Re: Re: Why Do Friends Not Believe Us/ and now family too/terry

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I get that too, from my dd and dh. My grass out back is up to my waist or

higher. I do some stuff as I am able, but I know how it is to not be able to

do it also. I am sorry hun. Smile and the world smiles with you.

Big Hugs,

> And it's not just friends (as I'm sure you all know).

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> I asked my 29 year old daughter who works for a doctor, by the way, to

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> me out with a yard work project this weekend since I can't do it and also

> cannot expect hubby to do it all. Gees, you would have thought I asked

> her

> to cut off her arm. And I only asked for about an hour of her time. We

> talked about the fibro and my herniated disk and she had said, yeah, well

> my

> back hurts too. Not saying her back doesn't hurt but she's 20 years

> younger

> than I am. I thought she understood about my physical state, but after

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> conversation - I think she thinks I'm being lazy.

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> God, I used to go out and do tons of yard work and help my dad split wood

> and stack and haul it, clean his house and do everything around my house

> due

> to an ex-husband who thought everything was a " woman's job " plus raise 3

> kids and work a full time and part time job. Now I get frustrated because

> I

> can't rake and when I need a little help from my daughter I get nothing

> but

> grief - but it was okay that we let her come and live with us numerous

> times, including the last time when she first had the baby and supported

> them. Not too mention numerous things we still do for her now. Not

> asking

> her to pay us back, but a little help here and there when I really need it

> isn't too much to ask for.

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> Sorry, venting - just hurting really bad today and am hurt and frustrated

> that I can't get her to believe me more than getting her to actually help

> me

> with something.

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> Teri (central Wisconsin)

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> Re: Why Do " Friends " Not Believe Us

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> Welcome and sorry you have to be here. But glad you found us. That

> supposed friend sounds like alot of others we all rub shoulders with.

> Can't change those who have closed their minds.

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> girlsaylor

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> I recently had a situation

> > with a long time friend (we had been friends since grade school)that

> > made me really realize that unless you have this debilitating pain,

> > you really don't understand what we feel like. Upon ending our

> > friendship she sent me a hateful letter stating that she didn't ever

> > believe that I had fibro.

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