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Negative Thinking

 

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Negative Thinking

‘Negativitis’

cripples the human spirit

Does

it seem strange that some people COMPLAIN they don’t have enough TIME

to be happy, yet they find enough time to be sad? Not really. You see,

their deplorable plight has nothing to do with having sufficient or

insufficient time. It has everything to do with complaining. After all,

complaining is the negation of happiness. It’s impossible to complain

and be happy at the same time.

So,

beware of that insidious disease known as ‘negativitis’ (negative

thinking). It is as pervasive as the common cold, but far more

damaging. It mutilates, cripples, and corrodes the human spirit. Those

infected by it are broken men and women aimlessly plodding along. The

dark clouds brooding over them obscure their vision and cause them to

become confrontational, apathetic, and cynical. Their lives are like

flat champagne, without any sizzle. So, how do we inoculate ourselves

against such a harmful disease? It was only after learning about the

horrible effects of smoking that people began to give it up. It may be

wise to do the same here. So, let’s review the effects of negativitis.

1.

Complaining is worse than doing nothing, for it is digging the rut one

is in deeper and deeper. Each time one complains, it becomes

increasingly difficult to climb out of the ditch they’ve created. To

loosen the grip of this vicious habit, we need to become aware of our

complaining, stop it in its tracks, and immediately look for something

positive to say. It’s just a matter of replacing a bad habit with a

good one.

2. A

negative attitude is self-defeating. We won’t find solutions to life’s

problems by looking for someone or something to blame. Those who say,

"Positive thinking doesn't work for me," have got it backwards. It’s

not positive thinking that has to work; YOU have to work. For example,

you have to work at appreciating what you have instead of moaning about

what you lack.

3.

Failure to do what you want to do (be happy) causes physical and mental

stress. A rotten attitude, not only delays success, but also shortens

life by damaging the immune system (to learn more on how your thoughts

affect your immune system, investigate psychoneuroimmunology). So,

besides the diseases directly caused by stress, such as heart disease

and ulcers, we become susceptible to all manner of other diseases

because of a weakened immune system.

4. Do

you know anyone with a negative attitude? How many years have they been

that way? Two years? Five years? Ten years? That’s how many years of

happiness and success they have robbed themselves of. Blinded by their

own negativity, they are prevented from seeing the good around them.

5. One

characteristic of negative thinkers is their need to have the world

behave according to their wishes. They have never grown up and still

live with childish demands. Whenever people and the world fail to act

according to their selfish wishes, they are unhappy. Such a poisonous

attitude prevents them from growing and learning how to cope with

life's challenges.

6.

Everything negative we say about ourselves to ourselves (self-talk) and

to others is a suggestion. We are unwittingly practicing self-hypnosis,

programing ourselves for failure, and creating self-fulfilling

prophecies.

7. The

negative world of our imagination creates a negative world that is real

and one that we are forced to live in. Take Ralph, for example. He’s

always complaining about life. “Nowadays people are rude and surly. No

matter where you go or what you do, you have to deal with ill-bred

people.†As he said this, we made our way to a coffee shop. Once

inside, we were greeted by a cheerful chap who asked us what we would

like. Sighing (as if it took a great effect to speak), Ralph, almost

inaudibly, ordered a medium sized regular coffee. When it arrived, he

started complaining. Pointing to the cup, he said, “This is medium?â€

Without waiting for a response, he added, “You should have told me your

cups are so small; I would have ordered a large one if I knew.†Despite

the long line that Ralph was holding up, the man behind the counter

tried to be patient. Without complaint, he took away the small coffee

and replaced it with a large one. As soon as it arrived, Ralph looked

at it aghast and bellowed, “You call this regular? There’s not enough

cream!†The man behind the counter, who only moments ago was cheerful

was now upset and sarcastically replied, “Yes, for MOST people, this is

regular, but if you INSIST, I’ll put in more cream. Perhaps next time

you may want to ask for DOUBLE cream!†I was next, so I got my coffee

and joined Ralph at the table. “See,†he told me, “what did I say to

you? People are rude.†Yes, in Ralph’s world, people ARE rude, but what

he does not realize is he makes them so.

8. A

particularly pernicious effect of ‘negativitis’ is that it sets one up

for the mentality of a victim. Those with a woe-is-me attitude sit

around in misery, waiting to be rescued. But they wait in vain because

no one can rescue them from their own attitude. They are the only ones

who can change it. And until they do so, they are condemned to continue

suffering.

9.

Another adverse effect of negativity is that it sets one up for the

magic-bullet-syndrome. That is, the victim of ‘negativitis’ spends

their time looking for a quick, easy fix, when none exists. By denying

a fundamental law of life that states anything worthwhile requires

effort to achieve, they achieve nothing. They won’t make progress until

they realize that nothing in life is free. They’ve got to be willing to

do what it takes to get what they want.

10.

Also, beware of the fact that negative people attract other

complainers. Because those who live in a world of doom and gloom

alienate others, they have no choice but to look for other negative

people to associate with. They then feed off one another and get locked

in a clique of losers.

11.

The constant stress that flows from a negative attitude also saps one’s

energy, focus, and motivation. It is hardly a formula for success.

12.

Also of great concern is the fact that those who refuse to work on

improving their negative attitude may slide into depression, self-pity,

and hopelessness.

13.

Additionally, negative people not only harm themselves; they harm the

world. They cease to make a contribution to it. Instead of helping,

they spread gloom and misery everywhere. If they insist on infecting

others, why not infect them with laughter? If they must carry something

contagious, why not carry a smile?

Imagine

being in a small boat drifting in a river. And imagine being unaware

that your boat has a motor. As long as you fail to use that motor you

will be a captive of the river. You will be a prisoner without any

control over your destination. Yet, the boat that we’re in does have a

motor. We can use it to change course. That motor is our power of

choice. All we have to do is choose to look for the good, for when we

do so, that is all we will find!

© Chuck Gallozzi

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