Re: Done, Well Done, Overcooked Even

[Guest guest]

Marti, it is so good to see you back online. You have been sorely missed.

I'm sorry for all of the stuff that you are going through on top of your

health. I know that I would be in your position, too, if it weren't for my

daughter and her husband taking me to live with their family.

Love and gentle hugs,

Debi/Central Cal.-55

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Oh Marti,

You have no idea how glad I am to hear your voice! Even if I only

read it here on the boards and in the email! Bless you dear for your

continued perseverance. May you be blessed with understanding folk. I

know all about suffering the mess with foreclosure, been there and

done that, had to bail out with bankruptcy or have all of us thrown

to the street, at the time, as there are now, seven people living

here in the house.

I wish I lived closer, would try to help. As to SSDI, my sympathies,

it's ridiculous the waiting periods we must suffer from.

>

> Hi all,

> For those who are new since I have been away Welcome. I am Marti

and have been having chemo treatments that have worn me out, (for

bone cancer), I live alone and have three grown children and a cousin

who have been helping me through this ordeal. I just got home from

spending a week with my son.

>

> I live in CT. My daughter Andi is 34, lives in CT too, is

married to Joe and has three boys, Jack 6, Brady 3 and Aidan who just

turned 1 last week. My daughter (I raised her, but she is not really

related to me, couldn't adopt her because her father who abandoned

her wouldn't let me) Liz is 34, lives in New York, is married to

and has two boys Riley almost 6 and Zachary 2. (Zachary, by the

way for those who are praying for him, has been found to have a very

serious infection in his hip and that is why he can't walk, it will

require massive surgery and don't know the prognosis yet). My son

is almost 31, lives in Boston and has a special someone in his

life now and I hope the relationship will move forward, but we will

have to wait and see.

>

> I have Fibromyalgia, duh, Sarcoidosis that affects my lungs and

my eyes the worst, Hypothyroidism, AADD, Sleep Apnea, Narcolepsy,

Acid Reflux Disease, IBS, Asthma and Allergies, and probably

something else I can't remember. Some of these things are treated

and some are not. I am one who takes pain medication. Before the

bone cancer, I was taking 5mg of hydrocodone 3X day, or all at once

depending on the day. I've been taking some stronger drugs for the

bone pain, but it has lessened now and so am going back to the

hydrocodone. I am also taking drugs for Depression and Anxiety.

>

> I also have severe money problems and my home is in foreclosure.

I am trying to stop it, but will have to move anyway as I can't work,

don't collect SSD, and will lose my severance pay in February 2009

and will be down to my retirement of 11,000/year. My son has

offerred to move to a bigger place so I can move in with him, but I

hate to burden him that way. My daughter Andi is willing to help me

move, but offerrs no help otherwise. She has issues! Liz is out of

the picture for now, has enough on her plate. I'm hoping to find

some way to stay around here, with assistance, so I won't leave my

grandchildren. They are the light in my life right now.

>

> Well that's my life story for now. I don't know how much I will

be on line while I am working on all of these things and trying to

recover some strength. At least I'm done with Chemo. Don't know the

prognosis yet, but think it will at least be better than it was.

>

> To all my friends in the group, thank you for all of your prayers

and warm thoughts. I appreciate them all. Thanks for the phone

calls and the cards, both through e-mail and snail mail. I am

overwhelmed at your caring so much about me. I don't get that much -

even from my family. Thank you so much for hanging in there with me

and waiting for me to get back. I hope to join in as much as I can

for now and hopefully can start to participate more as time goes on,

unless I lose my Internet connection. I will warn you if that is

about to happen. Shouldn't be for several months anyway.

>

> It's good to be home again and not hooked up to anything.

>

> Love to all,

> Marti

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Oh Marti (((huggles))) What a lot you have on your plate right now. Swallow your

pride sweetie and move in with your son. You can help him and he will be there

to help you. Just my opinion.

warm gentle huggles

Marti Boguski martibowenboguski@...> wrote:

Hi all,

For those who are new since I have been away Welcome. I am Marti and have been

having chemo treatments that have worn me out, (for bone cancer), I live alone

and have three grown children and a cousin who have been helping me through this

ordeal. I just got home from spending a week with my son.

