Re: Re: new member Hubby advice/Phyllis

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are you married to my hubby? LOL Mine is so much the same. It is always

about himself and always my fault for everything. It is hard to deal with

stress like this. Mine quit counseling both time we tried, when it cmae to

his issues. he is in denial. Depressed also, for sure. My heart goes out to

you sweetie.

Hugs,

On Thu, Apr 17, 2008 at 8:14 PM, Phyllis Parmelee's AVON <

avon2251w@...> wrote:

> We have been to more counselors than we can count. It hasnt changed a

> thing. He has been chronically depressed all his life and he has anger

> issues as well. He is very egocentric (everything is about how it affects

> him or makes him look) and he has a very difficult time accepting the kids

> and their behaviors. I can never leave him alone with them for very long.

> He has no patience for them. I am always playing referee. He has been

> told many times to get into counseling but he will go once or twice and then

> stop.

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> phyllis

> Re: new member Hubby advice

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> Hi again Phyllis,

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> A couple of suggestions that came to mind are:

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> Get yourself into counseling.

> Set boundaries

> don't allow abuse, whether verbal or physical

> I know there are more swimming through my head, but these are at the

> top.

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> I'm one that really takes my vows seriously and don't advocate

> divorce. I can say though that I am very happy with my 2nd hubby.

> We have had our rocky times, but you know, those rocky times don't

> compare to my 1st hubby. I was verbally abused in my 1st marriage

> and it tore me down and wore me out.

>

> If you would like to chat privately, please email me.

>

> The grass isn't always greener on the other side, but for me it is

> much easier to deal with.

>

> Hugs,

> Deb in MN

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