucian said that when Joyce could barely speak she still

> took the time and made the effort to take his hand and say, " you

are

> so good to me " . Do you need any simpler example of what a good

> woman Joyce was at loving, appreciating and expressing it and

doing

> so when it meant the most. Did I mention these two were just

> wonderful together, a pair that was perfect for each other. In

the

> following days I kept checking to see if I could do anything to

> help. Nothing was needed, but even so I wanted to visit w/

Lucian.

> I called to tell Lucian I was coming over and he said he had

> received a card from Blue Bell, PA and I immediately said oh, from

> Zion. He laughed and said yes. He said he was really

having

> a tough morning and the girls had both headed out for the day when

> he opened 's card and it made him laugh. He had no idea we

> referred to Joyce as the Queen. If ever you think that those

cards

> or contact with people don't make a difference know they do.

Lucian

> said he had been trying to think about what to say at the service

> and here a woman he had never met had painted a picture

eloquently.

> At that moment I realized there was something I could do. In

> mourning the loss of my mother one of the most powerful and

> rewarding experiences was to talk to others who knew her. From

> childhood friends to new friends, neighbors, doctors and support

> group members (my mother was a breast cancer survivor). I decided

> to bring Lucian a small sampling of the board members comments

about

> Joyce. I tried to give a sampling of newer members, long time

> members, different ways of expressing our feelings. I printed

ones

> from across the country and across the world to show the impact

this

> one woman that he loved had. I knew some had sent cards and he

had

> spoken to Peggy, Leanne and I. I brought him individual posts

from

> Caro, Ken, Joy, , , and Geeta. I took them to him and

> read them aloud. I can't tell you how much Geeta's post and poem

> touched me. I had the most difficult time reading it to him, but

> obviously it touched him. Lucian said he wanted to speak today if

> he could find the strength. He was wonderful and I was so proud

of

> him. He told the entire gathering about 's card and how it

> made him laugh, he told about the group and what it meant to

Joyce.

> He told about the Foundation and how Leanne was there. He used

> comments from us including that I told him I could print him

> thousands of pages and never sum the feelings of the group, he

spoke

> of Peggy's longing to be there, and quoted all the posts I gave

him