Guest guest Posted October 9, 2006 Report Share Posted October 9, 2006 No ; it just takes time and patience. I like the New better, although I liked the old like you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 2006 Report Share Posted October 9, 2006 I think positive attitude should be a pill we take every morning, even before getting up. I am trying to find this positive attitude, but I am having a lot of difficult with it. Marisa Steffers wrote: --- kimmy wrote: > Hi Mari, > Yes, a positive attitude is a must!!!! but what about folks who are depressed? I read this all the time - positivve attitude, etc. - not that i dont have one-sometimes--but when we say things like that; well, if someone might not have a positive attitude...or not shoot for happiness...well, it seems to me, that there's room for blaming the victim here - , that is, " you ^didn't^ have a positive attitude and that's why...etc... " and I'm not downing " positive attitude " - but exactly what does that mean? marisa When I > was DX last year, the owner of my business had died > less than 2 months before. I had been left in charge > of the entire business, a bar and restaurant. Then I > found out I had cancer. I was devastated, the owners > wife wanted to sell the business immediately. I told > her NO. I was going to work my way through it with > the least physical and emotional expense on me. I > know everyone is different and has different > priorities, but for me, mastectomy with no other > treatment meant I would be back to work full time > sooner. And that is what happened. Going on 15 > months later, we have done over 12,000.00 worth of > renovations and 2 weeks ago she asked me to be a > 50/50 partner for the price of 1.00. > A positive attitude and faith in oneself is > important. But most important to remeber is that If > God brings you to it, He will bring you through it. > AND.....everthing happens for a reason. We often > question those happennings and are bewildered by the > reasons. but it all works out if you have faith. > peace....................kimmy > P.S. I am glad to have an " antique " show me > guidance and share her wisdom. You are a valuable > asset to this site. > > Mari wrote: > Hi all, > > I don't post much because I'm such an antique. I had > bc 21 and 18 > years ago, had a modified radical each time. I > didn't have any > radiation, and chemo was just in the infant stages, > but they said I > didn't need it anyway. I was back to work in 3 weeks > the first time, 2 > weeks the second time. Have lived a normal, although > crazy life since. > I'm extremely active all day, travel, work, etc. > I'll go Kimmy one > better and say I never get a mammogram any more. The > best bonus is I > lose 5 pounds (well maybe a little less) each night > when I remove my > prosthesis, :-D > > Now on the serious side, I was scared to death when > diagnosed. My > Mom had passed on from bc. I was sure I was going > the same route. My > doctor said, " Yes, it's serious, but 96% of my > patients are still here > and living full lives " . Remember, this was over 20 > years ago. I was 39 > and scared to death that I wouldn't be here to spend > my life with my > hubby and to see my 2 boys grow to manhood. When the > surgeon said this, > it turned my thoughts 180º toward fighting it and > living. Now mind you > this was without all the wonderful and numerous > treatments which are > available today. My best advice is your attitude, > keep it positive. If > you're depressed, please get help. Most of all, > please know that every > one of the lovely ladies here on this list are here > for you! > > My prayers and blessings are being send your way > each and every day! > > >And they only had to squish one boob!!!! Now there > is a silver lining if I ever saw one!! > > Angel (A.K.A. Mari) > mfgershman@... > > Please click each day to help others, IT'S FREE! > > http://www.thebreastcancersite.com/cgi-bin/WebObjects/CTDSites > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Do you Yahoo!? > Get on board. You're invited to try the new Yahoo! > Mail. > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 2006 Report Share Posted October 9, 2006 Amen to that. I feel like the person, the I knew, has died and now I have to get to know someone else. The problem is that I was quite happy and I liked the person who died. What do I do with this one now? And I am seeing a therapist... Does anyone know a shortcut? ruthiema36 wrote: Bless you Marisa. I am still looking for my inner Polly . She can be quite illusive! I think we go through stages just as if a loved one has died. Everyone goes through the stages, denial, barganing, depression/anger and finally acceptance at their own rate. Some might say, " Well you have just lost a physical part you are still you so what does it matter " . Well it does matter not only the physical part you lost but all the hopes and dreams that may have gone out the window because of this condition and that loss. Ruth > > Hi all, > > > > I don't post much because I'm such an antique. I had > > bc 21 and 18 > > years ago, had a modified radical each time. I > > didn't have any > > radiation, and chemo was just in the infant stages, > > but they said I > > didn't need it anyway. I was back to work in 3 weeks > > the first time, 2 > > weeks the second time. Have lived a normal, although > > crazy life since. > > I'm extremely active all day, travel, work, etc. > > I'll go Kimmy one > > better and say I never get a mammogram any more. The > > best bonus is I > > lose 5 pounds (well maybe a little less) each night > > when I remove my > > prosthesis, :-D > > > > Now on the serious side, I was scared to death when > > diagnosed. My > > Mom had passed on from bc. I was sure I was going > > the same route. My > > doctor said, " Yes, it's serious, but 96% of my > > patients are still here > > and living full lives " . Remember, this was over 20 > > years ago. I was 39 > > and scared to death that I wouldn't be here to spend > > my life with my > > hubby and to see my 2 boys grow to manhood. When the > > surgeon said this, > > it turned my thoughts 180º toward fighting it and > > living. Now mind you > > this was without all the wonderful and numerous > > treatments which are > > available today. My best advice is your attitude, > > keep it positive. If > > you're depressed, please get help. Most of all, > > please know that every > > one of the lovely ladies here on this list are here > > for you! > > > > My prayers and blessings are being send your way > > each and every day! > > > > >And they only had to squish one boob!!!! Now there > > is a silver lining if I ever saw one!! > > > > Angel (A.K.A. Mari) > > mfgershman@... > > > > Please click each day to help others, IT'S FREE! > > > > > http://www.thebreastcancersite.com/cgi-bin/WebObjects/CTDSites > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > removed] > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Do you Yahoo!? > > Get on board. You're invited to try the new Yahoo! > > Mail. > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > removed] > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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