Re: Re: [OT - - play therapy

March 4, 2008

Darlene,

Little girls at 8.5 have mother daughter issues period. my daughter have had up

and down moments but we are always close. Fortunately or unfortunatately my

daughter has alwys shared everything with me... even thosethings I wish she

didn't but I;m glad she feels she can. She has some leaning disabilities but is

very smart so school has always been stressful. Also girls hormones start

kicking in early and if you watch you can start tracking when their future menes

will be. I taught preschool for years and you could start seeing it even then,

It you start putting it on a calander you'll find it. As for your son, I wish I

could say he doesn't sound like an adult man ...but we all know we raise our

sons to be men and then they meet a girl and revert to that 2yr old again.LOL

You just hang in there and give then love and it will all work out.

JudyMer.

---- ddean228 wrote:

> ,

> I have a foot bath soak and can see if an epsom salt soak would help

> me at all; DH is all for anything that will help the pain.

>

> As for the play therapy, my DH and I adopted 2 special needs kids

> (fraternal twins, boy and girl, now 8.5 yrs old). He has MMR and full

> FAS and an unspecified emotional disturbance; she has partial FAS

> (more behavioral than anything, but much improved) and was dx'd with

> RAD due to the severe neglect and abuse they suffered at the hands of

> their bio mom until they were removed into care at age 5.5. For the

> next year and half, they were in a foster home that catered to

> sexually abused teens so they got basic care, but that was all. They

> didn't get dx'd until they moved in with us on their 7th birthday and

> our caseworker and my DH and I realized that there were " issues " .

>

> Despite the issues, we felt that they had been " led " to us and that

> we had the means and abilities to handle things. Of course, me going

> out on medical disability NEVER figured into that *however* it has

> been good in one aspect because he is not good at transitions so me

> picking them up and dropping them off provides continuity. Plus no

> daycare means no excessive noises, etc., which seems to send him far

> far away.

>

> I feel that the play therapy is helping my daughter. She and I have a

> few issues; mostly because it was her bio mom who did all the abuse

> and of course, when it comes down to it, I'm a mom who can handle

> life (most days) so she has anger over that, I can take care of both

> of them (even at my sickest, they are taken care of), their bio mom

> couldn't......but my hospitalization in January really helped out too

> because she realized just how much I loved her. As I told her, I

> couldn't " have " her like a mommy normally would but she's no less my

> daughter than the two sons I gave birth to and I will do what it

> takes for her to get beyond the hell she experienced so we can have

> that mother/daughter bond we should have.

>

> Gosh that was long. Did it answer your question? My son has

> developmental delays - he is about 5-6 on good days, 3-4 on bad days.

> She is pretty much 8.5 all the time.

>

> Darlene

>

> > >Well, we know that I was in horrible fibro flare Saturday so I

> won't

> > > > repeat all that jazz. Suffice it to say that I switched my

> > >diuretic

> > > > back to Lasix (40 mg) on Saturday to attempt to help the

> swelling.

> > >I

> > > > took 2 on Sunday (have been up to 120 mg so figured 80 was

> okay),

> > > > drank about 1/2 gallon of water or better, stuck with only 1

> soft

> > > > drink (diet coke) and kept them propped as much as possible.

> > > >

> > > > By bedtime last night, from the knees down, my legs were bruised

> > >and

> > > > still swollen from whatever is causing them to swell. DH woke me

> > >up

> > > > this morning around 4 am because my breathing was off so I got

> up

> > >and

> > > > my swelling is down (I can ALMOST see my ankle bones) ***but***

> my

> > > > feet are so beyond tender from how swollen they are that it may

> be

> > >20

> > > > degrees outside (I am not really sure) but flip flops are going

> to

> > > > be " my friend " .

> > > >

> > > > I will also be babying them today because I know they hurt so

> bad

> > >due

> > > > to how badly they were swollen. I am staying on the lasix too

> and

> > > > calling the doctor and telling him I made an " executive

> decision " .

> > > > They have GOT to find me something that works, at least until we

> > >get

> > > > the testing for the lower body extremities blockages done. I

> > >cannot

> > > > put my family through what I went thru this weekend. I was at my

> > >last

> > > > edge of impatience with my kids and DH. All I wanted to do was

> > >cry.

> > > > I went ahead this morning and took a naproxyn because I know

> > >there's

> > > > still inflammation. For heavens sake, there is still an extra 10

> > >lbs

> > > > of fluid on me somewhere (although I think the steroids are not

> > > > helping either - think Tim in " The Santa Clause " and how

> his

> > > > face just poofed up!).

> > > >

> > > > Anyhow, I wanted to give an update. Thanks to everyone for their

> > > > ecards and well wishes and tips. I have them saved and can only

> > >pray

> > > > there won't be a " next time " when I swell so badly it brings on

> a

> > > > fibro flare like that. I'll take the twinges any day!

> > > >

> > > > As for the Lyrica, I am on a 150 mg dose and haven't noticed any

> > > > weight gain. Mine is coming from the extremity swelling, as well

> > >as

> > > > massive amounts of steroids for my COPD. My doctor is going to

> > >have

> > > > to find " another way " to keep my lungs open and clear!

> > > >

> > > > (((Hugs to all; have a great Monday))))

> > > > Darlene

> > > >

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March 4, 2008