Guest guest Posted May 5, 2008 Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 hugs I took today off.... I took today off - I have to take my Sophee to the vet, I fear she is dying Top that off with a birthday party for my son at this house yesterday with me and his wife's family - she went psycho and she and I got into it - I went to leave, she grabbed my arm, I told her to let it go and she said " if this is the way you are going to be at family gatherings, then we won't have anymore, I said fine - that's what you want anyway - she said fine - then you can't see your granddaughter anymore " ..... What a lovely girl - NOT! Then she came over here with my son and continued the argument - brought up stuff from 2 years ago and how I am the cause of all her stress. omg.....I stayed home today because my chest hurt so much from crying. I think it is heartache - between that and my baby Sophee (my dog) my stress level is over the top. And we know that stress brings on flares so my legs are killing me. The sad thing about my daughter-in-law is I have to play ball her way or I won't see my son or my baby granddaughter but at what point do you say heck with it - my own sanity is worth more. Suggestions anyone? hugs sad --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 5, 2008 Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 Awww !!! What an awful thing to happen. Family can be so difficult. Hopefully, things will cool off and she will realize just how stupid her response to you was. Gentle hugs, Annie in TN in AZ oriana_az@...> wrote: I took today off - I have to take my Sophee to the vet, I fear she is dying Top that off with a birthday party for my son at this house yesterday with me and his wife's family - she went psycho and she and I got into it - I went to leave, she grabbed my arm, I told her to let it go and she said " if this is the way you are going to be at family gatherings, then we won't have anymore, I said fine - that's what you want anyway - she said fine - then you can't see your granddaughter anymore " ..... What a lovely girl - NOT! Then she came over here with my son and continued the argument - brought up stuff from 2 years ago and how I am the cause of all her stress. omg.....I stayed home today because my chest hurt so much from crying. I think it is heartache - between that and my baby Sophee (my dog) my stress level is over the top. And we know that stress brings on flares so my legs are killing me. The sad thing about my daughter-in-law is I have to play ball her way or I won't see my son or my baby granddaughter but at what point do you say heck with it - my own sanity is worth more. Suggestions anyone? hugs sad --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 5, 2008 Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 Thank you - to top it off, I had to have my Sophee (my almost 10 year old whippet mix) put down this afternoon due to advanced renial failure *sigh* julie landry julie36@...> wrote: hugs I took today off.... I took today off - I have to take my Sophee to the vet, I fear she is dying Top that off with a birthday party for my son at this house yesterday with me and his wife's family - she went psycho and she and I got into it - I went to leave, she grabbed my arm, I told her to let it go and she said " if this is the way you are going to be at family gatherings, then we won't have anymore, I said fine - that's what you want anyway - she said fine - then you can't see your granddaughter anymore " ..... What a lovely girl - NOT! Then she came over here with my son and continued the argument - brought up stuff from 2 years ago and how I am the cause of all her stress. omg.....I stayed home today because my chest hurt so much from crying. I think it is heartache - between that and my baby Sophee (my dog) my stress level is over the top. And we know that stress brings on flares so my legs are killing me. The sad thing about my daughter-in-law is I have to play ball her way or I won't see my son or my baby granddaughter but at what point do you say heck with it - my own sanity is worth more. Suggestions anyone? hugs sad --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 5, 2008 Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 Thank you Annie - thing of it is - I have not a clue as to what the heck I did ya know? I am in a horrible flare right now. hugs Annie G fudgie4u@...> wrote: Awww !!! What an awful thing to happen. Family can be so difficult. Hopefully, things will cool off and she will realize just how stupid her response to you was. Gentle hugs, Annie in TN in AZ wrote: I took today off - I have to take my Sophee to the vet, I fear she is dying Top that off with a birthday party for my son at this house yesterday with me and his wife's family - she went psycho and she and I got into it - I went to leave, she grabbed my arm, I told her to let it go and she said " if this is the way you are going to be at family gatherings, then we won't have anymore, I said fine - that's what you want anyway - she said fine - then you can't see your granddaughter anymore " ..... What a lovely girl - NOT! Then she came over here with my son and continued the argument - brought up stuff from 2 years ago and how I am the cause of all her stress. omg.....I stayed home today because my chest hurt so much from crying. I think it is heartache - between that and my baby Sophee (my dog) my stress level is over the top. And we know that stress brings on flares so my legs are killing me. The sad thing about my daughter-in-law is I have to play ball her way or I won't see my son or my baby