Re: Re: Jill/overdoing it/ Yep I know--Hinky

[Guest guest]

I'm not on that drug but I tend to do the same thing. When I get a good day - I

go go go go go and it takes me 3 days to recover. I think it's because none of

us can count on being able to do things like cleaning, etc on a 'routine' basis.

hugs

Hinky Hinkydinky@...> wrote:

---Oh gosh Jill....... We deserve the " how dumb can we be awards "

Well here's my synopsis on all this. I think when we are feeling

good, like having a really GOOD, we think well, I'd better take

advantage of this day because I don't know when I'll be able to,

wash, mop, scrub, do laundry, clean under stove & frig, wash the

windows , clean the cat poop etc. again, it may be next week it may

be next year. So we who are cleaning fanatics to begin & with jump at

the chance to get in there and CLEAN. Then we suffer.... and we know

we're going to suffer... and we say why, why, was I so intent on

doing this???? Because we don't know when we will get another chance

to clean and we LOVE clean.....make sense? don't be to hard on

yourself just rest tomorrows another day and then by Wednesday it

will be starting to be better. With me I suffer at least 2 really

bad days then it lightens up.

I'm with ya girl. Soft hugs ....Take care...Hinky

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[Guest guest]

Yep we are all guilty of this, including myself. I try to do a room a day

now. Kitchen the priority. Not that I always do it, but I try. when I weed

outside, I do it in spurts, so as to rest in between. I try, but tend to

push myself farther than I should. Hope we get this down ladies, lol.

Hugs,

> You know what it is, don't you? It's because we feel guilty when our

> major accomplishment for the day was to take the kids to school and

> back, or make a pot of coffee or shower. So on a day when we wake up

> and our hands work like they should and our back isn't throbbing and

> our legs don't feel like jelly or electrified and walking isn't

> painful, we say " hmm, I'm going to dust the living room. " Well

> dusting the living room means we have to vacuum the living room and

> since we have the vacuum out, we go ahead and do all the rooms that

> have carpet. Well, now our living room and possibly our bedrooms

> looking good and we look down at the kitchen floor and say " omg, look

> how filthy that is! " So we pull out the bucket and mop and get to

> work on the floor that has multiple layers of dirt (or in my case

> georgia red mud). There! Now our floor is nice and clean. Then we

> notice that the kitchen hasn't been thoroughly " wiped down " with

> anything, just got lots of kisses and promises. So we pull everything

> out on the counters and spray and scrub until everything gleans. We

> take a break to pee and notice that the shower is filthy and the

> toilet's ring is 2 " all the way around. We finish with our business

> and start on the bathroom. The Ring is going to take awhile so we use

> the stuff with bleach in it. We use our scrubbing bubbles in the

> shower/tub and take down our shower curtain and toss it into the

> washing machine so it gets the mold and mildew off.

>

> By now it's 3pm and (if there are munchkins) kids start coming home.

> So there are snacks and lunches and homework. Oh yeah, don't forget

> about dinner!

>

> So yes, we do it to ourselves, but we have to remember, most of this

> stuff that takes us forever now to accomplish we used to be able to

> do in 2-3 hours by multitasking. I know I can't multitask like I used

> to; I forget what other task I'm working on a lot of the times!

>

> So don't beat yourselves up ladies. Make a schedule on the calendar

> of which room will get the " rock star glitz treatment " and stick with

> that one room. If you feel up to it the next day, go to the next one

> on the list! And if all else fails, call in a maid service *or* see

> if a young teen (possibly in your youth group if you go to church)

> would like to earn some extra $ by helping you with stuff you cannot

> do. It could possibly also be a good service project for the youth!

>

> Darlene

>

>

> > ---Oh gosh Jill....... We deserve the " how dumb can we be awards "

> > Well here's my synopsis on all this. I think when we are feeling

> > good, like having a really GOOD, we think well, I'd better take

> > advantage of this day because I don't know when I'll be able to,

> > wash, mop, scrub, do laundry, clean under stove & frig, wash the

> > windows , clean the cat poop etc. again, it may be next week it may

> > be next year. So we who are cleaning fanatics to begin & with jump

> at

> > the chance to get in there and CLEAN. Then we suffer.... and we

> know

> > we're going to suffer... and we say why, why, was I so intent on

> > doing this???? Because we don't know when we will get another

> chance

> > to clean and we LOVE clean.....make sense? don't be to hard on

> > yourself just rest tomorrows another day and then by Wednesday it

> > will be starting to be better. With me I suffer at least 2 really

> > bad days then it lightens up.

