Earthdog/frustrations

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Hello Earthdog. I don't recall seeing you post before, so let me say welcome to

our wonderful group. I think your therapist was right about stopping your

peacemaker behavior. You can't solve yours and your DH's frustrations by

overdoing, because it will just make it all worse. You are not alone. My house

is a cluttered pig sty. I'm embarassed to have anyone come to our house. But

it's my reality for now. We almost never have a prepared meal. We fix grab and

go stuff. I hope it helps some to know that we all feel the frustration as

well.

Jeanne in WI

My hubby lets me sleep as long as I need to on week-ends....even brings me

breakfast in bed. But sometimes he gets so sick and tired of me being so

sick and tired. The house is never company ready, meals are rarely on the

table when he gets home (he cooks a lot of the time), and the laundry is often a

mount washmore. But the worse thing is having to borrow money from his mom just

to keep the lights on, because I don't bring in my share of the income anymore.

It's all very stressful and there are times he loses it, throwing stuff

(magazines, clothes...nothing hard or heavy though) across the room and arguing

about everything I don't (read can't) do anymore. Of

course afterwards he always apologizes. But hey, I'm frustrated and angry too!

Not to mention in a heck of a lot of pain. But my psych. therapist said that

because I grew up in an abusive home (physical, emotional,

sexual), I tend to be a peacemaker and when he goes off on his frustrated

rants, I always end up trying to do more and end up being in even more pain, and

she that I have to stop doing that. But what I did was stop going to the

therapist...