I live in CT. My daughter Andi is 34, lives in CT too, is married to Joe and has

three boys, Jack 6, Brady 3 and Aidan who just turned 1 last week. My daughter

(I raised her, but she is not really related to me, couldn't adopt her because

her father who abandoned her wouldn't let me) Liz is 34, lives in New York, is

married to and has two boys Riley almost 6 and Zachary 2. (Zachary, by the

way for those who are praying for him, has been found to have a very serious

infection in his hip and that is why he can't walk, it will require massive

surgery and don't know the prognosis yet). My son is almost 31, lives in

Boston and has a special someone in his life now and I hope the relationship

will move forward, but we will have to wait and see.

I have Fibromyalgia, duh, Sarcoidosis that affects my lungs and my eyes the

worst, Hypothyroidism, AADD, Sleep Apnea, Narcolepsy, Acid Reflux Disease, IBS,

Asthma and Allergies, and probably something else I can't remember. Some of

these things are treated and some are not. I am one who takes pain medication.

Before the bone cancer, I was taking 5mg of hydrocodone 3X day, or all at once

depending on the day. I've been taking some stronger drugs for the bone pain,

but it has lessened now and so am going back to the hydrocodone. I am also

taking drugs for Depression and Anxiety.

I also have severe money problems and my home is in foreclosure. I am trying to

stop it, but will have to move anyway as I can't work, don't collect SSD, and

will lose my severance pay in February 2009 and will be down to my retirement of

11,000/year. My son has offerred to move to a bigger place so I can move in with

him, but I hate to burden him that way. My daughter Andi is willing to help me

move, but offerrs no help otherwise. She has issues! Liz is out of the picture

for now, has enough on her plate. I'm hoping to find some way to stay around

here, with assistance, so I won't leave my grandchildren. They are the light in

my life right now.

Well that's my life story for now. I don't know how much I will be on line while

I am working on all of these things and trying to recover some strength. At

least I'm done with Chemo. Don't know the prognosis yet, but think it will at

least be better than it was.

To all my friends in the group, thank you for all of your prayers and warm

thoughts. I appreciate them all. Thanks for the phone calls and the cards, both

through e-mail and snail mail. I am overwhelmed at your caring so much about me.

I don't get that much - even from my family. Thank you so much for hanging in

there with me and waiting for me to get back. I hope to join in as much as I can

for now and hopefully can start to participate more as time goes on, unless I

lose my Internet connection. I will warn you if that is about to happen.

Shouldn't be for several months anyway.

It's good to be home again and not hooked up to anything.

Love to all,

Marti

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Welcome back Marti! Good thoughts going your way with everything~

Teri (central Wisconsin)

Done, Well Done, Overcooked Even

Hi all,

For those who are new since I have been away Welcome. I am Marti and have

been having chemo treatments that have worn me out, (for bone cancer), I

live alone and have three grown children and a cousin who have been helping

me through this ordeal. I just got home from spending a week with my son.

I live in CT. My daughter Andi is 34, lives in CT too, is married to Joe and

has three boys, Jack 6, Brady 3 and Aidan who just turned 1 last week. My

daughter (I raised her, but she is not really related to me, couldn't adopt

her because her father who abandoned her wouldn't let me) Liz is 34, lives

in New York, is married to and has two boys Riley almost 6 and Zachary

2. (Zachary, by the way for those who are praying for him, has been found to

have a very serious infection in his hip and that is why he can't walk, it

will require massive surgery and don't know the prognosis yet). My son

is almost 31, lives in Boston and has a special someone in his life now and

I hope the relationship will move forward, but we will have to wait and see.

I have Fibromyalgia, duh, Sarcoidosis that affects my lungs and my eyes the

worst, Hypothyroidism, AADD, Sleep Apnea, Narcolepsy, Acid Reflux Disease,

IBS, Asthma and Allergies, and probably something else I can't remember.

Some of these things are treated and some are not. I am one who takes pain

medication. Before the bone cancer, I was taking 5mg of hydrocodone 3X day,

or all at once depending on the day. I've been taking some stronger drugs

for the bone pain, but it has lessened now and so am going back to the

hydrocodone. I am also taking drugs for Depression and Anxiety.

I also have severe money problems and my home is in foreclosure. I am trying

to stop it, but will have to move anyway as I can't work, don't collect SSD,

and will lose my severance pay in February 2009 and will be down to my

retirement of 11,000/year. My son has offerred to move to a bigger place so

I can move in with him, but I hate to burden him that way. My daughter Andi

is willing to help me move, but offerrs no help otherwise. She has issues!

Liz is out of the picture for now, has enough on her plate. I'm hoping to

find some way to stay around here, with assistance, so I won't leave my

grandchildren. They are the light in my life right now.

