Guest guest Posted May 1, 2008 Report Share Posted May 1, 2008 Cassandra, You have to do what you feel comfortable with. I'm sure no one wants anyone to feel uncomfortable... Love, Pen Pals/problem I haven't added my identifying info to the Pen Pal database yet, even though I reaaaally want to join the fun. My problem is that I have a " crazy " birthmother who has in the past stalked me. I send her cards only on birthdays etc and I always use a " drop box " address, sometimes even in another town. Having been stalked (she didn't approach me or 'do' anything other than follow me and my child around), I am on the cautious side. I thought maybe a PO Box would be okay for the pen pal list. Now I'm getting skitish about that even. What if she could get into this group and watch me? Reality check welcome from anyone. Suggestions? Feel free to stick your nose in. Peace Cassandra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2008 Report Share Posted May 1, 2008 send personal emails to the people on the list and give them your mailing address. easy peasy! -ang Pen Pals/problem I haven't added my identifying info to the Pen Pal database yet, even though I reaaaally want to join the fun. My problem is that I have a " crazy " birthmother who has in the past stalked me. I send her cards only on birthdays etc and I always use a " drop box " address, sometimes even in another town. Having been stalked (she didn't approach me or 'do' anything other than follow me and my child around), I am on the cautious side. I thought maybe a PO Box would be okay for the pen pal list. Now I'm getting skitish about that even. What if she could get into this group and watch me? Reality check welcome from anyone. Suggestions? Feel free to stick your nose in. Peace Cassandra ------------------------------------ 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general. 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better. 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that potentially take something another member says the wrong way. And that includes the things that one member may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor. 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support. Have a nice day everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2008 Report Share Posted May 1, 2008 Cassandra, Not ever having been stalked, I cannot completely understand your fears. But my opinion would be go with a PO Box, even one in the next town if that would make you feel safer. I doubt your mother would find you here, but to put another layer, do the PO Box in the next town. I feel for you and know that I am careful what info I give out myself, but I know that my addres is accessible to anyone with the know how on the internet. I have a sister and brother that I have not seen or heard from in over 6 years, but I know that I really do not want them to find me as they are nothing but trouble. Take care, sorry I got off on a tangent there. I hope this helps some. Christi Randall www.singingwomenoftexas.com Pen Pals/problem I haven't added my identifying info to the Pen Pal database yet, even though I reaaaally want to join the fun. My problem is that I have a " crazy " birthmother who has in the past stalked me. I send her cards only on birthdays etc and I always use a " drop box " address, sometimes even in another town. Having been stalked (she didn't approach me or 'do' anything other than follow me and my child around), I am on the cautious side. I thought maybe a PO Box would be okay for the pen pal list. Now I'm getting skitish about that even. What if she could get into this group and watch me? Reality check welcome from anyone. Suggestions? Feel free to stick your nose in. Peace Cassandra ------------------------------------ 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general. 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better. 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that potentially take something another member says the wrong way. And that includes the things that one member may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor. 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support. Have a nice day everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2008 Report Share Posted May 1, 2008 Well... I can totally understand your fears. You have 2 options as I see it. First is to get a PO box. Second is to have your mail sent to someone else in the group, who then forwards it to you. That way only one person has your mailing address. I would be happy to do that for you if you decide thats what you want to do. If you do, just send me an email at yourock.irule@... and we will make arrangements. :-) Its a long shot she would find you through here, but the truth is, its a public board, that pops up on a google search, so if its something that really worries you, then go safe so you dont have to worry. Take care --Suzanne > > Cassandra, > Not ever having been stalked, I cannot completely understand your fears. But my opinion would be go with a PO Box, even one in the next town if that would make you feel safer. I doubt your mother would find you here, but to put another layer, do the PO Box in the next town. I feel for you and know that I am careful what info I give out myself, but I know that my addres is accessible to anyone with the know how on the internet. I have a sister and brother that I have not seen or heard from in over 6 years, but I know that I really do not want them to find me as they are nothing but trouble. Take care, sorry I got off on a tangent there. I hope this