Re: I need some advice~might be a little long for some~sorry

[Guest guest]

Your doctor is correct, your husband can use up to 12 weeks of FMLA

leave to help care for you. However, be aware that FMLA is usually

UNPAID leave. And, it IS LEGAL for companies to make you use your

vacation, personal days, sick days etc before they have to approve

the FMLA leave.

Instead of your husband missing so much work, have you two thought

about hiring someone to help you around the house, running errands

and appointments and with the kids?? An older lady who has retired

might be interested in a part time job like that for a couple of

hours a day or maybe even a college student.

Good luck

N.

>

> ok, I believe i posted this to my other fibro group and dident

recieve

> any responce, if it was here Im sorry for reposting. I have to give

a

> little history. I am married and disabeled with 4 young kids ages

8,

> 6, 5, and 10 months. I dont drive unless i have too and only in

town.

> so when I have to go to the doctor my husband has to drive me

because

> my doc is an hour away. I dont drive because it causes extream pain

and

> panic attacks among many other thing Im sure you all understand.

>

> Ok, heres the problem, My husband had to miss a signifigant amount

of

> work due to my illness and appointments. some days i cant get out

of

> bed to care for myself let alone the kids.There for he has had to

miss

> work. Now, they are threateng his job due to absenteesim because

of

> me. So he was told to apply for FMLA (family medical leave act) He

> could get it itermittendt so it would cover any time he would have

to

> miss because of me, as long as its a documented medical condition.

it

> would cover up to 12 weeks a year. i know my doctor will sign the

> papers, hes the one who pushed for my disability. my question is

does

> anyone have any experiance with the FMLA, OR advice or anything, i

need

> something. i dont know how any of this works. also, please excuse

my

> spelling i never could spell even before the fibro. Take care

~~

>

[Guest guest]

> >

> > ok, I believe i posted this to my other fibro group and dident

> recieve

> > any responce, if it was here Im sorry for reposting. I have to give

> a

> > little history. I am married and disabeled with 4 young kids ages

> 8,

> > 6, 5, and 10 months. I dont drive unless i have too and only in

> town.

> > so when I have to go to the doctor my husband has to drive me

> because

> > my doc is an hour away. I dont drive because it causes extream pain

> and

> > panic attacks among many other thing Im sure you all understand.

> >

> > Ok, heres the problem, My husband had to miss a signifigant amount

> of

> > work due to my illness and appointments. some days i cant get out

> of

> > bed to care for myself let alone the kids.There for he has had to

> miss

> > work. Now, they are threateng his job due to absenteesim because

> of

> > me. So he was told to apply for FMLA (family medical leave act) He

> > could get it itermittendt so it would cover any time he would have

> to

> > miss because of me, as long as its a documented medical condition.

> it

> > would cover up to 12 weeks a year. i know my doctor will sign the

> > papers, hes the one who pushed for my disability. my question is

> does

> > anyone have any experiance with the FMLA, OR advice or anything, i

> need

> > something. i dont know how any of this works. also, please excuse

> my

> > spelling i never could spell even before the fibro. Take care

> ~~

> >

>Hi tanya, i was personally on FMLA due to my F.M., yes he can take up

to 12 weeks, but also can take it as needed, he doesn't have to take

the whole 12 weeks all at once! I also had it for my dad when he was

diagnosed with liver cancer and given 6months to live, but sadley lost

my job b/c i fell last May and screwed my shoulder up, and haven't

been able to work since! Godd luck and keep us posted Leanne

[Guest guest]

, it sounds like you are in some difficult circumstances.  I have never

dealt with FMLA.  But it is legal.  I don't think they pay you for the time

missed and I THINK it has to be time that is not broken up into certain days.  I

believe that what I have read, that they have to guarantee him a job when he

returns to work but it does not have to be the same position.  But I think the

time has to be granted in a lump sum of time and not granted here and there for

appointments and such.  (I am not sure). 

I guess there is no way to have anyone else that can take you to the doctor and

help with the children.  You certainly have your hands full honey with that many

children who are so young. 

I hope something works out.  I know that is so difficult.

hugs,

Debra V.

Subject: I need some advice~might be a little long for some~sorry

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

Date: Friday, May 9, 2008, 3:05 PM

ok, I believe i posted this to my other fibro group and dident recieve

any responce, if it was here Im sorry for reposting. I have to give a

little history. I am married and disabeled with 4 young kids ages 8,

6, 5, and 10 months. I dont drive unless i have too and only in town.

so when I have to go to the doctor my husband has to drive me because

my doc is an hour away. I dont drive because it causes extream pain and

panic attacks among many other thing Im sure you all understand.

Ok, heres the problem, My husband had to miss a signifigant amount of

work due to my illness and appointments. some days i cant get out of

bed to care for myself let alone the kids.There for he has had to miss

work. Now, they are threateng his job due to absenteesim because of

me. So he was told to apply for FMLA (family medical leave act) He

could get it itermittendt so it would cover any time he would have to

miss because of me, as long as its a documented medical condition. it

would cover up to 12 weeks a year. i know my doctor will sign the

papers, hes the one who pushed for my disability. my question is does

anyone have any experiance with the FMLA, OR advice or anything, i need

something. i dont know how any of this works. also, please excuse my

spelling i never could spell even before the fibro. Take care ~~

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[Guest guest]

- Yes, he should definitely fill out the paperwork for the FMLA. This

will save his job. My hubby does this for his work as well. It is the whole

reason the FMLA was passed. It's not just for weeks of absence, but also those

day to day needs. The paperwork is a pain, because it has to be repeated

annually, but hey, anything to keep his job protected. HTH.

Jeanne in WI

ok, I believe i posted this to my other fibro group and dident recieve any

responce, if it was here Im sorry for reposting. I have to give a little

history. I am married and disabeled with 4 young kids ages 8, 6, 5, and 10

months. I dont drive unless i have too and only in town.

so when I have to go to the doctor my husband has to drive me because my doc

is an hour away. I dont drive because it causes extream pain and panic attacks

among many other thing Im sure you all understand.

Ok, heres the problem, My husband had to miss a signifigant amount of work due

to my illness and appointments. some days i cant get out of bed to care for

myself let alone the kids.There for he has had to miss work. Now, they are

threateng his job due to absenteesim because of me. So he was told to apply for

FMLA (family medical leave act) He could get it itermittendt so it would cover

any time he would have to miss because of me, as long as its a documented

medical condition. it would cover up to 12 weeks a year. i know my doctor will

sign the papers, hes the one who pushed for my disability. my question is does

anyone have any experiance with the FMLA, OR advice or anything, i need

something. i dont know how any of this works. also, please excuse my spelling i

never could spell even before the fibro. Take care ~~