Well that's my life story for now. I don't know how much I will be on line

while I am working on all of these things and trying to recover some

strength. At least I'm done with Chemo. Don't know the prognosis yet, but

think it will at least be better than it was.

To all my friends in the group, thank you for all of your prayers and warm

thoughts. I appreciate them all. Thanks for the phone calls and the cards,

both through e-mail and snail mail. I am overwhelmed at your caring so much

about me. I don't get that much - even from my family. Thank you so much for

hanging in there with me and waiting for me to get back. I hope to join in

as much as I can for now and hopefully can start to participate more as time

goes on, unless I lose my Internet connection. I will warn you if that is

about to happen. Shouldn't be for several months anyway.

It's good to be home again and not hooked up to anything.

Love to all,

Marti

[Guest guest]

Glad you are back Marti, I hope all your problems with your health and

your financial woes will improve.

G

Marti Boguski martibowenboguski@...> wrote:

Hi all,

For those who are new since I have been away Welcome. I am Marti and have been

having chemo treatments that have worn me out, (for bone cancer), I live alone

and have three grown children and a cousin who have been helping me through this

ordeal. I just got home from spending a week with my son.

I live in CT. My daughter Andi is 34, lives in CT too, is married to Joe and has

three boys, Jack 6, Brady 3 and Aidan who just turned 1 last week. My daughter

(I raised her, but she is not really related to me, couldn't adopt her because

her father who abandoned her wouldn't let me) Liz is 34, lives in New York, is

married to and has two boys Riley almost 6 and Zachary 2. (Zachary, by the

way for those who are praying for him, has been found to have a very serious

infection in his hip and that is why he can't walk, it will require massive

surgery and don't know the prognosis yet). My son is almost 31, lives in

Boston and has a special someone in his life now and I hope the relationship

will move forward, but we will have to wait and see.

I have Fibromyalgia, duh, Sarcoidosis that affects my lungs and my eyes the

worst, Hypothyroidism, AADD, Sleep Apnea, Narcolepsy, Acid Reflux Disease, IBS,

Asthma and Allergies, and probably something else I can't remember. Some of

these things are treated and some are not. I am one who takes pain medication.

Before the bone cancer, I was taking 5mg of hydrocodone 3X day, or all at once

depending on the day. I've been taking some stronger drugs for the bone pain,

but it has lessened now and so am going back to the hydrocodone. I am also

taking drugs for Depression and Anxiety.

I also have severe money problems and my home is in foreclosure. I am trying to

stop it, but will have to move anyway as I can't work, don't collect SSD, and

will lose my severance pay in February 2009 and will be down to my retirement of

11,000/year. My son has offerred to move to a bigger place so I can move in with

him, but I hate to burden him that way. My daughter Andi is willing to help me

move, but offerrs no help otherwise. She has issues! Liz is out of the picture

for now, has enough on her plate. I'm hoping to find some way to stay around

here, with assistance, so I won't leave my grandchildren. They are the light in

my life right now.

Well that's my life story for now. I don't know how much I will be on line while

I am working on all of these things and trying to recover some strength. At

least I'm done with Chemo. Don't know the prognosis yet, but think it will at

least be better than it was.

To all my friends in the group, thank you for all of your prayers and warm

thoughts. I appreciate them all. Thanks for the phone calls and the cards, both

through e-mail and snail mail. I am overwhelmed at your caring so much about me.

I don't get that much - even from my family. Thank you so much for hanging in

there with me and waiting for me to get back. I hope to join in as much as I can

for now and hopefully can start to participate more as time goes on, unless I

lose my Internet connection. I will warn you if that is about to happen.

Shouldn't be for several months anyway.

It's good to be home again and not hooked up to anything.

Love to all,

Marti

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much Debbie. I'm glad to be back, in what ever capacity I can be

here. I really missed it.

Marti

deebs87 dlohf@...> wrote:

Welcome back to the group Marti!

What an ordeal you have been through. Glad you are back now. You have

been very missed here. Hope you had a chance to rest up while visiting

your son. Take care.

soft hugs,

Debbie L

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much . I appreciate your support a lot. It's nice to know I

was missed. I missed you all very much. No one to vent to.

How did bankruptcy help you keep your house? I live alone and the assistance

offerred for one person is very low. I'm also worried about losing my doctors

because of the insurance I won't be able to pay for anymore and I'm sure a lot

of them won't take medicaid.

