Re: Well my life offically sucks

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Vicki,

I am so very sorry about your marriage. That really sucks. If you need a

shoulder to cry on, I have broad ones.

Love,

/Mi

Well my life offically sucks

Ya know that I've been kinda MIA lately, and part of that is my own fault. I

haven't had the energy to be online and I've been making sure that Pat has had

his time online. But anyway the reason that I wanted to say that my life

offically sucks is that Pat has offically said he's leaving me, I screwed up on

our checking account and as such he said that he's done and is leaving. Yeah

we've had other issues and of course I know that they are partly my own fault

but he too is to blame. He says that we've been behind on bills since I quit my

job at Taco Bell and in some ways I agree that it was my own fault that I didn't

make sure that I had another job before i left the one I had. But now I have a

job and we are waiting for that economic stimulis money that was supposed to

have come in at the beginning of the month like the dates said but since nothing

has come in, I over drew our account. I guess maybe the fact that my marriage

has finally come to

an end is my own doing. That I didn't give my own into the this marriage. That

I am not working on things, that I've been hiding my feelings and have been

angry all the time. I don't know anymore. Pat doesn't talk to me and says that

anything that goes wrong is my own fault. That is what he said.

Well I am gonna be gone for a while.

Vicki/Lady Vader

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[Guest guest]

Ya know what is sad, he called and informed me that he was coming

home, that he wanted to work things out cause his mom told him to go

home, his friends told him to grow up.

>

> Vicki,

> I am so very sorry about your marriage. That really sucks. If you

need a shoulder to cry on, I have broad ones.

> Love,

> /Mi

> Well my life offically sucks

>

>

> Ya know that I've been kinda MIA lately, and part of that is my

own fault. I haven't had the energy to be online and I've been making

sure that Pat has had his time online. But anyway the reason that I

wanted to say that my life offically sucks is that Pat has offically

said he's leaving me, I screwed up on our checking account and as

such he said that he's done and is leaving. Yeah we've had other

issues and of course I know that they are partly my own fault but he

too is to blame. He says that we've been behind on bills since I quit

my job at Taco Bell and in some ways I agree that it was my own fault

that I didn't make sure that I had another job before i left the one

I had. But now I have a job and we are waiting for that economic

stimulis money that was supposed to have come in at the beginning of

the month like the dates said but since nothing has come in, I over

drew our account. I guess maybe the fact that my marriage has finally

come to

> an end is my own doing. That I didn't give my own into the this

marriage. That I am not working on things, that I've been hiding my

feelings and have been angry all the time. I don't know anymore. Pat

doesn't talk to me and says that anything that goes wrong is my own

fault. That is what he said.

> Well I am gonna be gone for a while.

>

>

> Vicki/Lady Vader

> www.freewebs.com/romanticdreamscometrue

> www.freewebs.com/victoriadutton

>

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Just about the time you were thinking good riddance too, huh??? {{wink}}

Angie Harley Mama Double-D

Well my life offically sucks

>

>

> Ya know that I've been kinda MIA lately, and part of that is my

own fault. I haven't had the energy to be online and I've been making

sure that Pat has had his time online. But anyway the reason that I

wanted to say that my life offically sucks is that Pat has offically

said he's leaving me, I screwed up on our checking account and as

such he said that he's done and is leaving. Yeah we've had other

issues and of course I know that they are partly my own fault but he

too is to blame. He says that we've been behind on bills since I quit

my job at Taco Bell and in some ways I agree that it was my own fault

that I didn't make sure that I had another job before i left the one

I had. But now I have a job and we are waiting for that economic

stimulis money that was supposed to have come in at the beginning of

the month like the dates said but since nothing has come in, I over

drew our account. I guess maybe the fact that my marriage has finally

come to

> an end is my own doing. That I didn't give my own into the this

marriage. That I am not working on things, that I've been hiding my

feelings and have been angry all the time. I don't know anymore. Pat

doesn't talk to me and says that anything that goes wrong is my own

fault. That is what he said.

> Well I am gonna be gone for a while.

>

>

> Vicki/Lady Vader

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[Guest guest]

I am so sorry to hear this horrible news.  The breakup of a marriage is probably

one of the most painful emotional things I can think of.  It seems that money is

often a factor.  It is just so hard to live now days with everything going up

except wages. 

