daughter using my friends

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Hello Group,

I was triggered big time yesterday by an action of my daughters.

A quick update on my situation.

Last October my daughter and son in law accused me of taping them on

a digital recorder. Son in law slammed a glass door in my face

shattering the door all over myself and my younger daughter, never

once giving me a chance to talk. It has now been 8 months of silence,

and during that time, I have had friends of mine tell me that

daughter has told outrageous lies about me, a couple of them even

went so far as to express concern about her needing to be evaluated.

Also during this time, I have learned that she is pregnant for her

third, has been in a hospital, my one year old grandson was in a

hospital for a couple days, very ill...and that she is due in July

for a girl.

This past Monday I was told that daughter was expressing how she has

been thinking of calling me and I have yet to hear from her, and then

last night I got triggered...

A friend of mine, who owned the recorder I was trying to program for

her, ran into my daughter at the local pizza place. She felt a little

uncomfortable because the last time she and daughter had a

conversation, daughter wasn't very nice to her. Daughter told her to

tell me that she was going to have a boy and that she will call me

when its time. (???? My friend says she thinks daughter was talking

about her delivery)

Anyway, what has me upset is that she's going through my friends to

establish communication.

I have a mother and two sibs with BPD and this is a tactic they use

to try and pull me back into their fold.

You see, I have always sat my girls down and we talked things out

over the kitchen table. No games.

This feels as tho she is softening me up for the kill! Like she's

trying to go for all the tender spots, such as: I was there for each

of my grandchildrens births, I have helped them out financially more

than once, I have dealt with the other episodes of silence and been

the first to end it by seeking them out.

I just can't do this anymore.

It's as tho she's pulling out all of the stops to try and get me to

fall back into line.

I want that talk at the kitchen table or no dice!

Ok, I've grumbled enough..

Shaking my head,