Thanks for your kind, heartfelt words. They mean alot. And I'm glad to

" hear " your voice again too.

Marti

poeticart169@...> wrote:

Oh Marti,

You have no idea how glad I am to hear your voice! Even if I only

read it here on the boards and in the email! Bless you dear for your

continued perseverance. May you be blessed with understanding folk. I

know all about suffering the mess with foreclosure, been there and

done that, had to bail out with bankruptcy or have all of us thrown

to the street, at the time, as there are now, seven people living

here in the house.

I wish I lived closer, would try to help. As to SSDI, my sympathies,

it's ridiculous the waiting periods we must suffer from.

>

> Hi all,

> For those who are new since I have been away Welcome. I am Marti

and have been having chemo treatments that have worn me out, (for

bone cancer), I live alone and have three grown children and a cousin

who have been helping me through this ordeal. I just got home from

spending a week with my son.

>

> I live in CT. My daughter Andi is 34, lives in CT too, is

married to Joe and has three boys, Jack 6, Brady 3 and Aidan who just

turned 1 last week. My daughter (I raised her, but she is not really

related to me, couldn't adopt her because her father who abandoned

her wouldn't let me) Liz is 34, lives in New York, is married to

and has two boys Riley almost 6 and Zachary 2. (Zachary, by the

way for those who are praying for him, has been found to have a very

serious infection in his hip and that is why he can't walk, it will

require massive surgery and don't know the prognosis yet). My son

is almost 31, lives in Boston and has a special someone in his

life now and I hope the relationship will move forward, but we will

have to wait and see.

>

> I have Fibromyalgia, duh, Sarcoidosis that affects my lungs and

my eyes the worst, Hypothyroidism, AADD, Sleep Apnea, Narcolepsy,

Acid Reflux Disease, IBS, Asthma and Allergies, and probably

something else I can't remember. Some of these things are treated

and some are not. I am one who takes pain medication. Before the

bone cancer, I was taking 5mg of hydrocodone 3X day, or all at once

depending on the day. I've been taking some stronger drugs for the

bone pain, but it has lessened now and so am going back to the

hydrocodone. I am also taking drugs for Depression and Anxiety.

>

> I also have severe money problems and my home is in foreclosure.

I am trying to stop it, but will have to move anyway as I can't work,

don't collect SSD, and will lose my severance pay in February 2009

and will be down to my retirement of 11,000/year. My son has

offerred to move to a bigger place so I can move in with him, but I

hate to burden him that way. My daughter Andi is willing to help me

move, but offerrs no help otherwise. She has issues! Liz is out of

the picture for now, has enough on her plate. I'm hoping to find

some way to stay around here, with assistance, so I won't leave my

grandchildren. They are the light in my life right now.

>

> Well that's my life story for now. I don't know how much I will

be on line while I am working on all of these things and trying to

recover some strength. At least I'm done with Chemo. Don't know the

prognosis yet, but think it will at least be better than it was.

>

> To all my friends in the group, thank you for all of your prayers

and warm thoughts. I appreciate them all. Thanks for the phone

calls and the cards, both through e-mail and snail mail. I am

overwhelmed at your caring so much about me. I don't get that much -

even from my family. Thank you so much for hanging in there with me

and waiting for me to get back. I hope to join in as much as I can

for now and hopefully can start to participate more as time goes on,

unless I lose my Internet connection. I will warn you if that is

about to happen. Shouldn't be for several months anyway.

>

> It's good to be home again and not hooked up to anything.

>

> Love to all,

> Marti

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much for your note of welcome back. I have missed you also.

I appreciate you caring words and thoughts.

I wish it were so that I could live with my daughter and her family, but they

are not willing to do that. I would love to be with my grandchildren and think

myself a part of the family. But I will have to find another solution -

whatever that may be.

Thanks again,

Marti

C012553@... wrote:

Marti, it is so good to see you back online. You have been sorely

missed.

I'm sorry for all of the stuff that you are going through on top of your

health. I know that I would be in your position, too, if it weren't for my

daughter and her husband taking me to live with their family.

Love and gentle hugs,

Debi/Central Cal.-55

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Thanks for the suggestion. I will move in with him if that is how it works

out. It's not my pride that would keep me from it. He likes his space and so

do I. We get along fine, but probably wouldn't always if we lived together. It

would work out if need be. I just hate to make him move from his place that he

loves. It's also that he lives in Boston and I would never get to see my

grandchildren. Also, he is a special ed teacher and doesn't make much money.

