Guest guest Posted April 7, 2008 Report Share Posted April 7, 2008 Well, after a long trip on Saturday to deal with details of a summer trip for my son we went to church on Sunday to find out Nic lost a classmate the night before. Nic is a senior so two months before graduation they lost this 18 year old kid to a roll over. It's hit our small community hard. He was popular and his family is a force in this area. His daddy owns a lot of land here. He was the only son and only grandson of this family. It's a rough day at school too. My daughter has wrote me and said it's a very quiet and sad day there. It sure is a wake up to have this happen. You got to hold tight and make sure your loved ones know how much you care. This boy had so much ahead not it is suppose to be one of the most joyful time of life for this senior class and then this happens. Sad and difficult times here. Tammi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2008 Report Share Posted April 7, 2008 Tammi, I've been there way too many times with my kids. It's so hard with teenagers because in general they don't want to talk about anything. Make them talk. Making them verbalize what is going through their mind gives you a better sense of whether they need outside help or not. Validate all their emotions. While sadness is a given; let them know anger is also very natural and ok for them to feel. Sometimes they berate themselves for the anger feelings they have. Don't put off getting outside help. One of my mistakes with my daughter was thinking she was ok after a classmate and friend committed suicide. A year later she had ZERO class units. She shut down and I had to change schools for her to get it back. If you can't afford outside help call the local juvenile authority; they generally have counselors there that can help. Something like a classmate's death falls under the school/community jurisdiction. You child can usually get individual or group sessions there. If you have any other questions, please don't hesitate to ask. As I said, I've been through it more times than I can even count with my 5 kids. Angie Harley Mama Double-D Carson City, NV; Single, five children (3 at home), 2 dogs, 4 cats, snow skiing, camping, Harley Rider, Lone Wolf, Blue Thong Society/High Sierra Thong Snappers member, LFA Advocate, independent, opinionated, outspoken, and open minded. " It's always something. " ~~~Gilda Radner " While we have the gift of life, it seems to me the only tragedy is to allow part of us to die - whether it is our spirit,our creativity, or our glorious uniqueness. " ~~~Gilda Radner http://www.mybloglog.com/buzz/members/AGBlog/ http://360.yahoo.com/lovinglifeinnv http://www.myspace.com/amkg http://doripost.agrato.info/ http://wine-and-chocolate.blogspot.com/ http://weblog.xanga.com/purplepassionate http://www.revolutionhealth.com/blogs/angiemg http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=592316375 http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/LupusSurvivorsU/ Difficult times Well, after a long trip on Saturday to deal with details of a summer trip for my son we went to church on Sunday to find out Nic lost a classmate the night before. Nic is a senior so two months before graduation they lost this 18 year old kid to a roll over. It's hit our small community hard. He was popular and his family is a force in this area. His daddy owns a lot of land here. He was the only son and only grandson of this family. It's a rough day at school too. My daughter has wrote me and said it's a very quiet and sad day there. It sure is a wake up to have this happen. You got to hold tight and make sure your loved ones know how much you care. This boy had so much ahead not it is suppose to be one of the most joyful time of life for this senior class and then this happens. Sad and difficult times here. Tammi ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ You rock. That's why Blockbuster's offering you one month of Blockbuster Total Access, No Cost. http://tc.deals.yahoo.com/tc/blockbuster/text5.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2008 Report Share Posted April 7, 2008 Thank you for your response Angie. Nic seems a bit withdrawn. The school is taking the offensive and has already put counselors on campus. We are a small community so one death effects many in town. Most are related one way or another so it has even more impact. The kids went to the viewing today and it shook them. You could tell that it did. I just hope with the funeral tomorrow it will help some of those kids. They need the closure to the death. I'm glad they have the counselors on campus. I can tell by the way the kids are acting here in town that it was needed. I think one of the hard things for me is that I just found out the kids are being told by friends that blood alcohol was .2. I figured alcohol was involved but that is so high. I just hope some of these kids see what drinking and driving does. Not just the death but the aftermath for those left behind. I hope your family is doing better. I know you all have been going through some things. I remember reading about your daughter. I was so glad to hear she was doing better with school and all. Thanks for your suggestions with the kids and dealing with this trajedy. Tammi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2008 Report Share Posted April 7, 2008 So sad to read about a young person's loss. It would effect a close knit town like yours. Will be keep his family or yours in our prayers. soft hugs, Debbie L > > Well, after a long trip on Saturday to deal with details of a summer > trip for my son we went to church on Sunday to find out Nic lost a > classmate the night before. Nic is a senior so two months before > graduation they lost this 18 year old kid to a roll over. It's hit our > small community hard. He was popular and his family is a force in this > area. His daddy owns a lot of land here. He was the only son and only > grandson of this family. It's a rough day at school too. My daughter > has wrote me and said it's a very quiet and sad day there. It sure is > a wake up to have this happen. You got to hold tight and make sure > your loved ones know how much you care. This boy had so much ahead not > it is suppose to be one of the most joyful time of life for this senior > class and then this happens. Sad and difficult times here. > > Tammi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 How very sad. We just cannot help but question things like that. Why????? I fear so much the loss of a child. I just don't know what I would do if I lost one of my children. They are my reason for going on everyday. So sorry to hear of such sorrow. A big hug, Debra V. bluesmokey72 richards851@...