Guest guest Posted September 28, 2008 Report Share Posted September 28, 2008 i have been very busy with my new great nephew, eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. she went through most of her labour in her own home alone and her friend came in at the right time and went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor the next day and also collected her from hospital and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her son to my mothers and thats what we done. debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy home. the father has visited and will be around but despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is breast feeding on demand and never has him out of her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she is bursting with so much love and delight. joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts since she passed and especially the last few days. one soul leaves and another joins the fray. kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by our experiences of joyce. mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were together. both very special people, especially to me. love to everyone, this very specific september. may, scotland Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 May ... just saying hi to you too. Yes, a baby is always so precious, so fresh from God. Hope all is well with you. MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. NasturtiumsDon't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! the circle of life i have been very busy with my new great nephew,eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yrneice debs is on her own with no mother or partner.her father lives more than 10hrs away and left hermother when she was four anyway to create a new family.she went through most of her labour in her own homealone and her friend came in at the right time and went to hospital with her. i was the first visitorthe next day and also collected her from hospitaland took them home fri. today she wanted to take her son to my mothers and thats what we done.debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard forus to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her duringher labour or let us get her house ready. she movedin three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy home. the father has visited and will be around but despite us all dropping in, she is on her own.she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is breast feeding on demand and never has him out of her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she is bursting with so much love and delight.joyce of course has never been far from my thoughtssince she passed and especially the last few days.one soul leaves and another joins the fray.kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial.it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by our experiences of joyce. mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect.i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and weretogether. both very special people, especially to me.love to everyone, this very specific september.may, scotland Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 sher all is well with me. the day goes by so quickly. hope you and rich are doing well and the weather is pleasant for you. may > > May ... just saying hi to you too. Yes, a baby is always so precious, so fresh from God. > Hope all is well with you. > > MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. > Nasturtiums > Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! > > the circle of life > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > the next day and also collected her from hospital > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > home. the father has visited and will be around but > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > since she passed and especially the last few days. > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > our experiences of joyce. > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > may, scotland > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 May, Your description of your niece's situation and her reaction to the birth of her little boy moved me tremendously. Becoming a mother is one of those moments in life for which there is no adequate preparation. I know when my son was born it was like getting hit by a freight train. I was utterly bowled over by the joy and love I felt just sitting and staring at my baby. It sounds like she is a very strong young woman and is wanting to do this on her own. You have to give her credit...she's braver than I would have been at her age. I'll keep her in my thoughts and prayers! Hope all is well with you!! Beth-Moderator Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08 the circle of life i have been very busy with my new great nephew,eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yrneice debs is on her own with no mother or partner.her father lives more than 10hrs away and left hermother when she was four anyway to create a new family.she went through most of her labour in her own homealone and her friend came in at the right time and went to hospital with her. i was the first visitorthe next day and also collected her from hospitaland took them home fri. today she wanted to take her son to my mothers and thats what we done.debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard forus to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her duringher labour or let us get her house ready. she movedin three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy home. the father has visited and will be around but despite us all dropping in, she is on her own.she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is breast feeding on demand and never has him out of her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she is bursting with so much love and delight.joyce of course has never been far from my thoughtssince she passed and especially the last few days.one soul leaves and another joins the fray.kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial.it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by our experiences of joyce. mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect.i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and weretogether. both very special people, especially to me.love to everyone, this very specific september.may, scotland Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 May Congrats on your new baby love. There just isn't anything like them.I do understand about your niece's independence. I was 17 with my first then 19 and 20 with the next two. I was totally crazy. I was on my own from the timethe baby was 3 mos. old. Very hard financially.  But I think I was so over whelmedthat I just did one day at a time... LOVING my babies.. lolI was so blessed to have met when the baby was 2. He raised and loved them as his own.Wow how did all that come out.. Oh well, there it is. I am glad to hear from you. Hope all is well.Love & Prayers, PeggyFlorida,  IPF/UIP 2004"I believe that friends are quiet angels who lift us to our feet, when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly." sherall is well with me. the day goes by so quickly.hope you and rich are doing well and the weather is pleasant for you.may>> May ... just saying hi to you too. Yes, a baby is always so precious, so fresh from God.> Hope all is well with you.> > MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. > Nasturtiums> Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there!