We would probably still need money from somewhere. And it would saddle him with

a mortgage that would be hard for him. He already has to work two jobs to make

ends meet.

I wish my daughter felt the same way he did, because they are the ones with

the money and the room, but unfortunately they don't believe in sharing. I'm

waiting to see what happens when it comes right down to the point of decision.

Maybe they will change their minds. She doesn't want me to go to Boston because

I help out with the kids a lot so they don't have day care.

Thanks for the warm wishes and the advice. It's well appreciated.

Take care,

Marti

in AZ oriana_az@...> wrote:

Oh Marti (((huggles))) What a lot you have on your plate right now.

Swallow your pride sweetie and move in with your son. You can help him and he

will be there to help you. Just my opinion.

warm gentle huggles

Marti Boguski martibowenboguski@...> wrote:

Hi all,

For those who are new since I have been away Welcome. I am Marti and have been

having chemo treatments that have worn me out, (for bone cancer), I live alone

and have three grown children and a cousin who have been helping me through this

ordeal. I just got home from spending a week with my son.

I live in CT. My daughter Andi is 34, lives in CT too, is married to Joe and has

three boys, Jack 6, Brady 3 and Aidan who just turned 1 last week. My daughter

(I raised her, but she is not really related to me, couldn't adopt her because

her father who abandoned her wouldn't let me) Liz is 34, lives in New York, is

married to and has two boys Riley almost 6 and Zachary 2. (Zachary, by the

way for those who are praying for him, has been found to have a very serious

infection in his hip and that is why he can't walk, it will require massive

surgery and don't know the prognosis yet). My son is almost 31, lives in

Boston and has a special someone in his life now and I hope the relationship

will move forward, but we will have to wait and see.

I have Fibromyalgia, duh, Sarcoidosis that affects my lungs and my eyes the

worst, Hypothyroidism, AADD, Sleep Apnea, Narcolepsy, Acid Reflux Disease, IBS,

Asthma and Allergies, and probably something else I can't remember. Some of

these things are treated and some are not. I am one who takes pain medication.

Before the bone cancer, I was taking 5mg of hydrocodone 3X day, or all at once

depending on the day. I've been taking some stronger drugs for the bone pain,

but it has lessened now and so am going back to the hydrocodone. I am also

taking drugs for Depression and Anxiety.

I also have severe money problems and my home is in foreclosure. I am trying to

stop it, but will have to move anyway as I can't work, don't collect SSD, and

will lose my severance pay in February 2009 and will be down to my retirement of

11,000/year. My son has offerred to move to a bigger place so I can move in with

him, but I hate to burden him that way. My daughter Andi is willing to help me

move, but offerrs no help otherwise. She has issues! Liz is out of the picture

for now, has enough on her plate. I'm hoping to find some way to stay around

here, with assistance, so I won't leave my grandchildren. They are the light in

my life right now.

Well that's my life story for now. I don't know how much I will be on line while

I am working on all of these things and trying to recover some strength. At

least I'm done with Chemo. Don't know the prognosis yet, but think it will at

least be better than it was.

To all my friends in the group, thank you for all of your prayers and warm

thoughts. I appreciate them all. Thanks for the phone calls and the cards, both

through e-mail and snail mail. I am overwhelmed at your caring so much about me.

I don't get that much - even from my family. Thank you so much for hanging in

there with me and waiting for me to get back. I hope to join in as much as I can

for now and hopefully can start to participate more as time goes on, unless I

lose my Internet connection. I will warn you if that is about to happen.

Shouldn't be for several months anyway.

It's good to be home again and not hooked up to anything.

Love to all,

Marti

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Thanks Teri. I appreciate it. Good thoughts going your way too.

Take care,

Marti

Teri Wallner terenia58@...> wrote:

Welcome back Marti! Good thoughts going your way with everything~

Teri (central Wisconsin)

Done, Well Done, Overcooked Even

Hi all,

For those who are new since I have been away Welcome. I am Marti and have

been having chemo treatments that have worn me out, (for bone cancer), I

live alone and have three grown children and a cousin who have been helping

me through this ordeal. I just got home from spending a week with my son.

