Guest guest Posted February 28, 2011 Report Share Posted February 28, 2011 Well, this just clarifies your maternal nature to me. What a loving daughter and grand daughter you've been!I didn't know there was a nursing home pageant! lol!A boyfriend AND the gift shop? Wow, what a mover and a shaker!love,KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Sun, February 27, 2011 4:45:22 PMSubject: Re: dad visit Thanks Kate:) I took care of my maternal grandmother til her death, then my dad til his death. I took care of my mom until she got so ill I couldn't take care of her myself anymore and I found a good nursing home. I was so distraught the day she went to the nursing home and filled with guilt. But it turned out to be a good thing for her because they were able to regulate her medications and she had several really good years in the nursing home before she died. Mom had a good life at the nursing home, made many friends, had a boyfriend and managed the gift shop. She was also named third runner up in the Ms. Arizona Nursing Home Pageant. Anyway, I am rambling! I'm fortunate to have been able to meet you too. And that's the truth!loveSharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sun, February 27, 2011 5:34:49 AMSubject: Re: dad visit Wow, Sharon. That's a heavy burden to care for both your dad and your grandmother. You have been a nurture-r for a very long time. Yes, the sound is horrific. Sounds like he's drowning almost.I feel so blessed to know you.love,KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 8:51:02 PMSubject: Re: dad visit My dad and my grandmother both had CHF (I took care of them) and it's a sound you just never forget. hugs to you and prayers for your dad SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 5:18:47 PMSubject: Re: dad visit Really? Thanks for the heads-up on that, Sharon. I thought for sure it was the pneumonia.love,KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 6:06:58 PMSubject: Re: dad visit Did he have a "watery" sound when he coughed? If so that's the congestive heart failure. SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 1:38:44 PMSubject: Re: dad visit No, no stroke. It's just the pneumonia I believe has made it difficult to breathe, as well asswallow--at least that's what they make it sound like. He has COPD and CHF in addition to the pneumonia. He kept asking, are these all your kids? lol. He couldn't believe I had so many! I didn't even have Lia with me!I am so glad we went to visit!love, KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 3:31:30 PMSubject: Re: dad visit I'm so glad you had such a wonderful, happy visit with your dad!! It made me smile reading all about it. What does his doc say about the cough? Has your dad had a stroke? I know that can cause the swallowing problems because that's what happened with my dad. hugs SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 8:37:56 AMSubject: dad visit Well. It went well.When we arrived in his room, he was in his easy chair with his head thrown back and his mouth opened wide and snoring. It took some time to rouse him. He was slow to know what was going on, but that's to be expected when you're nearly 88. He kept counting us (there were 6 of us--Lloyd and me, and 4 of the 5 kids). He has a chant of--Kara, Lia, Luke, , , so he knows the kids names by heart. But matching names to faces proved a challenge for him. I always like to brag that I picked a good name, , for my 3rd daughter--that's my maiden name, so obviously my dad's last name. My 22 year old daughter had him remembering the song, Pony Boy, he used to croon to each one of the kids while gently bouncing them on his knee. He sang it, and just about recalled all the words! I was impressed. He seemed in good spirits, which was a real blessing to me and all of us. The only major concern I have is the cough. It's wicked bad. Sounds like he's gargling when he coughs. I don't know if I mentioned the other day, but they have now had to thicken the liquids he drinks, and puree his food. He's been having trouble swallowing. All in all a good visit. I thank each of you for your prayers, good wishes and thoughts as I went down to PA to see him. I'm going to call the nursing home later to find out how he's doing.love to all,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2011 Report Share Posted February 28, 2011 No, they haven't done anything like that. I know there is a type of therapy called cupping and clapping. I think they should do that for him to try and loosen up the fluid. I could be wrong. Maybe he's too old and frail to do that on him.Thanks for sharing about Steve's dad.love you my friend,KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Sun, February 27, 2011 9:25:33 AMSubject: Re: dad visit Hi Kate,....Steve's dad also had the same type of coughing your dad has, and when it got too hard for him to cough up the fluid, they suctioned it out for him. Have they tried that with your dad? Its not a very pleasent thing to have done, but it helps. Hugs, Jackie Subject: Re: dad visitTo: MSersLife Date: Sunday, February 27, 2011, 4:34 AM Wow, Sharon. That's a heavy burden to care for both your dad and your grandmother. You have been a nurture-r for a very long time. Yes, the sound is horrific. Sounds like he's drowning almost.I feel so blessed to know you.love,Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 8:51:02 PMSubject: Re: dad visit My dad