Re: Re: Tina - pain free sex

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Hi Melinda,

Congrats on your progress thus far. However, I would like to

say that so far as I am concerned, pain free sex isn't good

enough. My goal, and I'm not saying this isn't yours too, is to

have enjoyable, pleasant, sex. I have clitoral pain with

vulvodynia, and for me anyhow, not being able to have an orgasm

is not an acceptable way to spend the rest of my life; bad

enough to spend anytime in this predicament.

When I saw a GYN recently, her biggest concern seemed to be that

I would not be afraid to have sexual intercourse. Well thank

goodness I have an understanding husband, because I have no

intention of having sexual intercourse until my pain recedes.

I can see you are working hard on your healing and wish you the

best of luck. This is a tough journey, so hopefully we will get

there somehow. I found your candid sharing very helpful.

Janet

--- spanishmiss430 wrote:

> Tina,

> I think there are more than a few of us who have been able to

> achieve

> pain free sex, although many who do tend to leave the group. I

> can

> generally have pain free sex now, although I will say I am

> sore

> afterwards sometimes, usually only if it's been a while. All

> the more

> motivation to do it often. =) I think success really varies

> from

> person to person and it's a big puzzle with a lot of pieces.

> No one

> thing fixed me. I have LP. I had to change my diet (give up

> gluten),

> get PT weekly for a long time, do exercises at home, go to a

> chiropractor, use topical hormones and OTC lubrication like

> emu oil,

> and work a lot on changing my attitude (I still have to work

> on this

> every day) - people don't realize how much positive or

> negative

> energy impacts our bodies. I have to really meditate often on

> healing

> scriptures, even now, as the LP is still active under the

> clitoral

> hood (so I can have intercourse, but not orgasm). Hope this is

>

> helpful...it was a very rough time in my marriage as

> well...there

> were years where sex was very infrequent and painful, and then

> a flat-

> out year of no sex, more or less, so I understand. Most

> helpful was

> talking to my husband so he understood it wasn't him, and it

> wasn't

> ME really, it was just a medical condition. And also my PT

> gave him

> exercises he could do with me to help, and then he felt like

> he was

> able to do something to fix the problem - men like to be able

> to fix

> things. =)

> Melinda