I live in CT. My daughter Andi is 34, lives in CT too, is married to Joe and

has three boys, Jack 6, Brady 3 and Aidan who just turned 1 last week. My

daughter (I raised her, but she is not really related to me, couldn't adopt

her because her father who abandoned her wouldn't let me) Liz is 34, lives

in New York, is married to and has two boys Riley almost 6 and Zachary

2. (Zachary, by the way for those who are praying for him, has been found to

have a very serious infection in his hip and that is why he can't walk, it

will require massive surgery and don't know the prognosis yet). My son

is almost 31, lives in Boston and has a special someone in his life now and

I hope the relationship will move forward, but we will have to wait and see.

I have Fibromyalgia, duh, Sarcoidosis that affects my lungs and my eyes the

worst, Hypothyroidism, AADD, Sleep Apnea, Narcolepsy, Acid Reflux Disease,

IBS, Asthma and Allergies, and probably something else I can't remember.

Some of these things are treated and some are not. I am one who takes pain

medication. Before the bone cancer, I was taking 5mg of hydrocodone 3X day,

or all at once depending on the day. I've been taking some stronger drugs

for the bone pain, but it has lessened now and so am going back to the

hydrocodone. I am also taking drugs for Depression and Anxiety.

I also have severe money problems and my home is in foreclosure. I am trying

to stop it, but will have to move anyway as I can't work, don't collect SSD,

and will lose my severance pay in February 2009 and will be down to my

retirement of 11,000/year. My son has offerred to move to a bigger place so

I can move in with him, but I hate to burden him that way. My daughter Andi

is willing to help me move, but offerrs no help otherwise. She has issues!

Liz is out of the picture for now, has enough on her plate. I'm hoping to

find some way to stay around here, with assistance, so I won't leave my

grandchildren. They are the light in my life right now.

Well that's my life story for now. I don't know how much I will be on line

while I am working on all of these things and trying to recover some

strength. At least I'm done with Chemo. Don't know the prognosis yet, but

think it will at least be better than it was.

To all my friends in the group, thank you for all of your prayers and warm

thoughts. I appreciate them all. Thanks for the phone calls and the cards,

both through e-mail and snail mail. I am overwhelmed at your caring so much

about me. I don't get that much - even from my family. Thank you so much for

hanging in there with me and waiting for me to get back. I hope to join in

as much as I can for now and hopefully can start to participate more as time

goes on, unless I lose my Internet connection. I will warn you if that is

about to happen. Shouldn't be for several months anyway.

It's good to be home again and not hooked up to anything.

Love to all,

Marti

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much . I hope so too. Every thing changes and it doesn't

seem that there's anywhere to go but up at this point.

Take care,

Marti

Green evilcateyes911@...> wrote:

Glad you are back Marti, I hope all your problems with your health and

your financial woes will improve.

G

Marti Boguski martibowenboguski@...> wrote:

Hi all,

For those who are new since I have been away Welcome. I am Marti and have been

having chemo treatments that have worn me out, (for bone cancer), I live alone

and have three grown children and a cousin who have been helping me through this

ordeal. I just got home from spending a week with my son.

I live in CT. My daughter Andi is 34, lives in CT too, is married to Joe and has

three boys, Jack 6, Brady 3 and Aidan who just turned 1 last week. My daughter

(I raised her, but she is not really related to me, couldn't adopt her because

her father who abandoned her wouldn't let me) Liz is 34, lives in New York, is

married to and has two boys Riley almost 6 and Zachary 2. (Zachary, by the

way for those who are praying for him, has been found to have a very serious

infection in his hip and that is why he can't walk, it will require massive

surgery and don't know the prognosis yet). My son is almost 31, lives in

Boston and has a special someone in his life now and I hope the relationship

will move forward, but we will have to wait and see.

I have Fibromyalgia, duh, Sarcoidosis that affects my lungs and my eyes the

worst, Hypothyroidism, AADD, Sleep Apnea, Narcolepsy, Acid Reflux Disease, IBS,

Asthma and Allergies, and probably something else I can't remember. Some of

these things are treated and some are not. I am one who takes pain medication.

Before the bone cancer, I was taking 5mg of hydrocodone 3X day, or all at once

depending on the day. I've been taking some stronger drugs for the bone pain,

but it has lessened now and so am going back to the hydrocodone. I am also

taking drugs for Depression and Anxiety.

I also have severe money problems and my home is in foreclosure. I am trying to

stop it, but will have to move anyway as I can't work, don't collect SSD, and

will lose my severance pay in February 2009 and will be down to my retirement of

11,000/year. My son has offerred to move to a bigger place so I can move in with

him, but I hate to burden him that way. My daughter Andi is willing to help me

move, but offerrs no help otherwise. She has issues! Liz is out of the picture

for now, has enough on her plate. I'm hoping to find some way to stay around

here, with assistance, so I won't leave my grandchildren. They are the light in

my life right now.

