New Topic: Taking care of another's illness, when I am hurting too.

[Guest guest]

We were at e ER two days ago and that's a fine

> place to pickup a virus.

>

The rash sounds like a Histamine reaction.

Ruling out possible sources, new clothing, things like latex,

chemical, or even an insect bite.

Does it seem like your parter came into contact with something out of

the ordinary, or has this occurred before?

I had a severe Histamine reaction to a spider bite on my forearm,

absolutely painless until it blew up the size of a baseball.

[Guest guest]

Thanks - Could be Histimine. The trees and such have gone from tight

little budlets

too leafy clumps over the past few days. It's been a while since we did laundry.

She had

been taking Benadryl for a couple weeks and then stopped a few days ago, saying

it made

feel " wound-up " . You and I could sit and chat about Histimine reactions,

starched hopital

linens and spider bites (I had a nasty one once too.) None of which helps with

the feeling

of being unsuported in a caregiver role, when feeling 'poopy' oneself.

>

> We were at e ER two days ago and that's a fine

> > place to pickup a virus.

> >

> The rash sounds like a Histamine reaction.

>

> Ruling out possible sources, new clothing, things like latex,

> chemical, or even an insect bite.

>

> Does it seem like your parter came into contact with something out of

> the ordinary, or has this occurred before?

>

> I had a severe Histamine reaction to a spider bite on my forearm,

> absolutely painless until it blew up the size of a baseball.

>

[Guest guest]

>

>

>

She had

> been taking Benadryl for a couple weeks and then stopped a few days

ago, saying it made

> feel " wound-up " .

That's interesting, did the sudden stop in taking Benadryl and onset

of the rash occur near or at the same time?

[Guest guest]

, Yes, She stopped taing the Benadryl and after about 24hrs had developed

a mildly

itchy raised red rash on both inner thighs. Only other thing different is one

new med (a

PRN) that she had only one dose of before the rash. I checked the drug insert

and there

was no mention of rash. Cassandra

> >

> >

> >

> She had

> > been taking Benadryl for a couple weeks and then stopped a few days

> ago, saying it made

> > feel " wound-up " .

>

> That's interesting, did the sudden stop in taking Benadryl and onset

> of the rash occur near or at the same time?

>

[Guest guest]

Also is the rash prominent or expands from the fold or seam where the

inner thigh and groin meets?

Folds of skin are " catch all's " and can develop yeast, bacteria, and

other uninvited visitors the area remains moist.

Have you heard a product called -Gold Bond-?

http://www.goldbond.com/

[Guest guest]

Bingo !

Starts in fold of inner, upper, thigh and progresess down the leg. She has been

on

ammoxicillin for approx 10 days and is to have a full (30 days, I believe)

course, for

treatment of an infection in the lungs. Yes, Gold Bond Rocks! I shall run

(HaHaHaHa) out

to Rite Aid and get some first thing in the morning. What are you anyway, a

retired

Scientist? Now what about my ANGST? will Gold Bond Help? Probobly better if I

go the

usual route and just call my therapist repeatedly.

Cassandra

>

> Also is the rash prominent or expands from the fold or seam where the

> inner thigh and groin meets?

>

> Folds of skin are " catch all's " and can develop yeast, bacteria, and

> other uninvited visitors the area remains moist.

>

> Have you heard a product called -Gold Bond-?

> http://www.goldbond.com/

>

[Guest guest]

I'm not a doctor, especially if you see my posts and view point on the

majority of them.

I do have a high degree of memory retention, and file away odd ball

things that may be helpful later.

The problem does seem to stem from the area inside the fold of skin

not having a chance to dry out properly and its feeding the rash.

The Gold Bond should work.

[Guest guest]

Dear - I would never have mistaken you for a Dr. Just you have a very tidy,

analytical,

way of looking at things that made me think " Scientist. " My Partner did a lot of

work in

Molecular Biology and before that in Cell Biology. When she is having a good day

the

Science-Geek part of her shines. Me, I'm more into " GRRR, I'm off to throw

rocks at the

dumpster. " Cassandra

>

> I'm not a doctor, especially if you see my posts and view point on the

> majority of them.