Try not to beat yourself up and take the whole blame.  And a mistake on a

checking account should not be a reason to end a relationship.  I know that alot

of us are expecting that stimulus money.  It may not come to us as fast as we

thought.  But you were only doing what you thought would work out.  A mistake is

a mistake.  And try not to be so hard on yourself for all the emotional stuff

and everything else.  We all have faults.  I am quite sure he has his own faults

in that marriage too.  And I know that living with fibromyalgia is hard on any

relationship.  But you did not ask to be sick with this curse.

Just know my heart is with you and write me anytime personally if you need to.

love and hugs,

Debra V.

Subject: Well my life offically sucks

To: smile-withfibro , fibromyalgia_support_group ,

place_vent_here , angelheartforever@..., " laura mcmahon "

lmcm356@...>, " Carissa McMahon " artic_snow_leopard@...>,

ladyvaderswriterscorner , " Piercey- Gates "

wolfpoetinc@...>

Date: Wednesday, May 7, 2008, 8:13 PM

Ya know that I've been kinda MIA lately, and part of that is my own fault. I

haven't had the energy to be online and I've been making sure that Pat has had

his time online. But anyway the reason that I wanted to say that my life

offically sucks is that Pat has offically said he's leaving me, I screwed up on

our checking account and as such he said that he's done and is leaving. Yeah

we've had other issues and of course I know that they are partly my own fault

but he too is to blame. He says that we've been behind on bills since I quit my

job at Taco Bell and in some ways I agree that it was my own fault that I didn't

make sure that I had another job before i left the one I had. But now I have a

job and we are waiting for that economic stimulis money that was supposed to

have come in at the beginning of the month like the dates said but since

nothing has come in, I over drew our account. I guess maybe the fact that my

marriage has finally come to

an end is my own doing. That I didn't give my own into the this marriage. That I

am not working on things, that I've been hiding my feelings and have been angry

all the time. I don't know anymore. Pat doesn't talk to me and says that

anything that goes wrong is my own fault. That is what he said.

Well I am gonna be gone for a while.

 

Vicki/Lady Vader 

www.freewebs. com/romanticdrea mscometrue

www.freewebs. com/victoriadutt on

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Vicki,

Don't allow him to make you believe it is YOUR fault alone! It's very hard to

work and keep up with family issues with this silent beast that we live with.

Checking account overdrawn??? He should have been helping you with things. We

have fibro-fog that can really screw with our brains. I use to be able to

remember phone numbers of everyone. I was like the yellow book...I knew it

all!!! I use to be able to keep a total in my head of every item I put in my

grocery chart, now I do good to mutiply 4 X 2.

I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. I know it's tough but we

will all send up prayers and know that God will comfort you in your time of

need.

We ALL love you!!

Debra B

Gladewater, Texas

Well my life offically sucks

Ya know that I've been kinda MIA lately, and part of that is my own fault. I

haven't had the energy to be online and I've been making sure that Pat has had

his time online. But anyway the reason that I wanted to say that my life

offically sucks is that Pat has offically said he's leaving me, I screwed up on

our checking account and as such he said that he's done and is leaving. Yeah

we've had other issues and of course I know that they are partly my own fault

but he too is to blame. He says that we've been behind on bills since I quit my

job at Taco Bell and in some ways I agree that it was my own fault that I didn't

make sure that I had another job before i left the one I had. But now I have a

job and we are waiting for that economic stimulis money that was supposed to

have come in at the beginning of the month like the dates said but since

nothing has come in, I over drew our account. I guess maybe the fact that my

marriage has finally come to

an end is my own doing. That I didn't give my own into the this marriage. That I

am not working on things, that I've been hiding my feelings and have been angry

all the time. I don't know anymore. Pat doesn't talk to me and says that

anything that goes wrong is my own fault. That is what he said.

Well I am gonna be gone for a while.

 

Vicki/Lady Vader 

www.freewebs. com/romanticdrea mscometrue

www.freewebs. com/victoriadutt on

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> I think in marriages its impossible to place blame that way, 'all

> your fault " .. how can everything be all one persons fault , youre in

> it together.. Everybody messes up sometimes. Mistakes happen, and

> can be rectified if the proper steps are taken.. It can be

> frustrating and hard to deal with especially in our situations..

>

It may be just the final straw, or an excuse, for him, for something

he had been building to, it sounds like it wasnt the only thing by the

way you said it.