> > the circle of life> > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew,> eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr> neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner.> her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her> mother when she was four anyway to create a new family.> > she went through most of her labour in her own home> alone and her friend came in at the right time and > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor> the next day and also collected her from hospital> and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > son to my mothers and thats what we done.> > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for> us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during> her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved> in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > home. the father has visited and will be around but > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own.> > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15> i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > is bursting with so much love and delight.> > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts> since she passed and especially the last few days.> one soul leaves and another joins the fray.> > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial.> it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > our experiences of joyce. > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect.> > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were> together. both very special people, especially to me.> > love to everyone, this very specific september.> > may, scotland> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 mary-beth thanks. debs has had major depressions and we have been worried about her but she is just sooo happy. she told me about his first bath and i'm busy feeling sorry for her that she was alone and she was telling me how much fun it was. she couldn't wait for her visitor to leave to do the bath. her first words to my mum when we visited yesterday were 'nana, look what ive got in the happiest voice ive ever heard from her'. i'm awfully proud and impressed by her. may > > May, > Your description of your niece's situation and her reaction to the birth of her little boy moved me tremendously. Becoming a mother is one of those moments in life for which there is no adequate preparation. I know when my son was born it was like getting hit by a freight train. I was utterly bowled over by the joy and love I felt just sitting and staring at my baby. > Â > It sounds like she is a very strong young woman and is wanting to do this on her own. You have to give her credit...she's braver than I would have been at her age. I'll keep her in my thoughts and prayers! > Â > Hope all is well with you!! > > Â > Beth-Moderator > Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08Â Â Â Â Â > Â > Â > Â > > > > the circle of life > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > the next day and also collected her from hospital > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > home. the father has visited and will be around but > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > since she passed and especially the last few days. > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > our experiences of joyce. > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > may, scotland > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 peggy i think nothing unites women more than early motherhood. all motherhood but especially early. that is when women have to change and men choose to (or not). i didnt know you had such a lot on your plate so young. i'm well impressed and yes your kids sound great (though ive mostly heard about teresa). a lovely pat on the back to john too. there is nothing better (and sexier) than a man who chooses to do the job properly when he inherits children. ive earmarked this wee boy as my honorary grandson since debs mum isnt here and i do not think my rosie will be having kids for a long long time to come. this wee boy and i need each other right now i reckon. andy is already planning to teach him football (soccer) since he didnt have a son, debs dad's too far away and we expect to have him every saturday to let debs work. she plans to stay on maternity leave until may then go back to work in her restaurant for about 16hrs. this was a student job but she stopped the course in the middle. she will then go back to college next fall part time to get a degree and train to become a teacher. we reckon that will take her to eli's five and be a good life for them. fingers crossed. may > > > > May ... just saying hi to you too. Yes, a baby is always so > precious, so fresh from God. > > Hope all is well with you. > > > > MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. > > Nasturtiums > > Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! > > > > the circle of life > > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > > the next day and also collected her from hospital > > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > > since she passed and especially the last few days. > > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > > > may, scotland > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 May, I just love his name. I know you have your arms full. I sometimes would give anything to holda new baby. Nothin on this earth compares.I was just in such a hurry to grow up.... My son is going to move up here with us. He is just super.I honestly think he wants to be near. My youngest is just a great Mother. She does have her issues.lol that is putting it lightly. She has four kids. 20,  18  and twins 16. I think she doesn't know howto relate to me since this monster has come into our lives. She goes months without coming the two hour ride to see me. I was so upset with her but I have just let it go. I talk to her almost everyday but NEVER asks how things are going.. So not to much to say there.I know you have read a lot about because she has grown to me... lol Love & Prayers, PeggyFlorida,  IPF/UIP 2004"I believe that friends are quiet angels who lift us to our feet, when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly." peggyi think nothing unites women more than early motherhood.all motherhood but especially early. that is when women have to change and men choose to (or not). i didntknow you had such a lot on your plate so young. i'm wellimpressed and yes your kids sound great (though ive mostlyheard about teresa). a lovely pat on the back to john too.there is nothing better (and sexier) than a man who chooses to do the job properly when he inherits children.ive earmarked this wee boy as my honorary grandson since debsmum isnt here and i do not think my rosie will be having kidsfor a long long time to come. this wee boy and i need eachother right now i reckon. andy is already planning to teachhim football (soccer) since he didnt have a son, debs dad'stoo far away and we expect to have him every saturday to letdebs work. she plans to stay on maternity leave until may then go backto work in her restaurant for about 16hrs. this was a studentjob but she stopped the course in the middle. she will thengo back to college next fall part time to get a degree and train to become a teacher. we reckon that will take her to eli's five and bea good life for them. fingers crossed.may> >> > May ... just saying hi to you too. Yes, a baby is always so> precious, so fresh from God.