Re: Geeta

[Guest guest]

Geeta

I think the reading of your poem shows the incredible power of the

internet and this forum when used for good. Most of us would have never

known Joyce and certainly not known you without it. To see those who

live on opposite sides of the globe connecting in such real, meaningful

ways is very special. Yes, we share pain sometimes but we share joy and

hearts and souls and life. We have the opportunity to be touched by so

many. We make friends from different countries, different walks of life,

different age groups and ultimately find how small those differences are

and how similar the human emotions and challenges and hearts are.

> >

> > I haven't posted because what can I possibly say... yet I feel I

> > need to share at least a few things. My husband luckily took the

> > call when Lucian called to tell me Joyce had passed. When I did

> > speak with him personally I can't tell you how tough yet wonderful

> > the conversation was. He really needed me and all of us to know

> > that Joyce went the way he and she had prayed she would, in peace,

> > without pain and with family around. He said it was like a

> whisper

> > and she was gone. After telling him what a treat it was to

> witness

> > a couple who so clearly loved each other, but really liked each

> > other. Lucian said that when Joyce could barely speak she still

> > took the time and made the effort to take his hand and say, " you

> are

> > so good to me " . Do you need any simpler example of what a good

> > woman Joyce was at loving, appreciating and expressing it and

> doing

> > so when it meant the most. Did I mention these two were just

> > wonderful together, a pair that was perfect for each other. In

> the

> > following days I kept checking to see if I could do anything to

> > help. Nothing was needed, but even so I wanted to visit w/

> Lucian.

> > I called to tell Lucian I was coming over and he said he had

> > received a card from Blue Bell, PA and I immediately said oh, from

> > Zion. He laughed and said yes. He said he was really

> having

> > a tough morning and the girls had both headed out for the day when

> > he opened 's card and it made him laugh. He had no idea we

> > referred to Joyce as the Queen. If ever you think that those

> cards

> > or contact with people don't make a difference know they do.

> Lucian

> > said he had been trying to think about what to say at the service

> > and here a woman he had never met had painted a picture

> eloquently.

> > At that moment I realized there was something I could do. In

> > mourning the loss of my mother one of the most powerful and

> > rewarding experiences was to talk to others who knew her. From

> > childhood friends to new friends, neighbors, doctors and support

> > group members (my mother was a breast cancer survivor). I decided

> > to bring Lucian a small sampling of the board members comments

> about

> > Joyce. I tried to give a sampling of newer members, long time

> > members, different ways of expressing our feelings. I printed

> ones

> > from across the country and across the world to show the impact

> this

> > one woman that he loved had. I knew some had sent cards and he

> had

> > spoken to Peggy, Leanne and I. I brought him individual posts

> from

> > Caro, Ken, Joy, , , and Geeta. I took them to him and

> > read them aloud. I can't tell you how much Geeta's post and poem

> > touched me. I had the most difficult time reading it to him, but

> > obviously it touched him. Lucian said he wanted to speak today if

> > he could find the strength. He was wonderful and I was so proud

> of

> > him. He told the entire gathering about 's card and how it

> > made him laugh, he told about the group and what it meant to

> Joyce.

> > He told about the Foundation and how Leanne was there. He used

> > comments from us including that I told him I could print him

> > thousands of pages and never sum the feelings of the group, he

> spoke

> > of Peggy's longing to be there, and quoted all the posts I gave

> him

> > and closed w/ Geeta's poem. Joyce's pastor officiated the service

> > and it was beautiful. As I sobed for my loss I tried to focus on

> > the beauty of the stained glass in front of me, the fantastic

> > portrait of Joyce and the beautiful flowers the voices of Joyces

> > church members poured in from the back. They sang there acapella

> > and were stunning! Oh, and Vicky's daisy's that she requested

> > Leanne pick from my garden were hand delivered on her behalf. We

> > spent the next couple hours visiting w/ Joyce's friends and family

> > in her home and shared the good cooking of her church family.

> Today

> > has been an emotional day. I left Lucian w/ a couple dates

> planned

> > for walks in the park, breakfasts, lunches and coffee's. I will

> > continue to enjoy my relationship w/ the Dalton family. Please

> know

> > that they appreciate all of you and would be happy that you have

> now

> > shared in the day.

> >

> > Good night,

> > Kerry

> >

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