granddaughter but at what point do you say heck with it - my own sanity is worth more. Suggestions anyone? hugs sad --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 5, 2008 Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 Dear , I'm so very sorry to hear about Sophee. Pets can become such a part of the family. They give you unconditional love and listen! As for your Daughter-in-law, she sounds like a, well, a not very nice person! Grrrrrr... Why do people have to be that way? I sure hope things work out, not for her, but for your grandaughter and your sake. Take care and try not to worry, okay? Things will work out. Lots of Gentle Hugs, Kristi > > I took today off - I have to take my Sophee to the vet, I fear she is dying Top that > off with a birthday party for my son at this house yesterday with me > and his wife's family - she went psycho and she and I got into it - I > went to leave, she grabbed my arm, I told her to let it go and she said > " if this is the way you are going to be at family gatherings, then we > won't have anymore, I said fine - that's what you want anyway - she said > fine - then you can't see your granddaughter anymore " ..... > > What a lovely girl - NOT! > > Then she came over here with my son and continued the argument - > brought up stuff from 2 years ago and how I am the cause of all her stress. > omg.....I stayed home today because my chest hurt so much from > crying. I think it is heartache - between that and my baby Sophee (my dog) my > stress level is over the top. And we know that stress brings on flares > so my legs are killing me. > > The sad thing about my daughter-in-law is I have to play ball her way > or I won't see my son or my baby granddaughter but at what point do > you say heck with it - my own sanity is worth more. > > Suggestions anyone? > > hugs > sad > > > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2008 Report Share Posted May 6, 2008 Thank you so much Kristi. I am taking the day tomorrow to recover from the weekend and today. I probably should go into work but my heart is hurting and my head is aching. The kids came over tonight - it's like nothing ever happened. You're right - at time she is not a very nice person. My folks were horrified that she would even think such a thing what's less say it out loud and in front of everyone. If I'd a been her mom I would have slapped her silly. I think really her frustrations are with her own family but she cannot talk to them like that - she she chooses to attack me. She holds all the cards. If she forces my son to choose between us - he will, rightly so, choose her and the baby and she knows that. So unfortunately she has control over that with me - I guess all I can do is put up with it until I can't anymore. This is so not good for fibro! hugs Kristi happycricket87@...> wrote: Dear , I'm so very sorry to hear about Sophee. Pets can become such a part of the family. They give you unconditional love and listen! As for your Daughter-in-law, she sounds like a, well, a not very nice person! Grrrrrr... Why do people have to be that way? I sure hope things work out, not for her, but for your grandaughter and your sake. Take care and try not to worry, okay? Things will work out. Lots of Gentle Hugs, Kristi --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2008 Report Share Posted May 6, 2008 I am so sorry about the big run-in with your daughter-in-law. Stress can make things so much worse. I run into family problems all the time with my husbands family. Its not the usual mother-in-law problems. I love her to death. I can't stand his sisters and have to bite my tongue every time we get together. My solution and my husbands, thank god he backs me up, is to just see her when his sisters are not around. Can be hard because they are there constantly. That's part of what makes me mad. Have you talked to your son about some private time with your granddaughter and just your son? **************Wondering what's for Dinner Tonight? Get new twists on family favorites at AOL Food. (http://food.aol.com/dinner-tonight?NCID=aolfod00030000000001) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2008 Report Share Posted May 6, 2008 ah wow I am so sorry thats so hard goodness hugs > > > Date: 2008/05/05 Mon PM 11:11:00 EDT > To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group > Subject: Re: I took today off.... > > Thank you - to top it off, I had to have my Sophee (my almost 10 year old whippet mix) put down this afternoon due to advanced renial failure > *sigh* > > > julie landry julie36@...> wrote: > hugs > I took today off.... > > > I took today off - I have to take my Sophee to the vet, I fear she is dying Top that > off with a birthday party for my son at this house yesterday with me > and his wife's family - she went psycho and she and I got into it - I > went to leave, she grabbed my arm, I told her to let it go and she said > " if this is the way you are going to be at family gatherings, then we > won't have anymore, I said fine - that's what you want anyway - she said > fine - then you can't see your granddaughter anymore " ..... > > What a lovely girl - NOT! > > Then she came over here with my son and continued the argument - > brought up stuff from 2 years ago and how I am the cause of all her stress. > omg.....I stayed home today because my chest hurt so much from > crying. I think it is heartache - between that and my baby Sophee (my dog) my > stress level is over the top. And we know that stress brings on flares > so my legs are killing me. > > The sad thing about my daughter-in-law is I have to play ball her way > or I