and my grandmother both had CHF (I took care of them) and it's a sound you just never forget. hugs to you and prayers for your dad SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 5:18:47 PMSubject: Re: dad visit Really? Thanks for the heads-up on that, Sharon. I thought for sure it was the pneumonia.love,Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 6:06:58 PMSubject: Re: dad visit Did he have a "watery" sound when he coughed? If so that's the congestive heart failure. SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 1:38:44 PMSubject: Re: dad visit No, no stroke. It's just the pneumonia I believe has made it difficult to breathe, as well asswallow--at least that's what they make it sound like. He has COPD and CHF in addition to the pneumonia. He kept asking, are these all your kids? lol. He couldn't believe I had so many! I didn't even have Lia with me!I am so glad we went to visit!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 3:31:30 PMSubject: Re: dad visit I'm so glad you had such a wonderful, happy visit with your dad!! It made me smile reading all about it. What does his doc say about the cough? Has your dad had a stroke? I know that can cause the swallowing problems because that's what happened with my dad. hugs SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 8:37:56 AMSubject: dad visit Well. It went well.When we arrived in his room, he was in his easy chair with his head thrown back and his mouth opened wide and snoring. It took some time to rouse him. He was slow to know what was going on, but that's to be expected when you're nearly 88. He kept counting us (there were 6 of us--Lloyd and me, and 4 of the 5 kids). He has a chant of--Kara, Lia, Luke, , , so he knows the kids names by heart. But matching names to faces proved a challenge for him. I always like to brag that I picked a good name, , for my 3rd daughter--that's my maiden name, so obviously my dad's last name. My 22 year old daughter had him remembering the song, Pony Boy, he used to croon to each one of the kids while gently bouncing them on his knee. He sang it, and just about recalled all the words! I was impressed. He seemed in good spirits, which was a real blessing to me and all of us. The only major concern I have is the cough. It's wicked bad. Sounds like he's gargling when he coughs. I don't know if I mentioned the other day, but they have now had to thicken the liquids he drinks, and puree his food. He's been having trouble swallowing. All in all a good visit. I thank each of you for your prayers, good wishes and thoughts as I went down to PA to see him. I'm going to call the nursing home later to find out how he's doing.love to all,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2011 Report Share Posted February 28, 2011 No, they haven't done anything like that. I know there is a type of therapy called cupping and clapping. I think they should do that for him to try and loosen up the fluid. I could be wrong. Maybe he's too old and frail to do that on him.Thanks for sharing about Steve's dad.love you my friend,KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Sun, February 27, 2011 9:25:33 AMSubject: Re: dad visit Hi Kate,....Steve's dad also had the same type of coughing your dad has, and when it got too hard for him to cough up the fluid, they suctioned it out for him. Have they tried that with your dad? Its not a very pleasent thing to have done, but it helps. Hugs, Jackie Subject: Re: dad visitTo: MSersLife Date: Sunday, February 27, 2011, 4:34 AM Wow, Sharon. That's a heavy burden to care for both your dad and your grandmother. You have been a nurture-r for a very long time. Yes, the sound is horrific. Sounds like he's drowning almost.I feel so blessed to know you.love,Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 8:51:02 PMSubject: Re: dad visit My dad and my grandmother both had CHF (I took care of them) and it's a sound you just never forget. hugs to you and prayers for your dad SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 5:18:47 PMSubject: Re: dad visit Really? Thanks for the heads-up on that, Sharon. I thought for sure it was the pneumonia.love,Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 6:06:58 PMSubject: Re: dad visit Did he have a "watery" sound when he coughed? If so that's the congestive heart failure. SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 1:38:44 PMSubject: Re: dad visit No, no stroke. It's just the pneumonia I believe has made it difficult to breathe, as well asswallow--at least that's what they make it sound like. He has COPD and CHF in addition to the pneumonia. He kept asking, are these all your kids? lol. He couldn't believe I had so many! I didn't even have Lia with me!I am so glad we went to visit!