Re: Re: Marti- sons growing up

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Marti

Your situation with your son is one I can sure identify with. I have a 21 year old son who even though he is healthy, is also hard to give advice to. I don't know if it is a comfort to tell you that your son is acting very normal. I remember being 21 and even though I knew what I wanted to do in the future, I really didn't think I had to do it all then. I took 9 year to finish college.

There are some jobs that can give benefits to your son. Not glamorous or very appealing jobs of coarse. Many big grocery stores give bennies to full time staff, the trick is to work full time, they often let people work up to 35 hours a week so they don't qualify. WalMart, even though I refuse to shop there, says all their employees can buy in to health coverage. Light industry shops usually give insurance after 90 days. The rub is having stick to the job. After a job assembling plastic gizmos, college looks even better.

Try coming up with a reason for you and your son to have to spend time together alone. I suggest a road trip. I had to drive mine to work and back- 1 hour each way- for several weeks when his car broke. It was some of the best conversation we had in years, and there was no way he could walk away. We talked about a lot of things, from music, to fishing, our ancestors and his jobs and goals. Let him talk - just listen and comment.

I feel for you Marti, I know I'm glad I'm the one with medical problems instead of my kids.

Take Care

MizKit

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I told today that was feeling confused as we had always been so close and used to talk alot. After the tx we lived by ourselves for 2 weeks in the hospital and then 6 weeks in a hotel room. Now it is a different relationship than we havew had before. I think that he is feeling well for the first time and wants so bad to be completely independent that any suggestions I have he takes as me trying to control him. I told him that as I have gone through alot in my life he could try to listen and than use the info for what it is worth. He said he would try. Marti cmp12305@... wrote: Marti Your situation with your son is one I can sure identify with. I have a 21 year old son who even though he is healthy, is also hard to give advice to. I don't know if it is a comfort to tell you that your son is acting very normal. I remember being 21 and even though I knew what I wanted to do in the future, I really didn't think I had to do it all then. I took 9 year to finish college. There are some jobs that can give benefits to your son. Not glamorous or very appealing jobs of coarse. Many big grocery stores give bennies to full time staff, the trick is to work full time, they often let people work up to 35 hours a week so they don't qualify. WalMart, even though I

refuse to shop there, says all their employees can buy in to health coverage. Light industry shops usually give insurance after 90 days. The rub is having stick to the job. After a job assembling plastic gizmos, college looks even better. Try coming up with a reason for you and your son to have to spend time together alone. I suggest a road trip. I had to drive mine to work and back- 1 hour each way- for several weeks when his car broke. It was some of the best conversation we had in years, and there was no way he could walk away. We talked about a lot of things, from music, to fishing, our ancestors and his jobs and goals. Let him talk - just listen and comment. I feel for you Marti, I know I'm glad I'm the one with medical problems instead of my kids. Take Care MizKit See what's free at AOL.com.

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I told today that was feeling confused as we had always been so close and used to talk alot. After the tx we lived by ourselves for 2 weeks in the hospital and then 6 weeks in a hotel room. Now it is a different relationship than we havew had before. I think that he is feeling well for the first time and wants so bad to be completely independent that any suggestions I have he takes as me trying to control him. I told him that as I have gone through alot in my life he could try to listen and than use the info for what it is worth. He said he would try. Marti cmp12305@... wrote: Marti Your situation with your son is one I can sure identify with. I have a 21 year old son who even though he is healthy, is also hard to give advice to. I don't know if it is a comfort to tell you that your son is acting very normal. I remember being 21 and even though I knew what I wanted to do in the future, I really didn't think I had to do it all then. I took 9 year to finish college. There are some jobs that can give benefits to your son. Not glamorous or very appealing jobs of coarse. Many big grocery stores give bennies to full time staff, the trick is to work full time, they often let people work up to 35 hours a week so they don't qualify. WalMart, even though I

refuse to shop there, says all their employees can buy in to health coverage. Light industry shops usually give insurance after 90 days. The rub is having stick to the job. After a job assembling plastic gizmos, college looks even better. Try coming up with a reason for you and your son to have to spend time together alone. I suggest a road trip. I had to drive mine to work and back- 1 hour each way- for several weeks when his car broke. It was some of the best conversation we had in years, and there was no way he could walk away. We talked about a lot of things, from music, to fishing, our ancestors and his jobs and goals. Let him talk - just listen and comment. I feel for you Marti, I know I'm glad I'm the one with medical problems instead of my kids. Take Care MizKit See what's free at AOL.com.

Looking for earth-friendly autos? Browse Top Cars by "Green Rating" at Yahoo! Autos' Green Center.

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I told today that was feeling confused as we had always been so close and used to talk alot. After the tx we lived by ourselves for 2 weeks in the hospital and then 6 weeks in a hotel room. Now it is a different relationship than we havew had before. I think that he is feeling well for the first time and wants so bad to be completely independent that any suggestions I have he takes as me trying to control him. I told him that as I have gone through alot in my life he could try to listen and than use the info for what it is worth. He said he would try. Marti cmp12305@... wrote: Marti Your situation with your son is one I can sure identify with. I have a 21 year old son who even though he is healthy, is also hard to give advice to. I don't know if it is a comfort to tell you that your son is acting very normal. I remember being 21 and even though I knew what I wanted to do in the future, I really didn't think I had to do it all then. I took 9 year to finish college. There are some jobs that can give benefits to your son. Not glamorous or very appealing jobs of coarse. Many big grocery stores give bennies to full time staff, the trick is to work full time, they often let people work up to 35 hours a week so they don't qualify. WalMart, even though I

refuse to shop there, says all their employees can buy in to health coverage. Light industry shops usually give insurance after 90 days. The rub is having stick to the job. After a job assembling plastic gizmos, college looks even better. Try coming up with a reason for you and your son to have to spend time together alone. I suggest a road trip. I had to drive mine to work and back- 1 hour each way- for several weeks when his car broke. It was some of the best conversation we had in years, and there was no way he could walk away. We talked about a lot of things, from music, to fishing, our ancestors and his jobs and goals. Let him talk - just listen and comment. I feel for you Marti, I know I'm glad I'm the one with medical problems instead of my kids. Take Care MizKit See what's free at AOL.com.

Looking for earth-friendly autos? Browse Top Cars by "Green Rating" at Yahoo! Autos' Green Center.