Re: I AM REALLY UPSET/Debi

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I am so sorry that happened to you hun. I can understand though. I am gonna

divorce as soon as I am able to stand on my own 2 feet. I do not plan to be

miserable my whole life with this man.

Hugs,

> Over 10 years ago I married a seemingly loving and understanding man. He

> knew that I had fibro and he went so far to educate himself on the

> disease, but

> when I worsened and couldn't perform sexually anymore, he began to cheat

> on

> me. A year and a half after marrying, he left me for another woman, but

> neither of us filed for divorce. Well, he married a younger woman, left

> her and

> them married a woman a little bit older than him and she was able to

> satisfy

> his sex drive. Last year it all caught up on him and he was ordered to

> divorce me and his other wives and do time in jail. He had fooled me

> completely.

> He made me believe that he loved me for me, so I was devastated when he

> left

> me, just because sex became a lot like aerobic exercise and wasn't

> enjoyable. I will never marry again, because he was my third and last.

>

> I feel for you, because too many people expect too much from us and they

> don't understand what we are dealing with.

>

>

> Love and gentle hugs,

> Debi/Central Cal.-55

>

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[Guest guest]

,

Are you on disability? Do you work? Do you have any children? I'm just

curious because you have mentioned leaving your husband. I was having problems

with my husband and I finally blew up....I don't have much tolerance for issues

in a marriage. This was about 3 months ago. I told him I was done and wanted a

divorce in a heated conversation. The next day, I realized I was trapped. I

can not work and my entire side of my family is dead. I completely freaked out.

My best friend and her husband said that we (my kids and I) could come live with

them until I got back on my feet. Well, what if I never get back on my feet?

Then what? I was in hysterics (literally) for days. Then I calmed down and

started researching the best way to leave my husband to make sure I got custody

and trying to find a new profession that I could do with fibro. I was a school

teacher, but I with my knee, back, feet and fibro issues, I will never be able

to teach again. I have no idea why, but during this time, my husband got his

act together. Things have been much better in some areas, but now worse in

others. It's a horrible feeling being in a marriage that is awful, but not

having the resources to leave. I wonder how long my husband will be on " good

behavior " before he goes back to the way it had been. I feel like our marriage

is a ticking time bomb, and that alone causes me so much stress. My mother, who

was my best friend and champion, died a couple fo years ago. My husband always

behaved himself when she was alive because he knew that she would be there for

me if I ever chose to leave him. I know he realizes I'm trapped now because of

the way he behaves sometimes. I do think I shook him up though when I told him

I was done. I think he figured out I was up to something and finding a way to

really do it. It is so terrifying because I know I'm the type to get really mad

and just leave and then not be able to support my children and myself. Life is

hard enough.....why do we have to deal with fibro on top of it? People don't

realize ALL the implications of having a debilitating, chronic illness. It

sucks...........

Jill

Re: I AM REALLY UPSET/Debi

I am so sorry that happened to you hun. I can understand though. I am gonna

divorce as soon as I am able to stand on my own 2 feet. I do not plan to be

miserable my whole life with this man.

Hugs,

> Over 10 years ago I married a seemingly loving and understanding man. He

> knew that I had fibro and he went so far to educate himself on the

> disease, but

> when I worsened and couldn't perform sexually anymore, he began to cheat

> on

> me. A year and a half after marrying, he left me for another woman, but

> neither of us filed for divorce. Well, he married a younger woman, left

> her and

> them married a woman a little bit older than him and she was able to

> satisfy

> his sex drive. Last year it all caught up on him and he was ordered to

> divorce me and his other wives and do time in jail. He had fooled me

> completely.

> He made me believe that he loved me for me, so I was devastated when he

> left

> me, just because sex became a lot like aerobic exercise and wasn't

> enjoyable. I will never marry again, because he was my third and last.

>

> I feel for you, because too many people expect too much from us and they

> don't understand what we are dealing with.

>

>

> Love and gentle hugs,

> Debi/Central Cal.-55

>

>

> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

> Be a good e-mail buddy, and ALWAYS

> protect your friends from email address harvesters which can lead to more

> Spam, unwanted mail, and even viruses.

> Copy and paste forwards into a new email and place parenthesis around the

> addresses.

> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

>

>

>

>

>

> **************Create a Home Theater Like the Pros. Watch the video on AOL

> Home.

> (

>

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