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 3:31:30 PMSubject: Re: dad visit I'm so glad you had such a wonderful, happy visit with your dad!! It made me smile reading all about it. What does his doc say about the cough? Has your dad had a stroke? I know that can cause the swallowing problems because that's what happened with my dad. hugs SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 8:37:56 AMSubject: dad visit Well. It went well.When we arrived in his room, he was in his easy chair with his head thrown back and his mouth opened wide and snoring. It took some time to rouse him. He was slow to know what was going on, but that's to be expected when you're nearly 88. He kept counting us (there were 6 of us--Lloyd and me, and 4 of the 5 kids). He has a chant of--Kara, Lia, Luke, , , so he knows the kids names by heart. But matching names to faces proved a challenge for him. I always like to brag that I picked a good name, , for my 3rd daughter--that's my maiden name, so obviously my dad's last name. My 22 year old daughter had him remembering the song, Pony Boy, he used to croon to each one of the kids while gently bouncing them on his knee. He sang it, and just about recalled all the words! I was impressed. He seemed in good spirits, which was a real blessing to me and all of us. The only major concern I have is the cough. It's wicked bad. Sounds like he's gargling when he coughs. I don't know if I mentioned the other day, but they have now had to thicken the liquids he drinks, and puree his food. He's been having trouble swallowing. All in all a good visit. I thank each of you for your prayers, good wishes and thoughts as I went down to PA to see him. I'm going to call the nursing home later to find out how he's doing.love to all,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2011 Report Share Posted February 28, 2011 that was what I was going to suggest - got distracted I think it is CF that this is done oxygen and having his bed or lazboy positional will help tooGod, grant me the strength of eagles wings, the faith and courage to fly to new heights, and the wisdom to rely on his spirit to carry me there. To: MSersLife Sent: Mon, February 28, 2011 7:32:40 AMSubject: Re: dad visit No, they haven't done anything like that. I know there is a type of therapy called cupping and clapping. I think they should do that for him to try and loosen up the fluid. I could be wrong. Maybe he's too old and frail to do that on him.Thanks for sharing about Steve's dad.love you my friend,Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sun, February 27, 2011 9:25:33 AMSubject: Re: dad visit Hi Kate,....Steve's dad also had the same type of coughing your dad has, and when it got too hard for him to cough up the fluid, they suctioned it out for him. Have they tried that with your dad? Its not a very pleasent thing to have done, but it helps. Hugs, Jackie Subject: Re: dad visitTo: MSersLife Date: Sunday, February 27, 2011, 4:34 AM Wow, Sharon. That's a heavy burden to care for both your dad and your grandmother. You have been a nurture-r for a very long time. Yes, the sound is horrific. Sounds like he's drowning almost.I feel so blessed to know you.love,Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 8:51:02 PMSubject: Re: dad visit My dad and my grandmother both had CHF (I took care of them) and it's a sound you just never forget. hugs to you and prayers for your dad SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 5:18:47 PMSubject: Re: dad visit Really? Thanks for the heads-up on that, Sharon. I thought for sure it was the pneumonia.love,Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 6:06:58 PMSubject: Re: dad visit Did he have a "watery" sound when he coughed? If so that's the congestive heart failure. SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 1:38:44 PMSubject: Re: dad visit No, no stroke. It's just the pneumonia I believe has made it difficult to breathe, as well asswallow--at least that's what they make it sound like. He has COPD and CHF in addition to the pneumonia. He kept asking, are these all your kids? lol. He couldn't believe I had so many! I didn't even have Lia with me!I am so glad we went to visit!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 3:31:30 PMSubject: Re: dad visit I'm so glad you had such a wonderful, happy visit with your dad!! It made me smile reading all about it. What does his doc say about the cough? Has your dad had a stroke? I know that can cause the swallowing problems because that's what happened with my dad. hugs SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Sat, February 26, 2011 8:37:56 AMSubject: dad visit Well. It went well.When we arrived in his room, he was in his easy chair with his head thrown back and his mouth opened wide and snoring. It took some time to rouse him. He was slow to know what was going on, but that's to be expected when you're nearly 88. He kept counting us (there were 6 of us--Lloyd and me, and 4 of the 5 kids). He has a chant of--Kara, Lia, Luke, , , so he knows the kids names by heart. But matching names to faces proved a challenge for him. I always like to brag that I picked a good name, , for my 3rd daughter--that's my maiden name, so obviously my dad's last name. My 22 year old daughter had him remembering the song, Pony Boy, he used to croon to each one of the kids while gently bouncing them on his knee. He sang it, and just about recalled all the words! I was impressed. He seemed in good spirits, which was a real blessing to me and all of us. The only major concern I have is the cough. It's wicked bad. Sounds like he's gargling when he coughs. I don't know if I mentioned the other day, but they have now had to thicken the liquids he drinks, and puree his food. He's been having trouble swallowing. All in all a good visit. I thank each of you for your prayers, good wishes and thoughts as I went down to PA to see him. I'm going to call the nursing home later to find out how he's doing.love to all,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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