Re: New Topic: Taking care of another's illness, when I am hurting too.

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Can I reply to my own post?

Today my partner has a rash, started two days ago and now spread down inside of

both

legs and a little on belly. Not terrible itchy and not oozing. I simply could

not get on the

saturday bumpy bus and sit in the weekend clinic with her to then be told by a

PA or NP

that she should take Benadryl and someting topical for itching and go to her

regular Dr if

it didn't start to clear uo in a few days. (Everything I would say if she would

listen.)

She got terribly upset, crying that I didn't care; that I was just waiting for

her to go so I can

get on the computer. Then she had a sort of tantrum and said she wasn't going to

come

home.

That's when I asked her to open her mouth and I put a quick dissolving sedative

tablet in

there and gave her a glass of juice. If you are reading that with horror you are

doing ok. I

was a little freaked that I had reached that point too. I know if I were a

nurse my license

would soon be suspended. But I'm not a nurse and I have no back up to turn to. I

stayed

with her till she fell asleep.

So, sleep brings some respite from constant demands for care. I got the dishes

done.

Defrosted supper. Looked up " rashes " on a medical site-they said it could be

allergic (in

wich case Benadryl would help) or viral. We were at e ER two days ago and

that's a fine

place to pickup a virus.

I am exhausted. I hurt everywhere. I have a hard time managing 'nice' let

alone

'cheerfulland caring'.

Actualy I'd like to go outside and throw rocks at the dumpster.

" Which came first, depression or fibro? " - It's meant to be like chicken or egg?

>

> It's not that I don't want to help my partner with her Drs appts and the

symptoms that

she

> has at home. I do. But sometimes I just can't.

> Cassandra

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