Re: slip up / Elaine - Babysitting grands

[Guest guest]

Elaine, sounds like she sure pulled a weekend binge! You have my prayers,

gal. I remember one time I agreed to babysit one of my grandchildren, and

mine was supposed to pick her up the next day. Four or five days later she

showed up, after traveling out of state.....

Sure made me think twice about doing that again! I never really did, come

to think of it. I was always thinking it might happen again.

Blondie

In a message dated 4/10/2006 12:17:20 P.M. Central Daylight Time,

helpbpdmom@... writes:

she shows up at 11:25 after I called ehr at 11:00 wondering where she was,

she was drunk, rude, arrived home fighting with boyfriend, threw me $20, here

sorry, crying, anyway I left went home knowing I am back to the beginning,

grand is so ahppy now to go to DAd's dgter is jealous, bpd kicks in she starts

to drink and watch out SO I am writing to ask you all to keep me in your

prayers as I will have to be really strong in the next few weeks. Crisis alwasy

spills over into her behaviour.

[Guest guest]

Now my daughter has a throat infection. Says she has blisters on her throat

and in her mouth. I am sure that is helpful during labor and delivery to

have a full blown throat infection. I don't know how much more i can take.

She never eats right or takes her vitamins. I feel like she is a child

herself. Cooking has never been her strong point. I have been cooking her

dinners or getting her take out from the local restaurants so she at least

consumes 1 decent meal per day.

Why can't they take care of themselves?

[Guest guest]

Why should she take care of herself when you are doing it for her? Just

something to think about. They won't do what they need to when there is someone

else there to pick up the slack. You are doing all the things that you swore

you would not do. Just a gentle reminder.

Kelley

cascorsam@... wrote:

Now my daughter has a throat infection. Says she has blisters on her throat

and in her mouth. I am sure that is helpful during labor and delivery to

have a full blown throat infection. I don't know how much more i can take.

She never eats right or takes her vitamins. I feel like she is a child

herself. Cooking has never been her strong point. I have been cooking her

dinners or getting her take out from the local restaurants so she at least

consumes 1 decent meal per day.

Why can't they take care of themselves?

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 4/10/2006 6:39:11 PM Eastern Standard Time,

cascorsam@... writes:

Why can't they take care of themselves?

Jean,

They can if they were forced to. She seemed to manage ok when dirtbag first

came home and she was keeping you from the boys. Sounds bad with this throat

infection, hope it doesn't last. I never heard of blisters from a throat

infection, hoping it's not a herpes virus, wouldn't be good for the baby. Did

she

see a dr about this?

DebbieL

[Guest guest]

Debbie

She has her obgyn appt today. They can check her throat as well. She lost

5 lbs in the past 2 weeks mooning over the dirtbag. I told her she needs to

write him off and concentrate on her and her health right now and her safety

for delivery of this baby. Told her she has to learn she comes first.

[Guest guest]

I know that we need to keep our boundaries and limit our enabling. In this

case Jean I don't think you are enabling I think you are supporting a very

pregnant, sickly, and very sad girl. She's in a pretty precarious position;

yes she did it to herself but she has been extremely responsible with

maintaining a job, keeping her children cared for, and keeping the house. I

think you are being a good mother, not enabling but supporting her in a very

important time of need. Whether she is BPD or not any daughter would need help

at this time. My thoughts are with you daily.

cascorsam@... wrote: Debbie

She has her obgyn appt today. They can check her throat as well. She lost

5 lbs in the past 2 weeks mooning over the dirtbag. I told her she needs to

write him off and concentrate on her and her health right now and her safety

for delivery of this baby. Told her she has to learn she comes first.