Re: quick response, When you dont want to be the adult today.. :D

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So very true, Nina. You put things in perspective for me. There are

times when I feel so very guilty for not playing with my daughter,

but I have things that need done (and lets face it, no one else is

going to do it!), and I'd like some " me " time every now and then.

Thanks... It's nice to know I'm not alone.

Hugs,

Kristi

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> I found myself in that place alot more a few years ago than I have

> lately, ironically because I actually am probably dealing with

more

> now than i was then.. The thing that makes it easier at this point

is

> i know what i'm dealing with I think.

> For me, and its different for everybody and everyones situation is

> different.. its balance.

> I have kids, and things i cant put aside, and in the times I

> absolutely cant do anything for periods of time i feel so horrible

> like i'm letting my family down.. But I've found I have to balance

> things out. Pick the most important. Is it more important that..

The

> laundry gets folded and the floor vacuumed(and yea not getting

those

> done bugs the heck outa me!!!) or that I spend time outside when i

can

> with my kids? perhaps not the best example, but perhaps the point

is

> there. I completely know what you mean, its so easy to do

everything

> that needs to get done because it needs to get done, and yes some

> things really do. Heres the balance.. Take the down time, give

> yourself time for your body to recover. A little every day, a warm

> bath, sitting on the floor and breathing when theres nobody

around,

> jus easing your mind after a stressful day. If you are married, do

a

> date night. Date can be going to your old favorite spot and staring

at

> stars, or going to a movie, nothing extravagant cause the point is

> just time, nothing more..

> I have found that for me, its very important for me(and my family)

> that i pay that focused attention, there was a period where i

> absolutely couldnt, and i still have times i just feel like their

> lives are fleeting away before me.. But i take every moment I can,

and

> if there is any way i can.. i do.. But my balance is taking time

for

> myself, and my me time is usually very mild and calm LOL.

> The other thing for me that helps is.. Music. I am a music JUNKIE.

I

> was raised in music, my mother is a piano teacher and i grew up

with

> it around, all the time, so its very soothing to me. Different

kinds

> for different days, ive got probably the most random music library

on

> the planet lol. When most ppl are huddled on the couch with a dark

> quiet house, Im huddled on the couch in a dark houes, with

headphones

> on zoning into my music. Whatever the choice of the day is.

> so when I dont want to be the adult.. Ive found things that help

me

> funnel that frustration.. and get past it, cause unfortunately,

life

> doesnt sit still for me to have a good day. Wouldnt that be cool,

if

> it did?? Hang on, get back to me tomorrow and see if i feel better,

k

> thanx reality! talk to you tomorrow!!! Lol.

>

> and there are very definitely some days when there arent important

> things going on, and if i've had a good streak of days and dont

feel

> guilty lol.. the kids and i will have a hang out day. Hey kids,

lets

> cuddle and watch movies and you can eat some popcorn.. as long as

the

> oldest vacuums it up for me!!! hahah.

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