For the stimulus payment.. When you get it is based off a few things,

when you filed by, your last 2 digits of your social, and if you

efiled or mailed them in.

If you efiled, the latest date is i believe the 15th of may, for the

last batch, but most wil have received it by the 9th. (up to last 2

digits of 75)

Highly likely you miscalculated when the money would be coming in, not

that you wont get it at all. If youre eligible, you'll get it.

Unfortunately, the govvy loves to be late and slow on things esp when

giving money away, but those are the dates outlined on the official

IRS website.

I hope that helps some, and the money comes in so you can straighten

out your checking.

-Nina

>

> Well my life offically sucks

>

> Ya know that I've been kinda MIA lately, and part of that is my own

> fault. I haven't had the energy to be online and I've been making

> sure that Pat has had his time online. But anyway the reason that I

> wanted to say that my life offically sucks is that Pat has offically

> said he's leaving me, I screwed up on our checking account and as

> such he said that he's done and is leaving. Yeah we've had other

> issues and of course I know that they are partly my own fault but he

> too is to blame. He says that we've been behind on bills since I

> quit my job at Taco Bell and in some ways I agree that it was my own

> fault that I didn't make sure that I had another job before i left

> the one I had. But now I have a job and we are waiting for that

> economic stimulis money that was supposed to have come in at the

> beginning of the month like the dates said but since nothing has

> come in, I over drew our account. I guess maybe the fact that my

> marriage has finally come to

> an end is my own doing. That I didn't give my own into the this

> marriage. That I am not working on things, that I've been hiding my

> feelings and have been angry all the time. I don't know anymore. Pat

> doesn't talk to me and says that anything that goes wrong is my own

> fault. That is what he said.

> Well I am gonna be gone for a while.

>

>

> Vicki/Lady Vader

> www.freewebs. com/romanticdrea mscometrue

> www.freewebs. com/victoriadutt on

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>

[Guest guest]

Vicki,

I am so sorry you are going through this. I agree it is not all one-

sided - marriages take two to tango, so to speak. The only thing you

may have done wrong was count on $ that hadn't arrived yet. We've all

done that, trust me.

If you want to confirm the date your stimulus ck will arrive, as well

as the actual amount, you can go to the irs.gov website and then hit

the " where is my stimulus check? " button. Through it, I found out

that because we had our filing prep fees taken out of our refund, we

will get a check that will be mailed by 5/16 (vs. the direct deposit

we thought we were getting on the 2nd). We also found out that we are

getting less than we expected, likely because 100% of my " income " on

LTD isn't counted for tax purposes so our tax liability was

ridiculously small.

Know that we are here for you. Also, I think others have gone thru

what you are currently going thru as far as marriages ending because

of this beast.

(((Hugs)))

Darlene

>

> > I think in marriages its impossible to place blame that

way, 'all

> > your fault " .. how can everything be all one persons fault , youre

in

> > it together.. Everybody messes up sometimes. Mistakes happen,

and

> > can be rectified if the proper steps are taken.. It can be

> > frustrating and hard to deal with especially in our situations..

> >

>

>

>

>

>

> It may be just the final straw, or an excuse, for him, for

something

> he had been building to, it sounds like it wasnt the only thing by

the

> way you said it.

> For the stimulus payment.. When you get it is based off a few

things,

> when you filed by, your last 2 digits of your social, and if you

> efiled or mailed them in.

> If you efiled, the latest date is i believe the 15th of may, for

the

> last batch, but most wil have received it by the 9th. (up to last

2

> digits of 75)

> Highly likely you miscalculated when the money would be coming in,

not

> that you wont get it at all. If youre eligible, you'll get it.

> Unfortunately, the govvy loves to be late and slow on things esp

when

> giving money away, but those are the dates outlined on the

official

> IRS website.

> I hope that helps some, and the money comes in so you can

straighten

> out your checking.