> >

> > I'm with ya girl. Soft hugs ....Take care...Hinky

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

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[Guest guest]

Wow!! Darlene....that's exactly what happened. And I can't tell you how many

times I was trying to multi-task and forgot what I was doing. It was so

frustating!

One way this fibro has been so hard on me is that I am a total clean freak!! I

LOVE my house spotless!! Many times I force myself to clean because I can't

stand it. My husband is also a clean freak and I feel guilty if he comes home

and the house is not immaculate. And, yes, I am a feminist, but I take my job

as a stay-at-home-mom seriously. He's out working hard all day, he shouldn't

have to come home and bust his butt. I'm not saying either that I don't expect

help. Fibro causes so much guilt. I wish I was a better mom and wife. Now, my

husband is not doing well in his job anymore. We have made some financial

decisions that have backfired and my medical bills have been over $20k in the

last 6 months. I now have to go back to work, or we will lose everything. I

can barely function because of pain. I don't know how I'm going to do it. At

times, I honestly hate life.

Jill

Re: Jill/overdoing it/ Yep I know--Hinky

You know what it is, don't you? It's because we feel guilty when our

major accomplishment for the day was to take the kids to school and

back, or make a pot of coffee or shower. So on a day when we wake up

and our hands work like they should and our back isn't throbbing and

our legs don't feel like jelly or electrified and walking isn't

painful, we say " hmm, I'm going to dust the living room. " Well

dusting the living room means we have to vacuum the living room and

since we have the vacuum out, we go ahead and do all the rooms that

have carpet. Well, now our living room and possibly our bedrooms

looking good and we look down at the kitchen floor and say " omg, look

how filthy that is! " So we pull out the bucket and mop and get to

work on the floor that has multiple layers of dirt (or in my case

georgia red mud). There! Now our floor is nice and clean. Then we

notice that the kitchen hasn't been thoroughly " wiped down " with

anything, just got lots of kisses and promises. So we pull everything

out on the counters and spray and scrub until everything gleans. We

take a break to pee and notice that the shower is filthy and the

toilet's ring is 2 " all the way around. We finish with our business

and start on the bathroom. The Ring is going to take awhile so we use

the stuff with bleach in it. We use our scrubbing bubbles in the

shower/tub and take down our shower curtain and toss it into the

washing machine so it gets the mold and mildew off.

By now it's 3pm and (if there are munchkins) kids start coming home.

So there are snacks and lunches and homework. Oh yeah, don't forget

about dinner!

So yes, we do it to ourselves, but we have to remember, most of this

stuff that takes us forever now to accomplish we used to be able to

do in 2-3 hours by multitasking. I know I can't multitask like I used

to; I forget what other task I'm working on a lot of the times!

So don't beat yourselves up ladies. Make a schedule on the calendar

of which room will get the " rock star glitz treatment " and stick with

that one room. If you feel up to it the next day, go to the next one

on the list! And if all else fails, call in a maid service *or* see

if a young teen (possibly in your youth group if you go to church)

would like to earn some extra $ by helping you with stuff you cannot

do. It could possibly also be a good service project for the youth!

Darlene

> ---Oh gosh Jill....... We deserve the " how dumb can we be awards "

> Well here's my synopsis on all this. I think when we are feeling

> good, like having a really GOOD, we think well, I'd better take

> advantage of this day because I don't know when I'll be able to,

> wash, mop, scrub, do laundry, clean under stove & frig, wash the

> windows , clean the cat poop etc. again, it may be next week it may

> be next year. So we who are cleaning fanatics to begin & with jump

at

> the chance to get in there and CLEAN. Then we suffer.... and we

know

> we're going to suffer... and we say why, why, was I so intent on

> doing this???? Because we don't know when we will get another

chance

> to clean and we LOVE clean.....make sense? don't be to hard on

> yourself just rest tomorrows another day and then by Wednesday it

> will be starting to be better. With me I suffer at least 2 really

> bad days then it lightens up.

>

> I'm with ya girl. Soft hugs ....Take care...Hinky

>

>

>

>

>

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