> > Hope all is well with you.> >> > MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR.> > Nasturtiums> > Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there!> >> > the circle of life> >> >> >> > i have been very busy with my new great nephew,> > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr> > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner.> > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her> > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family.> >> > she went through most of her labour in her own home> > alone and her friend came in at the right time and> > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor> > the next day and also collected her from hospital> > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her> > son to my mothers and thats what we done.> >> > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for> > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during> > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved> > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy> > home. the father has visited and will be around but> > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own.> >> > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is> > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of> > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15> > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she> > is bursting with so much love and delight.> >> > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts> > since she passed and especially the last few days.> > one soul leaves and another joins the fray.> >> > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial.> > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did> > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by> > our experiences of joyce.> >> > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect.> >> > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were> > together. both very special people, especially to me.> >> > love to everyone, this very specific september.> >> > may, scotland> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2008 Report Share Posted September 30, 2008 peg rosanna has a similar reaction to your youngest. i see and hear from her less since diagnosis. she seems exasperated and critical with me. some of it is normal over-confidence for her age, and a natural attempt to live her own life. she hasn't had anything to overcome in her life yet and has always belonged to a big supportive family. i find her reaction to me very painful but i am just trying to let go and let her be. there is some comfort in knowing that avoidance behaviour seems to be a common reaction from some people so i am not the only one. i love eli's name also. she wants a second name but can't make up her mind. her mother chose biblical names, matthew, deborah, rachel so i knew she would pick something biblical too and i know her mum would like that. i think every woman should have at least one big son and thats great your son is coming to join the rest of you. eli has very long fingers so i know he's going to be tall. i'm ready for some uncomplicated simple love from a baby/ toddler. may > > > > > > May ... just saying hi to you too. Yes, a baby is always so > > precious, so fresh from God. > > > Hope all is well with you. > > > > > > MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. > > > Nasturtiums > > > Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! > > > > > > the circle of life > > > > > > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > > > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > > > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > > > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > > > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > > > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > > > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > > > the next day and also collected her from hospital > > > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > > > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > > > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > > > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > > > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > > > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > > > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > > > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > > > since she passed and especially the last few days. > > > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > > > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > > > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > > > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > > > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > > > > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > > > > > may, scotland > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2008 Report Share Posted September 30, 2008 peg rosanna has a similar reaction to your youngest. i see and hear from her less since diagnosis. she seems exasperated and critical with me. some of it is normal over-confidence for her age, and a natural attempt to live her own life. she hasn't had anything to overcome in her life yet and has always belonged to a big supportive family. i find her reaction to me very painful but i am just trying to let go and let her be. there is some comfort in knowing that avoidance behaviour seems to be a common reaction from some people so i am not the only one. i love eli's name also. she wants a second name but can't make up her mind. her mother chose biblical names, matthew, deborah, rachel so i knew she would pick something biblical too and i know her mum would like that. i think every woman should have at least one big son and thats great your son is coming to join the rest of you. eli has very long fingers so i know he's going to be tall. i'm ready for some uncomplicated simple love from a baby/ toddler. may > > > > > > May ... just saying hi to you too. Yes, a baby is always so > > precious, so fresh from God. > > > Hope all is well with you. > > > > > > MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. > > > Nasturtiums > > > Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! > > > > > > the circle of life > > > > > > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > > > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > > > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > > > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > > > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > > > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > > > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > > > the next day and also collected her from hospital > > > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > > > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > > > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > > > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > > > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > > > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > > > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > > > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > > > since she passed and especially the last few days. > > > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > > > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > > > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > > > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > > > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > > > > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > > > > > may, scotland > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2008 Report Share Posted September 30, 2008 sher yes, i think she feels like she has something to get up for now and i suspect that like a lot of women she will feed off the energy to making a good life for him (and her). how is your son keeping at the moment. i hope i haven't missed any recent updates. may > > > > May, > > Your description of your niece's situation and her reaction to the > birth of her little boy moved me tremendously. Becoming a mother is > one of those moments in life for which there is no adequate > preparation. I know when my son was born it was like getting hit by a > freight train. I was utterly bowled over by the joy and love I felt > just sitting and staring at my baby. > > > > It sounds like she is a very strong young woman and is wanting to > do this on her own. You have to give her credit...she's braver than I > would have been at her age. I'll keep her in my thoughts and prayers! > > > > Hope all is well with you!! > > > > > > Beth-Moderator > > Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > the circle of life > > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > > the next day and also collected her from hospital > > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > > since she passed and especially the last few days. > > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > > > may, scotland > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2008 Report Share Posted September 30, 2008 sher yes, i think she feels like she has something to get up for now and i suspect that like a lot of women she will feed off the energy to making a good life for him (and her). how is your son keeping at the moment. i hope i haven't missed any recent updates. may > > > > May, > > Your description of your niece's situation and her reaction to the > birth of her little boy moved me tremendously. Becoming a mother is > one of those moments in life for which there is no adequate > preparation. I know when my son was born it was like getting hit by a > freight train. I was utterly bowled over by the joy and love I felt > just sitting and staring at my baby. > > > > It sounds like she is a very strong young woman and is wanting to > do this on her own. You have to give her credit...she's braver than I > would have been at her age. I'll keep her in my thoughts and prayers! > > > > Hope all is well with you!! > > > > > > Beth-Moderator > > Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > the circle of life > > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > > the next day and also collected her from hospital > > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > > since she passed and especially the last few days. > > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > > > may, scotland > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2008 Report Share Posted September 30, 2008 sher yes, i think she feels like she has something to get up for now and i suspect that like a lot of women she will feed off the energy to making a good life for him (and her). how is your son keeping at the moment. i hope i haven't missed any recent updates. may > > > > May, > > Your description of your niece's situation and her reaction to the > birth of her little boy moved me tremendously. Becoming a mother is > one of those moments in life for which there is no adequate > preparation. I know when my son was born it was like getting hit by a > freight train. I was utterly bowled over by the joy and love I felt > just sitting and staring at my baby. > > > > It sounds like she is a very strong young woman and is wanting to > do this on her own. You have to give her credit...she's braver than I > would have been at her age. I'll keep her in my thoughts and prayers! > > > > Hope all is well with you!! > > > > > > Beth-Moderator > > Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > the circle of life > > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > > the next day and also collected her from hospital > > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > > since she passed and especially the last few days. > > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > > > may, scotland > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2008 Report Share Posted September 30, 2008 Honestly May, you must be keeping notes! How do you remember him? He has survived another horrid horrid hospitalization, 3 surgeries in one month and has been home for a few months. Extremely thin...nearly skeletal. It's amazing how he survives. God is giving him time to do something! Thanks for asking. MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. NasturtiumsDon't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! the circle of life> > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew,> > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr> > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner.> > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her> > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family.> > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home> > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor> > the next day and also collected her from hospital> > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > son to my mothers and thats what we done.> > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for> > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during> > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved> > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own.> > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15> > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > is bursting with so much love and delight.> > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts> > since she passed and especially the last few days.> > one soul leaves and another joins the fray.> > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial.> > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect.> > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were> > together. both very special people, especially to me.> > > > love to everyone, this very specific september.> > > > may, scotland> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2008 Report Share Posted September 30, 2008 sher no i dont take notes and i dont remember all the stories but some stay. i cant remember your son's name but i remember the reunion and his health. ive read every post since i joined here except for recently when ive only been skimming. i hate missing posts probably because ive learned masses from reading posts that i didnt expect to find relevant and i like to know whats going on, especially with the families. may > > > > > > May, > > > Your description of your niece's situation and her reaction to > the > > birth of her little boy moved me tremendously. Becoming a mother > is > > one of those moments in life for which there is no adequate > > preparation. I know when my son was born it was like getting hit > by a > > freight train. I was utterly bowled over by the joy and love I > felt > > just sitting and staring at my baby. > > > > > > It sounds like she is a very strong young woman and is wanting > to > > do this on her own. You have to give her credit...she's braver > than I > > would have been at her age. I'll keep her in my thoughts and > prayers! > > > > > > Hope all is well with you!! > > > > > > > > > Beth-Moderator > > > Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > the circle of life > > > > > > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > > > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > > > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > > > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > > > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > > > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > > > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > > > the next day and also collected her from hospital > > > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > > > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > > > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > > > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > > > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > > > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > > > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > > > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > > > since she passed and especially the last few days. > > > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > > > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > > > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > > > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > > > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > > > > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > > > > > may, scotland > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2008 Report Share Posted September 30, 2008 sher no i dont take notes and i dont remember all the stories but some stay. i cant remember your son's name but i remember the reunion and his health. ive read every post since i joined here except for recently when ive only been skimming. i hate missing posts probably because ive learned masses from reading posts that i didnt expect to find relevant and i like to know whats going on, especially with the families. may > > > > > > May, > > > Your description of your niece's situation and her reaction to > the > > birth of her little boy moved me tremendously. Becoming a mother > is > > one of those moments in life for which there is no adequate > > preparation. I know when my son was born it was like getting hit > by a > > freight train. I was utterly bowled over by the joy and love I > felt > > just sitting and staring at my baby. > > > > > > It sounds like she is a very strong young woman and is wanting > to > > do this on her own. You have to give her credit...she's braver > than I > > would have been at her age. I'll keep her in my thoughts and > prayers! > > > > > > Hope all is well with you!! > > > > > > > > > Beth-Moderator > > > Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > the circle of life > > > > > > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > > > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > > > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > > > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > > > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > > > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > > > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > > > the next day and also collected her from hospital > > > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > > > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > > > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > > > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > > > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > > > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > > > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > > > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > > > since she passed and especially the last few days. > > > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > > > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > > > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > > > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > > > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > > > > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > > > > > may, scotland > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2008 Report Share Posted September 30, 2008 sher no i dont take notes and i dont remember all the stories but some stay. i cant remember your son's name but i remember the reunion and his health. ive read every post since i joined here except for recently when ive only been skimming. i hate missing posts probably because ive learned masses from reading posts that i didnt expect to find relevant and i like to know whats going on, especially with the families. may > > > > > > May, > > > Your description of your niece's situation and her reaction to > the > > birth of her little boy moved me tremendously. Becoming a mother > is > > one of those moments in life for which there is no adequate > > preparation. I know when my son was born it was like getting hit > by a > > freight train. I was utterly bowled over by the joy and love I > felt > > just sitting and staring at my baby. > > > > > > It sounds like she is a very strong young woman and is wanting > to > > do this on her own. You have to give her credit...she's braver > than I > > would have been at her age. I'll keep her in my thoughts and > prayers! > > > > > > Hope all is well with you!! > > > > > > > > > Beth-Moderator > > > Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 06/08 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > the circle of life > > > > > > > > > > > > i have been very busy with my new great nephew, > > > eli waite. he was born on tues at 10.35pm. my 22yr > > > neice debs is on her own with no mother or partner. > > > her father lives more than 10hrs away and left her > > > mother when she was four anyway to create a new family. > > > > > > she went through most of her labour in her own home > > > alone and her friend came in at the right time and > > > went to hospital with her. i was the first visitor > > > the next day and also collected her from hospital > > > and took them home fri. today she wanted to take her > > > son to my mothers and thats what we done. > > > > > > debs is a pretty prickly person and its been hard for > > > us to help her. she wouldn't let us be with her during > > > her labour or let us get her house ready. she moved > > > in three months ago and managed to create a wee comfy > > > home. the father has visited and will be around but > > > despite us all dropping in, she is on her own. > > > > > > she has humbled me in her joy at her boy. she is > > > breast feeding on demand and never has him out of > > > her arms but for a wee girl who lost her mum at 15 > > > i think she deserves to indulge herself a bit. she > > > is bursting with so much love and delight. > > > > > > joyce of course has never been far from my thoughts > > > since she passed and especially the last few days. > > > one soul leaves and another joins the fray. > > > > > > kerry, thank you for reporting on joyce's memorial. > > > it helps us come to terms with her leaving. you did > > > a very good job. i am glad lucien was comforted by > > > our experiences of joyce. > > > > > > mary-beth, your words regarding joyce were perfect. > > > > > > i am so delighted to hear that kerry and leanne met and were > > > together. both very special people, especially to me. > > > > > > love to everyone, this very specific september. > > > > > > may, scotland > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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