>

> -Nina

>

>

> >

> > Well my life offically sucks

> >

> > Ya know that I've been kinda MIA lately, and part of that is my

own

> > fault. I haven't had the energy to be online and I've been

making

> > sure that Pat has had his time online. But anyway the reason that

I

> > wanted to say that my life offically sucks is that Pat has

offically

> > said he's leaving me, I screwed up on our checking account and

as

> > such he said that he's done and is leaving. Yeah we've had other

> > issues and of course I know that they are partly my own fault but

he

> > too is to blame. He says that we've been behind on bills since I

> > quit my job at Taco Bell and in some ways I agree that it was my

own

> > fault that I didn't make sure that I had another job before i

left

> > the one I had. But now I have a job and we are waiting for that

> > economic stimulis money that was supposed to have come in at the

> > beginning of the month like the dates said but since nothing has

> > come in, I over drew our account. I guess maybe the fact that my

> > marriage has finally come to

> > an end is my own doing. That I didn't give my own into the this

> > marriage. That I am not working on things, that I've been hiding

my

> > feelings and have been angry all the time. I don't know anymore.

Pat

> > doesn't talk to me and says that anything that goes wrong is my

own

> > fault. That is what he said.

> > Well I am gonna be gone for a while.

> >

> >

> > Vicki/Lady Vader

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> > www.freewebs. com/victoriadutt on

> >

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> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Vicki,

Don't let him tell you that it is all your fault, I went through that

for years with my second husband. I also went through a lot of

physical abuse but I won't go there. When you have someone telling

you that everything is all your fault then that gets stuck in your

head and you really start believing it so don't listen to him.

I also seen your post that said he wants to come back and work things

out, that's good if that is what you both really want. Just make

sure you are happy with whatever you decide because if you are

miserable everyone around you will be miserable also. I have lived

life like this for many years and I don't want to see anyone live

like this.

You need anything you let me know.

Take care,

>

> Ya know that I've been kinda MIA lately, and part of that is my own

fault. I haven't had the energy to be online and I've been making

sure that Pat has had his time online. But anyway the reason that I

wanted to say that my life offically sucks is that Pat has offically

said he's leaving me, I screwed up on our checking account and as

such he said that he's done and is leaving. Yeah we've had other

issues and of course I know that they are partly my own fault but he

too is to blame. He says that we've been behind on bills since I quit

my job at Taco Bell and in some ways I agree that it was my own fault

that I didn't make sure that I had another job before i left the one

I had. But now I have a job and we are waiting for that economic

stimulis money that was supposed to have come in at the beginning of

the month like the dates said but since nothing has come in, I over

drew our account. I guess maybe the fact that my marriage has finally

come to

> an end is my own doing. That I didn't give my own into the this

marriage. That I am not working on things, that I've been hiding my

feelings and have been angry all the time. I don't know anymore. Pat

doesn't talk to me and says that anything that goes wrong is my own

fault. That is what he said.

> Well I am gonna be gone for a while.

>

>  

> Vicki/Lady Vader 

> www.freewebs.com/romanticdreamscometrue

> www.freewebs.com/victoriadutton

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

I got it right the ol' chocolate wizway, despite my crafty dodges.

[Guest guest]

Vicki,

Don't let him place all the blame on you. It takes two people to make

a marriage work!! Have to thought about marriage counseling and/or

financial counseling??

I hope things work out the way YOU want them to, whether that be

reconcialiation or divorce.

Good Luck!!

N.

[Guest guest]

I also went through a lot of

> physical abuse but I won't go there.

I going to make a quick comment on this one issue and let it rest:

Nobody was put on this earth to be anybody's punching bag.

[Guest guest]

and what did you say??????

Well my life offically sucks

>

>

> Ya know that I've been kinda MIA lately, and part of that is my

own fault. I haven't had the energy to be online and I've been making

sure that Pat has had his time online. But anyway the reason that I

wanted to say that my life offically sucks is that Pat has offically

said he's leaving me, I screwed up on our checking account and as

such he said that he's done and is leaving. Yeah we've had other

issues and of course I know that they are partly my own fault but he

too is to blame. He says that we've been behind on bills since I quit

my job at Taco Bell and in some ways I agree that it was my own fault

that I didn't make sure that I had another job before i left the one

I had. But now I have a job and we are waiting for that economic

stimulis money that was supposed to have come in at the beginning of

the month like the dates said but since nothing has come in, I over

drew our account. I guess maybe the fact that my marriage has finally

come to

> an end is my own doing. That I didn't give my own into the this

marriage. That I am not working on things, that I've been hiding my

feelings and have been angry all the time. I don't know anymore. Pat

doesn't talk to me and says that anything that goes wrong is my own

fault. That is what he said.

> Well I am gonna be gone for a while.

>

>

> Vicki/Lady Vader

> www.freewebs.com/romanticdreamscometrue

> www.freewebs.com/victoriadutton

>

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