Re: How can family members be so inconsiderate?

Posted April 11, 2008 · April 11, 2008

What I would do is have a sit down family diner and when they are all

enjoying the dinner tell them if you do not get some help around the

house with the stuff you are having trouble doing then youw ill be

going on strike. If they still do not help you then leave them go

hungry only make your self stuff that is easy to make for one person.

Start buying disposable plates, bowels, and utincels that will make no

dishes when you do make stuff for your self.

Posted April 11, 2008 · April 11, 2008

I have went on strike before and my house got so bad that you couldn't

even walk through it. I run a business out of my home and have people

coming and going so I had to clean the house so when people came over

they wouldn't be disgusted by the way my house looked, not to good for

business. That didn't get through to them at all but I am going on

strike again and if I have a customer that needs something I will just

meet them somewhere other than my house. I am going to let my

customers know that if they need anything that I will meet them

somewhere rather than coming to my house and I'll make some excuse up

for the reason why.

I am also going to only make stuff for myself for dinner and let them

fend for themselves. I do have paper plates and plastic ware so I can

start using that instead of regular dishes. But another thought is to

use the regular dishes so then they can start cleaning up after me

instead of it being the other way around.

Thank you for the ideas, my mom actually told me today to do all the

same things that you said, , I've got to do something to get this

across to them all, I can't continue on this way.

I think one of my main things is the deal with this car. It is

something that I can drive that is comfortable for me but my husband

seems to think that he is the one that needs to drive it instead.

I am going to sit down and talk to my husband about this tonight since

all the kids are gone for the weekend and see what happens, now that I

am calmed down a little and can think straight.

I absolutely love this group. Like many others have said, it is nice

to be with people that understand what you are going through.

Especially when your own family refuses to do anything to learn more

about it.

>

> What I would do is have a sit down family diner and when they are all

> enjoying the dinner tell them if you do not get some help around the

> house with the stuff you are having trouble doing then youw ill be

> going on strike. If they still do not help you then leave them go

> hungry only make your self stuff that is easy to make for one person.

> Start buying disposable plates, bowels, and utincels that will make

no

> dishes when you do make stuff for your self.

>

Posted April 11, 2008 · April 11, 2008

,

I am so sorry about the inconsiderate slobs that live with you! It sounds like

those boys need to have the whip cracked. Forget about the fibro for a minute

(ha) just from being a part of the family, they should have there chores to do.

The are all old enough. They should all be given specific tasks and serious

consequences if they don't do them. I know, it's easier said than done. It also

sounds like you don't get much support from hubby as to disciplining them.

Your husband needs to be smacked. He should see what you are going through and

make those kids help out.

I'm so sorry, I hope you can get through to them.

Hugs,

/Mi

How can family members be so inconsiderate?

I just want to know how this can happen? They see us go through the

pain on a daily basis, they hear us talk about the pain, talk about

things we can and cannot do but why don't they listen.

For those can still drive but have a hard time with it I know how you

feel. My husband and I have a Saturn, very small car and sits low to

the floor and we have a Bronco that is a stick shift. The Bronco is

easier for me sit in because it is up higher and my legs have more

room but it is a stick shift, it is hard for me to push the clutch in

because of my leg and foot. The Saturn is really hard for me to get

in and out of and by the time I am done driving it I am in a lot of

pain.

So, his cousin is getting rid of her car because she wrecked it, not

bad enough to not be able to drive it but she got a new car. My

husband was talking about buying it from her and I told him I thought

it would be a good idea so then I could have a car to drive that was

more comfortable for me and he agreed. Well once I agreed to it he

changed his mind on who was going to be driving it. Knowing how much

pain I am in after driving our other vehicles he changed his mind

that he is going to be driving it not me. I don't know if I'm more

mad about this or hurt by it. I can't drive the other two vehicles

without being in serious pain and now that we have a car that I can

drive I can't.

This isn't the only thing that I deal with on a daily basis. I live

with my husband and 4 sons, my boys ages are 20, 16, 9, and 11 and I

get absolutely no help from them at all. I can't stand and do the

dishes because it causes the pain in my back to get worse but when it

comes down to it I HAVE to do them otherwise they don't get done. I

had dishes sit in my kitchen from Friday until Wednesday because

nobody would do them so I had to do them. I have even gotten to the

point that I stopped cooking because of this but that didn't change

nothing at all. I don't get help around the house period by any of

them. I can't carry the hamper of laundry towels because it is to

heavy but I can't get anybody else to do it for me so I have to do

it. We will down to no towels left for people to shower with and

they have to be using dirty ones because they always manage to take a

shower when there are no towels left.

I just don't know what to do anymore, I don't know how to get them to

understand what I am going through. I bought a book about Fibro and

told them that I had it so they could read it and learn more about it

but you know what they told me? " I don't like to read so you just

wasted money. " I try to explain things to them and they tune me

completely out. I am at a complete loss. I guess I just quit

talking about it and deal with it without any support or help from

any of them. The one group of people that you would think would help

are the ones that I can't depend on for anything. The one thing that

I expect them to do every night and week is to take the garbage out

of the house and then take it to the street once a week. I can't

even get them to do that. My garbage hasn't been taken to the road

in 3 weeks now. I have to take the recycling to the street because

they won't do it. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Sorry, just needed to rant. I just can't stop crying right now

because this just hurts so much.

Posted April 11, 2008 · April 11, 2008

Hi ,

I'm with on this. Something's gotta give with those boys - well one of

them is a young man. Your husband shouldn't be allowed to get away with doing

nothing either, but you can't always have any control over that. He is an

inconsiderate louse for not giving you the comfortable car to drive. Maybe you

can be more persuasive - SMACK!

Those 4 boys though. They need to be put through some hoops. They need to be

doing chores and all the things that are hard on you. Even your youngest can

do the laundry and the dishes, but the other three can do much more. Find that

whip and crack it.

I hope you are doing better. What a miserable situation you are in with 5

capable men who can't take care of themselves, much less you. Think of it this

way - you need to be making them into good husbands and fathers - ones that can

take care of themselves and others!

Take care,

Marti

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