RE: FMLA(Re: I need some advice~might be a little long for some~sorry)

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During my career, I took FMLA several times or was at least " on the

books " for it. The first time was when my DH had to have surgery; I

only missed one day (the actual surgery) but until he was released, I

would have been covered by the FMLA act, using my vac for the pay.

I also used it for the 2 weeks I was off when my daughter had her

tonsils out (same year as DH, 1 week later) - so I had 2 claims going

and had to let the HR person know who it was for and how many hours.

Then I had to use it for me when I came down with bronchitis. I went

out on short-term disability (but was still protected by FMLA), then

it switched to long-term disability and finally my FMLA ran out. I am

still on LTD, doing the social security dance - waiting for the

hearing actually as I have been turned down twice.

My suggestion for your DH is to get onto the FMLA. Each company is

different but I know the one I worked for had a worksheet that the

employee filled out so they would know if any FMLA hours were used

(as there is a total of 12 wks per yr). Some companies force you to

use vacation and/or sick leave to cover that time lost and with six

of you in the hh, well, you probably can't afford him to NOT have his

full pay.

I would see if there was someone who you could hire, even on a part-

time basis to help you with everything. The older kids are in school

so it would be the littles you'd need the most help with. If you are

involved in a church, could you check with them to see if they have a

ministry that helps? We have " hands extended " which will do

everything from bring out a meal to clean if that's what is needed.

Just a thought. I have considered seeing if any teen girl has a need

to make a little extra money by coming in and cleaning my house once

a week.

Darlene

> > >

> > > ok, I believe i posted this to my other fibro group and dident

> > recieve

> > > any responce, if it was here Im sorry for reposting. I have to

give

> > a

> > > little history. I am married and disabeled with 4 young kids

ages

> > 8,

> > > 6, 5, and 10 months. I dont drive unless i have too and only in

> > town.

> > > so when I have to go to the doctor my husband has to drive me

> > because

> > > my doc is an hour away. I dont drive because it causes extream

pain

> > and

> > > panic attacks among many other thing Im sure you all understand.

> > >

> > > Ok, heres the problem, My husband had to miss a signifigant

amount

> > of

> > > work due to my illness and appointments. some days i cant get

out

> > of

> > > bed to care for myself let alone the kids.There for he has had

to

> > miss

> > > work. Now, they are threateng his job due to absenteesim

because

> > of

> > > me. So he was told to apply for FMLA (family medical leave act)

He

> > > could get it itermittendt so it would cover any time he would

have

> > to

> > > miss because of me, as long as its a documented medical

condition.

> > it

> > > would cover up to 12 weeks a year. i know my doctor will sign

the

> > > papers, hes the one who pushed for my disability. my question

is

> > does

> > > anyone have any experiance with the FMLA, OR advice or

anything, i

> > need

> > > something. i dont know how any of this works. also, please

excuse

> > my

> > > spelling i never could spell even before the fibro. Take care

> > ~~

> > >

> >Hi tanya, i was personally on FMLA due to my F.M., yes he can take

up

> to 12 weeks, but also can take it as needed, he doesn't have to take

> the whole 12 weeks all at once! I also had it for my dad when he was

> diagnosed with liver cancer and given 6months to live, but sadley

lost

> my job b/c i fell last May and screwed my shoulder up, and haven't

> been able to work since! Godd luck and keep us posted Leanne

>