helps some. > > Christi Randall > www.singingwomenoftexas.com > > > > > > > Pen Pals/problem > > I haven't added my identifying info to the Pen Pal database yet, even though I reaaaally > want to join the fun. > My problem is that I have a " crazy " birthmother who has in the past stalked me. I send her > cards only on birthdays etc and I always use a " drop box " address, sometimes even in > another town. > Having been stalked (she didn't approach me or 'do' anything other than follow me and my > child around), I am on the cautious side. I thought maybe a PO Box would be okay for the > pen pal list. > Now I'm getting skitish about that even. > What if she could get into this group and watch me? > > Reality check welcome from anyone. > Suggestions? Feel free to stick your nose in. > Peace > Cassandra > > > ------------------------------------ > > 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general. > > 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better. > > 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe > > 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that potentially take something another member says the wrong way. And that includes the things that one member may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor. > > 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support. > > Have a nice day everyone. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2008 Report Share Posted May 1, 2008 If your birth mother is searching by name primary, an alias can be substituted, or simply make up a name for the database. All the post office needs really is an address, the name of the recipient can be anything you choose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2008 Report Share Posted May 2, 2008 > I haven't added my identifying info to the Pen Pal database yet, > even though I reaaaally > want to join the fun. > My problem is that I have a " crazy " birthmother who has in the past > stalked me. I send her > cards only on birthdays etc and I always use a " drop box " address, > sometimes even in > another town. > Having been stalked (she didn't approach me or 'do' anything other > than follow me and my > child around), I am on the cautious side. I thought maybe a PO Box > would be okay for the > pen pal list. > Now I'm getting skitish about that even. > What if she could get into this group and watch me? > > Reality check welcome from anyone. > Suggestions? Feel free to stick your nose in. Bottom line, we are putting public information, such as our addresses, in a very public place. I admire the idea, but have no intention of participating. Z Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2008 Report Share Posted May 2, 2008 Now that really sounds like a good idea for Cassandra. Maybe a fake name and a post office box would be good. Marti Loest boltzero@...> wrote: If your birth mother is searching by name primary, an alias can be substituted, or simply make up a name for the database. All the post office needs really is an address, the name of the recipient can be anything you choose. --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2008 Report Share Posted May 2, 2008 I can certainly understand your concern. And identity protection is always wise on the internet. That said, you have no real 'guarantees' but how would she even know about the list? Just a consideration hugs wenzdai wenzdai@...> wrote: I haven't added my identifying info to the Pen Pal database yet, even though I reaaaally want to join the fun. My problem is that I have a " crazy " birthmother who has in the past stalked me. I send her cards only on birthdays etc and I always use a " drop box " address, sometimes even in another town. Having been stalked (she didn't approach me or 'do' anything other than follow me and my child around), I am on the cautious side. I thought maybe a PO Box would be okay for the pen pal list. Now I'm getting skitish about that even. What if she could get into this group and watch me? Reality check welcome from anyone. Suggestions? Feel free to stick your nose in. Peace Cassandra ------------------------------------ 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general. 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better. 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that potentially take something another member says the wrong way. And that includes the things that one member may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor. 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support. Have a nice day everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2008 Report Share Posted May 2, 2008 we will be here for you Cassandra , talk to us Ethel Behold the turtle , he who makes slow progress wins the race ! Pen Pals/problem > > > I haven't added my identifying info to the Pen Pal database yet, even > though I reaaaally > want to join the fun. > My problem is that I have a " crazy " birthmother who has in the past > stalked me. I send her > cards only on birthdays etc and I always use a " drop box " address, > sometimes even in > another town. > Having been stalked (she didn't approach me or 'do' anything other than > follow me and my > child around), I am on the cautious side. I thought maybe a PO Box would > be okay for the > pen pal list. > Now I'm getting skitish about that even. > What if she could get into this group and watch me? > > Reality check welcome from anyone. > Suggestions? Feel free to stick your nose in. > Peace > Cassandra > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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