> wrote: Well, after a long trip on Saturday to deal with details of a summer trip for my son we went to church on Sunday to find out Nic lost a classmate the night before. Nic is a senior so two months before graduation they lost this 18 year old kid to a roll over. It's hit our small community hard. He was popular and his family is a force in this area. His daddy owns a lot of land here. He was the only son and only grandson of this family. It's a rough day at school too. My daughter has wrote me and said it's a very quiet and sad day there. It sure is a wake up to have this happen. You got to hold tight and make sure your loved ones know how much you care. This boy had so much ahead not it is suppose to be one of the most joyful time of life for this senior class and then this happens. Sad and difficult times here. Tammi --------------------------------- You rock. That's why Blockbuster's offering you one month of Blockbuster Total Access, No Cost. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Tammi - I'm sorry to hear the bad news. That will put a cloud over the rest of the year and for graduation as well. It will be a difficult few months, but the kids will have to remember to be happy for themselves at the same time. Take care. Jeanne in WI Well, after a long trip on Saturday to deal with details of a summer trip for my son we went to church on Sunday to find out Nic lost a classmate the night before. Nic is a senior so two months before graduation they lost this 18 year old kid to a roll over. It's hit our small community hard. He was popular and his family is a force in this area. His daddy owns a lot of land here. He was the only son and only grandson of this family. It's a rough day at school too. My daughter has wrote me and said it's a very quiet and sad day there. It sure is a wake up to have this happen. You got to hold tight and make sure your loved ones know how much you care. This boy had so much ahead not it is suppose to be one of the most joyful time of life for this senior class and then this happens. Sad and difficult times here. Tammi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Tammi, So sorry that your community and the kids have to go thru something like this, especially so close to graduation. I don't say this to be gruesome or anything like that, so please don't take offense, but if the parents of that young man would allow at least his friends to go to the wrecker yard and see the vehicle, it might make them pause when it comes to making a decision to drink and drive. While it is a tragedy, especially to his family, he could have hit a car full of innocent victims. I'm a former auto claims adjuster and so many times, around this time of the year, unfortunately the young teens feel they have to go out and " have some fun " . Your son and that young man's family will definitely be in in my prayers. Darlene > > Tammi - I'm sorry to hear the bad news. That will put a cloud over the rest of the year and for graduation as well. It will be a difficult few months, but the kids will have to remember to be happy for themselves at the same time. Take care. > Jeanne in WI > > > Well, after a long trip on Saturday to deal with details of a summer trip for my son we went to church on Sunday to find out Nic lost a classmate the night before. Nic is a senior so two months before graduation they lost this 18 year old kid to a roll over. It's hit our small community hard. He was popular and his family is a force in this area. His daddy owns a lot of land here. He was the only son and only grandson of this family. It's a rough day at school too. My daughter has wrote me and said it's a very quiet and sad day there. It sure is a wake up to have this happen. You got to hold tight and make sure your loved ones know how much you care. This boy had so much ahead not it is suppose to be one of the most joyful time of life for this senior > class and then this happens. Sad and difficult times here. > > Tammi > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2008 Report Share Posted April 9, 2008 Tammi, I understand the feeling you and your family are going through. My daughter lost several friends during her school life. The worse I think was the little girl who at 16 was hit by a car as she got off the city bus after visiting her grandparents. The little girl lived across the street when they were 5-8yrs old. They were very close and walked to school together and my daughter would stay at there house before shool when I needed to leave ealy for work or after school if I worked late. They were best of friends and even though thet moved to the next town over they kept in touch and met occationally. The summer before she died they had lunch together because they worked in th same shopping center. Her mother refered to my daughter as her blond daughter. It was funny because they are a black family but her 2 little sisters that were born while they live near us had blond hair so it wa alwys our little joke. She has had many more friends die and many family members and had counselling in school because of the difficulty of dealing with it. She has had several friends die in car accidents and even some lost at sea. I guess that's the joy of living in a coastal community. My prayers are with you and I hope the kids get counselling either in groups or individual to deal with it. It is much harder for teens because they believe they are invicible. JudyMer ---- ddean228 navydaisy228@...