Re: off topic---to Kelley/Jean

[Guest guest]

Jean --

I am a music freak and there's this great song out there called " Me Time " by

Headley. It's really to her boyfriend and talks about getting away from

him but it could apply to you getting away from you daughter. Just wanting to

take a break to take of YOU! But you need a complete break, not just a night

off. I know it's hard but you've got to keep working it and get away from her

and her demands on you, both literally and figuratively. You can do it. I

don't think I've ever met stronger women than I have on these boards.

Kelley

cascorsam@... wrote:

Kelley

I lucked out. She couldn't get an extra shift tonight so I was off the

hook. Got to have some ME time. Did a little real estate, did a little

shopping, did a little NOTHING----I liked that the best !

I picked up at the bus stop after school and that was the end of my

duty. He wanted to play chess (he loves chess and he is good), but I told him

he had to stay at home tonight because I needed some time just for me and I

said this in front of her so MAYBE she got it.

also informed me that he has no camp and no school next week. I

know K is working days next week (her regular shifts). I knew I would be

expected to take care of him, but I had already scheduled some real estate appts

for next week. I asked her when she was going to ask me to sit for him and

she said she had forgotten. This is what ticks me off. Even though it is one

of " my boys " , I just don't like being " expected " to do things for her. I

will take on the appts. He will have to read a book in the car while I

show the houses. When I am done, we will spend special time together and

that will be relaxing for me. I enjoy it best when I can take them one at a

time. They don't fight with each other that way and our time together is fun.

Torture for me is when K has to come too, like the boys sports events. Then

I have to pretend I like talking to her. And it is always the same poor me,

whiny crap. I mentioned to her tonight that one of my listings that is

priced too high, will never sell at the rate things are going here. The city it

is in has 1571 listings on the market at this very moment. And it is not

that big a city.

Her response to me is that I am just " too negative for her and if I was

going to be that way, would I please leave " . I left. I would have said

something to her in my defense, but I have reached the point with her that why

should I waste my breathe or my mind. But that is my charming daughter.

folks ! Do any of you wonder why I said the things to her that I said today? I

can take just so much from her and then I bite back. Kind of like Harry (

who, by the way, has been a very good boy lately).

Jean

[Guest guest]

Okay -- Freudian slip: " your " kids.

Kelley

KD Land iaamfno@...> wrote:

Jean:

When you take a strong line, they usually come into line. Now, you've said if

she won't ask for support from the lowlife, you won't babysit. Stick to it and

let her get other babysitters for those nights. AND . . . if she loses her

house, so be it. Do you really think she is sweating the mortgage? No, she is

sweating the lowlife. YOU are the one worrying about the mortgage. Her kids will

pay but that's the way it goes. I'm not meaning to sound blase about all of this

but it is the reality. Her reality is something else and she will only " get it "

when the house is gone. And maybe not even then. But it is her life. You'll know

when to step in terms of your kids.

Read the book " The Glass Castle " by Jeannette Walls. Excellent book and things

won't seem so bad with K.

Kelley

cascorsam@... wrote:

Kelley

I am doing better today. She and I canvassed a complex of $400,000 condos

today. As we were driving away, she started yelling at me and using body

language from her ghetto days. I stopped the car and told her she was NOT

embarassing me while we were supposed to be conducting business. That I had no

intention of looking like some vulgar piece of trash because of her behavior and

filthy mouth. Thankfully the windows were up and the air was on.

She was angry with me because she has been talking on the phone to the

dirtbag and I told her she should ask him for support money for the babies which

she won't do. So, I decided this was my opportunity to tell her if she

couldn't ask her husband to contribute to the support of her children then I was

not baby sitting much from now on and use up my time which I consider valuable.

(I could be showing houses on the 2 nights I have to sit for the kids) I

know she doesn't want to ask him for money because then he might stop calling

her and you know how desperate they are for male validation. I told her I was

not doing what her husband should be doing.

I told her she needs to let him know she is in jeopardy of losing the house

and if he can spend $200 a day (according to him) on coccaine, then he can

damned well support his kids. She screamed at me and stuck her finger in my

face that I always tell her she can't do anything (which I never said). I told

her common sense dictates if your mortgage is $2700 month and you have a car

payment and food and utilities, and you don't make anywhere near that, then

you are probably in a financial mess.

But bottom line, I drove off and told her she was going home and I was

continuing to canvass. Case closed. She met me latter and was composed and

behaving professionally. I will not put up with this crap.

Jean

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 6/16/2006 8:56:57 AM Eastern Standard Time,

iaamfno@... writes:

You can do it. I don't think I've ever met stronger women than I have on

these boards.

Kelley

Hey Sis!

I couldn't agree with you more. Remember, whether we like it or not, we

were the chosen ones, must be because we are stronger than we know! Someone up

there must know just how much we can take. Jean, you can do it.

Kelley, did you get my package yet? I hope it made to you okay. We are

heading to Richmond this Saturday for an Indy race, then onto West VA to visit

friends til Tuesday.

Hope all is well in KY! Been speaking with grandson quite a bit. His mom is

working at the hospital near her in Stamping Ground on Mondays and Tuesdays,

so I call and make sure the two kids are doing okay. His sister is here from

CA for the summer, she is 13.

Good day all!

DebbieL