Well that's my life story for now. I don't know how much I will be on line while

I am working on all of these things and trying to recover some strength. At

least I'm done with Chemo. Don't know the prognosis yet, but think it will at

least be better than it was.

To all my friends in the group, thank you for all of your prayers and warm

thoughts. I appreciate them all. Thanks for the phone calls and the cards, both

through e-mail and snail mail. I am overwhelmed at your caring so much about me.

I don't get that much - even from my family. Thank you so much for hanging in

there with me and waiting for me to get back. I hope to join in as much as I can

for now and hopefully can start to participate more as time goes on, unless I

lose my Internet connection. I will warn you if that is about to happen.

Shouldn't be for several months anyway.

It's good to be home again and not hooked up to anything.

Love to all,

Marti

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[Guest guest]

Marti,

So glad you are home! Now we " wait " . I didn't know about your

grandson, but will add him to my prayers! I think your son is a

special man to be willing to do that for you; you may have to let

him, but time will tell. Know that you have been missed!!!

(((Hugs)))

Darlene

> >

> > Hi all,

> > For those who are new since I have been away Welcome. I am

Marti

> and have been having chemo treatments that have worn me out, (for

> bone cancer), I live alone and have three grown children and a

cousin

> who have been helping me through this ordeal. I just got home from

> spending a week with my son.

> >

> > I live in CT. My daughter Andi is 34, lives in CT too, is

> married to Joe and has three boys, Jack 6, Brady 3 and Aidan who

just

> turned 1 last week. My daughter (I raised her, but she is not

really

> related to me, couldn't adopt her because her father who abandoned

> her wouldn't let me) Liz is 34, lives in New York, is married to

> and has two boys Riley almost 6 and Zachary 2. (Zachary, by

the

> way for those who are praying for him, has been found to have a

very

> serious infection in his hip and that is why he can't walk, it will

> require massive surgery and don't know the prognosis yet). My son

> is almost 31, lives in Boston and has a special someone in

his

> life now and I hope the relationship will move forward, but we will

> have to wait and see.

> >

> > I have Fibromyalgia, duh, Sarcoidosis that affects my lungs and

> my eyes the worst, Hypothyroidism, AADD, Sleep Apnea, Narcolepsy,

> Acid Reflux Disease, IBS, Asthma and Allergies, and probably

> something else I can't remember. Some of these things are treated

> and some are not. I am one who takes pain medication. Before the

> bone cancer, I was taking 5mg of hydrocodone 3X day, or all at once

> depending on the day. I've been taking some stronger drugs for the

> bone pain, but it has lessened now and so am going back to the

> hydrocodone. I am also taking drugs for Depression and Anxiety.

> >

> > I also have severe money problems and my home is in

foreclosure.

> I am trying to stop it, but will have to move anyway as I can't

work,

> don't collect SSD, and will lose my severance pay in February 2009

> and will be down to my retirement of 11,000/year. My son has

> offerred to move to a bigger place so I can move in with him, but I

> hate to burden him that way. My daughter Andi is willing to help

me

> move, but offerrs no help otherwise. She has issues! Liz is out

of

> the picture for now, has enough on her plate. I'm hoping to find

> some way to stay around here, with assistance, so I won't leave my

> grandchildren. They are the light in my life right now.

> >

> > Well that's my life story for now. I don't know how much I

will

> be on line while I am working on all of these things and trying to

> recover some strength. At least I'm done with Chemo. Don't know

the

> prognosis yet, but think it will at least be better than it was.

> >

> > To all my friends in the group, thank you for all of your

prayers

> and warm thoughts. I appreciate them all. Thanks for the phone

> calls and the cards, both through e-mail and snail mail. I am

> overwhelmed at your caring so much about me. I don't get that

much -

> even from my family. Thank you so much for hanging in there with

me

> and waiting for me to get back. I hope to join in as much as I can

> for now and hopefully can start to participate more as time goes

on,

> unless I lose my Internet connection. I will warn you if that is

> about to happen. Shouldn't be for several months anyway.

> >

> > It's good to be home again and not hooked up to anything.

> >

> > Love to all,

> > Marti

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

Marti, I agree with . You should take your son up on getting a place

together. Eventually you can work something out to help pay him back for what

he is doing for you and it will keep you close to your grandkids. And who

knows, maybe your daughter might have a change of heart and help her brother

out with having you there with him. I know that you will be happiest there.