> wrote: > Tammi, > So sorry that your community and the kids have to go thru something > like this, especially so close to graduation. I don't say this to be > gruesome or anything like that, so please don't take offense, but if > the parents of that young man would allow at least his friends to go > to the wrecker yard and see the vehicle, it might make them pause > when it comes to making a decision to drink and drive. While it is a > tragedy, especially to his family, he could have hit a car full of > innocent victims. I'm a former auto claims adjuster and so many > times, around this time of the year, unfortunately the young teens > feel they have to go out and " have some fun " . Your son and that young > man's family will definitely be in in my prayers. > > Darlene > > > > > > Tammi - I'm sorry to hear the bad news. That will put a cloud over > the rest of the year and for graduation as well. It will be a > difficult few months, but the kids will have to remember to be happy > for themselves at the same time. Take care. > > Jeanne in WI > > > > > > Well, after a long trip on Saturday to deal with details of a > summer trip for my son we went to church on Sunday to find out Nic > lost a classmate the night before. Nic is a senior so two months > before graduation they lost this 18 year old kid to a roll over. > It's hit our small community hard. He was popular and his family is > a force in this area. His daddy owns a lot of land here. He was the > only son and only grandson of this family. It's a rough day at > school too. My daughter has wrote me and said it's a very quiet and > sad day there. It sure is a wake up to have this happen. You got to > hold tight and make sure your loved ones know how much you care. > This boy had so much ahead not it is suppose to be one of the most > joyful time of life for this senior > > class and then this happens. Sad and difficult times here. > > > > Tammi > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2008 Report Share Posted April 9, 2008 Tammi, I understand the feeling you and your family are going through. My daughter lost several friends during her school life. The worse I think was the little girl who at 16 was hit by a car as she got off the city bus after visiting her grandparents. The little girl lived across the street when they were 5-8yrs old. They were very close and walked to school together and my daughter would stay at there house before shool when I needed to leave ealy for work or after school if I worked late. They were best of friends and even though thet moved to the next town over they kept in touch and met occationally. The summer before she died they had lunch together because they worked in th same shopping center. Her mother refered to my daughter as her blond daughter. It was funny because they are a black family but her 2 little sisters that were born while they live near us had blond hair so it wa alwys our little joke. She has had many more friends die and many family members and had counselling in school because of the difficulty of dealing with it. She has had several friends die in car accidents and even some lost at sea. I guess that's the joy of living in a coastal community. My prayers are with you and I hope the kids get counselling either in groups or individual to deal with it. It is much harder for teens because they believe they are invicible. JudyMer ---- ddean228 navydaisy228@...> wrote: > Tammi, > So sorry that your community and the kids have to go thru something > like this, especially so close to graduation. I don't say this to be > gruesome or anything like that, so please don't take offense, but if > the parents of that young man would allow at least his friends to go > to the wrecker yard and see the vehicle, it might make them pause > when it comes to making a decision to drink and drive. While it is a > tragedy, especially to his family, he could have hit a car full of > innocent victims. I'm a former auto claims adjuster and so many > times, around this time of the year, unfortunately the young teens > feel they have to go out and " have some fun " . Your son and that young > man's family will definitely be in in my prayers. > > Darlene > > > > > > Tammi - I'm sorry to hear the bad news. That will put a cloud over > the rest of the year and for graduation as well. It will be a > difficult few months, but the kids will have to remember to be happy > for themselves at the same time. Take care. > > Jeanne in WI > > > > > > Well, after a long trip on Saturday to deal with details of a > summer trip for my son we went to church on Sunday to find out Nic > lost a classmate the night before. Nic is a senior so two months > before graduation they lost this 18 year old kid to a roll over. > It's hit our small community hard. He was popular and his family is > a force in this area. His daddy owns a lot of land here. He was the > only son and only grandson of this family. It's a rough day at > school too. My daughter has wrote me and said it's a very quiet and > sad day there. It sure is a wake up to have this happen. You got to > hold tight and make sure your loved ones know how much you care. > This boy had so much ahead not it is suppose to be one of the most > joyful time of life for this senior > > class and then this happens. Sad and difficult times here. > > > > Tammi > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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