won't see my son or my baby granddaughter but at what point do > you say heck with it - my own sanity is worth more. > > Suggestions anyone? > > hugs > sad > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2008 Report Share Posted May 6, 2008 Oh (((()))) I am so sorry you had to put your beloved Sophee down. How heartbreaking. Our pets love us unconditionally and to be honest, my ancient poodle mix, who is becoming more and more crippled with arthritis in her back legs is probably heading down that road. but to think about it, makes me cry. So I'll cry for Sophee instead. As for your daughter-in-law, um, she sounds like a biotch. How dare she use the threat of not seeing your grandchild! And the last I knew, folks were (supposedly) responsible for their own actions - how could anything you did 2 yrs ago be causing her stress now? Sounds to me like she's a few bricks shy of a full load. I feel for your son; he's no doubt feeling caught in the middle! (((Hugs))) Darlene > hugs > I took today off.... > > > I took today off - I have to take my Sophee to the vet, I fear she is dying Top that > off with a birthday party for my son at this house yesterday with me > and his wife's family - she went psycho and she and I got into it - I > went to leave, she grabbed my arm, I told her to let it go and she said > " if this is the way you are going to be at family gatherings, then we > won't have anymore, I said fine - that's what you want anyway - she said > fine - then you can't see your granddaughter anymore " ..... > > What a lovely girl - NOT! > > Then she came over here with my son and continued the argument - > brought up stuff from 2 years ago and how I am the cause of all her stress. > omg.....I stayed home today because my chest hurt so much from > crying. I think it is heartache - between that and my baby Sophee (my dog) my > stress level is over the top. And we know that stress brings on flares > so my legs are killing me. > > The sad thing about my daughter-in-law is I have to play ball her way > or I won't see my son or my baby granddaughter but at what point do > you say heck with it - my own sanity is worth more. > > Suggestions anyone? > > hugs > sad > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2008 Report Share Posted May 6, 2008 , ((((())))) So sorry about the loss of your beloved furbaby :-( I know how much she meant to you as I have two furdoggies and they are my constant companions and comfort. Gentle hugs, Annie in TN ddean228 navydaisy228@...> wrote: Oh (((()))) I am so sorry you had to put your beloved Sophee down. How heartbreaking. Our pets love us unconditionally and to be honest, my ancient poodle mix, who is becoming more and more crippled with arthritis in her back legs is probably heading down that road. but to think about it, makes me cry. So I'll cry for Sophee instead. As for your daughter-in-law, um, she sounds like a biotch. How dare she use the threat of not seeing your grandchild! And the last I knew, folks were (supposedly) responsible for their own actions - how could anything you did 2 yrs ago be causing her stress now? Sounds to me like she's a few bricks shy of a full load. I feel for your son; he's no doubt feeling caught in the middle! (((Hugs))) Darlene > hugs > I took today off.... > > > I took today off - I have to take my Sophee to the vet, I fear she is dying Top that > off with a birthday party for my son at this house yesterday with me > and his wife's family - she went psycho and she and I got into it - I > went to leave, she grabbed my arm, I told her to let it go and she said > " if this is the way you are going to be at family gatherings, then we > won't have anymore, I said fine - that's what you want anyway - she said > fine - then you can't see your granddaughter anymore " ..... > > What a lovely girl - NOT! > > Then she came over here with my son and continued the argument - > brought up stuff from 2 years ago and how I am the cause of all her stress. > omg.....I stayed home today because my chest hurt so much from > crying. I think it is heartache - between that and my baby Sophee (my dog) my > stress level is over the top. And we know that stress brings on flares > so my legs are killing me. > > The sad thing about my daughter-in-law is I have to play ball her way > or I won't see my son or my baby granddaughter but at what point do > you say heck with it - my own sanity is worth more. > > Suggestions anyone? > > hugs > sad > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2008 Report Share Posted May 6, 2008 Thank you much - no I have not - she makes it nearly impossible to talk to him alone coupled with the fact he relays every conversation to have back to her. I'm just going to lay low for awhile. hugs dmgmwoodburn@... wrote: I am so sorry about the big run-in with your daughter-in-law. Stress can make things so much worse. I run into family problems all the time with my husbands family. Its not the usual mother-in-law problems. I love her to death. I can't stand his sisters and have to bite my tongue every time we get together. My solution and my husbands, thank god he backs me up, is to just see her when his sisters are not around. Can be hard because they are there constantly. That's part of what makes me mad. Have you talked to your son about some private time with your granddaughter and just your son? **************Wondering what's for Dinner Tonight? Get new twists on family favorites at AOL Food. (http://food.aol.com/dinner-tonight?NCID=aolfod00030000000001) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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