If I couldn't be here with my daughter and my grandkids, I wouldn't have the

reason that I have every day to try to push myself to keep going just one

more day. Those kids are medicine in and of themselves. JMHO!!!!

Love and gentle hugs,

Debi/Central Cal.-55

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Hi Debi,

Thanks for the encouraging letter.

I will probably take my son up on living with him if all the variables work

out - finding a place, getting a lease/mortgage, etc. He's the one who doesn't

make much money and so knowing if it will work is the hard part.

Living with will be away from my grandkids. They live 3 1/2 hours away

from . My daughter Andi's 3 boys live in CT where I am now and lives

in Boston. I know it wouldn't be that far away - not like some people who are

1000 miles away - but I'm so used to seeing them everyday or so and they stay

over here a lot. They are my light. I would miss them so - particularly since

I can't work. I do so much with them - go to their swimming lessons, baseball

games, take them to movies and just play games and read books. They too are my

reason for pushing on in life. They light it up just by being there.

I will of course learn to live without them if I have to, but it will be a

big change and will leave me alone most of the time. has to work two jobs

because the pay for a special ed teacher isn't enough to live in Boston, so he

works 3 nights a week and every other weekend, until 11:00, as a lab tech (On

the Saturdays he works two shifts). A lab tech job is what has seen him through

college and his masters and pays well and has great benefits. It isn't however

what he wants to do with his life. He wants to teach and is meant to - he is so

good at it.

isn't married, but does have someone knew in his life that I like a lot,

and doesn't have kids, but he hopes to someday.

also likes to live a relatively urban life and I have always lived in

suburbia. I spent the last week with him and while it's nice to be close to

everything, I can't walk far and can't ride a bike anymore, so it won't be the

same for me. He likes three family walk ups - and I can't do that - the ones in

old brownstones in Boston. And other things like that. I'm used to a yard to

wander around in and having flowers, but all of these things are just me not

wanting to change. Change is very hard for me and so is moving. When I was

growing up and entered the seventh grade, it was my seventh school. I have a

hard time meeting people too.

The above is me complaining.

I am grateful that wants to try to work something out and will do

whatever is necessary. He is a wonderful person and great to be around. He is

kind and thoughtful and nurturing. He has Asperger Syndrome and is himself a

special ed teacher and his kids love him - as do most people. He's a likable

guy. I am blessed that he is my son and wants me.

Thank you so much for caring. I am overwhelmed at the outpouring of warmth I

feel in this group. I need to stay connected to you all for my strength.

Marti

DebiAC012553@... wrote:

Marti, I agree with . You should take your son up on getting a

place

together. Eventually you can work something out to help pay him back for what

he is doing for you and it will keep you close to your grandkids. And who

knows, maybe your daughter might have a change of heart and help her brother

out with having you there with him. I know that you will be happiest there.

If I couldn't be here with my daughter and my grandkids, I wouldn't have the

reason that I have every day to try to push myself to keep going just one

more day. Those kids are medicine in and of themselves. JMHO!!!!

Love and gentle hugs,

Debi/Central Cal.-55

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Welcome back, Marti. We have all missed you. I'm glad to see you

back. I've been so busy lately and with the end of the year I've had

to let the kids on the computer more for end of the year projects. We

here are just getting back on track after an awful week. So sorry

about all you are going through. I remember you writing about your son

before. He sounds like a wonderful young man. So glad to hear there

is someone special in his life right now. I hope it all works out for

you. I will be thinking of you.

Tammi

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much Tammi. I've missed you all. I'm sorry you've had an awful

week. How it will get better soon.

Marti

bluesmokey72 richards851@...> wrote:

Welcome back, Marti. We have all missed you. I'm glad to see you

back. I've been so busy lately and with the end of the year I've had

to let the kids on the computer more for end of the year projects. We

here are just getting back on track after an awful week. So sorry

about all you are going through. I remember you writing about your son

before. He sounds like a wonderful young man. So glad to hear there

is someone special in his life right now. I hope it all works out for

you. I will be thinking of you.

Tammi

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 4/11/2008 4:17:43 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time,

martibowenboguski@... writes:

isn't married, but does have someone knew in his life that I like a

lot, and doesn't have kids, but he hopes to someday.

Would consider taking his girlfriend and you and moving to Ct. so that

you can be close to the grandkids?

Hugs,

Debi-Ca.

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