Re: Life after VVS Surgery - Millie

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or Millie Goodman wrote: >>>>>>>sex has been okay for me these past 15 years, but I use alot of cream with sex. Is this the norm with most of the woman who have had this surgery. Thanks, Millie Millie, I was just gonna throw in that a good reason for the lack of lubrication might be where you had your ovaries removed. The ovaries are the main producers of our female sex hormones and the loss of hormones really impacts our ability to make our own lubrication. I am only 35

and I ALWAYS use lub (and I still have my ovaries)...I would not let my hubby near me without it! I'd say most of us with vulvar pain use some kind of lubrication, it's better to do that then to risk too much friction against our sensitive skin. Did you have a good vacation?!!! ~Chelle

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or Millie Goodman wrote: >>>>>The other is I have always been scared when I have sex of the skin breaking open because I was reconstructed and the cream, I don't know makes me feel like I am creating a buffer to protect the skin. With me if I don't have sex say regularly at least once a week, when my husband and myself resume sex it is a little painful. I guess we all have different stories. Millie You're right, Millie, we

all do have different stories, but in alot of ways they are the same. I certainly understand your fears concerning your skin. Especially since you were reconstructed in the vulvar area. When you've experienced vulvar pain it totally makes sex different and fear of pain is so understandable because many of us have experienced that often. I have no clue what spontaneity is anymore...I have to rub on two different kinds lidocaine before sex, and I have the Femglide (lub) within arms reach, and go extremely slow, etc., but guess what? It works! I don't even care anymore about spontaneity...I am just so grateful to be able to be with my husband now after many years of pain I'd prep for 30 minutes if I had too! *grin* Just know you are not alone in your fears or concerns.... and by the way, I'm glad you had a great vacation! Hugs, Chelle