>

> I do have a high degree of memory retention, and file away odd ball

> things that may be helpful later.

>

> The problem does seem to stem from the area inside the fold of skin

> not having a chance to dry out properly and its feeding the rash.

>

> The Gold Bond should work.

>

[Guest guest]

I'd like to focus on the " when I'm hurting too. " part of it. So far all I have

is my Two ideas,

which are:

1)when I really can't handle it, sedate her (to prevent herdoing harmt to self

or others) and

2) Go throw rocks aat the dumpster. Well it's pitch dark out an raining so I

can't do that.

Anyone else out there in a caregiver role?

How do you cope?

Anyone else at the point where you have to put all meds and anything marked

" keep out of

reach of children " into a steel toolbox with a padlock on it? Pretty desperate,

huh?

Exhaustion,

Cassandra

[Guest guest]

I was a " extreme' caregiver to my mother-in-law prior to the arrival of

my daughter.

She had congestive heart failure and Parkinsons disease.

I cooked, did the house work,ran errands,took care of her bills and

other affairs.

During the last stage before we admitted her (Forced) to the hospital,

I was on bathroom call 24 hours a day, that translates in me the son-in-

law answering a walkee-talkee call (means of communication), getting

her out of her chair, walking her to the porta-potty 3 feet away, any

wiping she had to do on her own. (my hand would have fallen off) I'm

not her husband or daughter and any " cleansing " would have gone over

the line.

Part of the decision to hospitalize her was she was refusing to care

for herself and was at deaths door in that stupid chair. (Literally,

about 72 hrs)

Plus we had a new baby to care for now and the mother-in-law already

had 80 years on planet earth, a nursing home was available and could

provide a better level of care that I or my wife could have.

I could spend a week outlining the various types of care provided here,

it was a problem that was delt with and I have no intention of

repeating it, or passing it on to my daughter.

Do what you can when you can, and don't feel guilty about if you find

yourself unable to " do it all " .

We all have our limits and need to realize when to stop.

[Guest guest]

Thanks , you said just enough.

I still want to go throw rocks at the dumpster.... Cassandra

>

> I was a " extreme' caregiver to my mother-in-law prior to the arrival of

> my daughter.

>

> She had congestive heart failure and Parkinsons disease.

>

> I cooked, did the house work,ran errands,took care of her bills and

> other affairs.

>

> During the last stage before we admitted her (Forced) to the hospital,

> I was on bathroom call 24 hours a day, that translates in me the son-in-

> law answering a walkee-talkee call (means of communication), getting

> her out of her chair, walking her to the porta-potty 3 feet away, any

> wiping she had to do on her own. (my hand would have fallen off) I'm

> not her husband or daughter and any " cleansing " would have gone over

> the line.

>

> Part of the decision to hospitalize her was she was refusing to care

> for herself and was at deaths door in that stupid chair. (Literally,

> about 72 hrs)

>

> Plus we had a new baby to care for now and the mother-in-law already

> had 80 years on planet earth, a nursing home was available and could

> provide a better level of care that I or my wife could have.

>

> I could spend a week outlining the various types of care provided here,

> it was a problem that was delt with and I have no intention of

> repeating it, or passing it on to my daughter.

>

> Do what you can when you can, and don't feel guilty about if you find

> yourself unable to " do it all " .

>

> We all have our limits and need to realize when to stop.

>

[Guest guest]

I have my Mr Hyde or Incredible Hulk transformation like other folks,

I'm just less prone to the switch, as I get older and realize life is

too short to stay PO'd.

[Guest guest]

Ever try spit wads instead of rocks?

It's quiet and the wads stick.

[Guest guest]

Anger takes way too much energy :-)

I took care of my husband while he was dying of CHF and diabetes. I did

everything. I bathed him, changed him, dressed him, changed the hospital bed,

fed him, breathed into his mouth when he couldn't breath. I lifted him from bed

to chair. All this time I stopped treatment for my spine.

Annie in TN

Loest boltzero@...> wrote:

I have my Mr Hyde or Incredible Hulk transformation like other folks,

I'm just less prone to the switch, as I get older and realize life is

too short to stay PO'd.

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