Re: What do you do when you are sick and tired of being responsible??? N

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry you are so stressed out and feelin gthe whole world on your

shoulders. Boy can I sympathize.

Have you sat your kids down and talked to them about all of the things you

do, that you do not have help with? that you are sick and need time for you

too?

Make up a chore chart for them. Ask for help. Do not be afraid to take care

of you too. Schedule a time each day that is your time. say after dinner

maybe for an hour. Changes can be made to get you help from the family.

Hope this helps some. I have one teen almost 18 and she is self-sufficient

for the most part. But I sat my family down and had this chat about needing

help and now I have it.

Prayers be with you.

[image: _mmpntSST-1.jpg picture by herbalady]

> I am beyond exhaustion and pain this weekend. And almost to the

> breaking point of being so tired of always having to be the one

> responsible for things. It's every area of my life: work - home -

> kids - car- yard - bills. does anyone else just get SOOOO tired of

> having to take care of so many things and feel like you are being

> pulled in 50 different directions at once??

>

> I was so at the end of my rope at work Friday that I lost my temper

> with another employee. For what seemed like the 100th time that week

> he had come in my office to ask me to either look up something or do

> something for him on the computer. I just lost it and told him I was

> sick of being his personal secretary to do it himself. His reply was

> that he wasn't " into computers " I told him to get a manual and learn

> it because that was just an excuse, and that it was part of his job

> so he better become litterate quickly. I just don't understand people

> who refuse to learn all the aspects of their job but want other

> people to do it for them...

>

> then of course there is the house that needs to be cleaned up, the

> yard that is a wreck, my car needs to be washed and taken in for an

> oil change and bills that need to be paid. My daughter was wanting

> help this weekend with a school project, an extra curricular project

> and something on her computer... I just about broke down in tears by

> this evening when she asked me to help her with something else.

>

> It seems like there is no escape from life anymore.. always having

> something that has to be done. I know that everyone says take time

> for yourself but when?? I work 11 hours a day (9 hours of work plus

> an hour's drive each way), try my best to sleep at least 8-9 hours a

> night even though it is broken with waking up, and then try to

> squeeze everything else in.

>

> It's times like this that I miss being married the most, having

> someone at home to help out with the kids, the yard, heck, just

> cooking supper or taking care of paying hte bills for a week.

>

> Well I've whined enough, it's after 8 pm and still no supper on the

> table so I better go dig through the freezer and throw something in

> the oven.

>

> Thanks for listen to my whine

> N.

>

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[Guest guest]

Thanks . Well there is not much " family " for us to divide chores

between, just me and my daughter. And bless her heart, she does as

much as she can during the week but she is a junior in high school

(taking all advanced classes), in the marching band, assistant

quarter master of the marching band, in the drama club, spanish club,

Mu ALpha Theta, National Honor Society and an editor on the yearbook

staff. Plus she works a part time job on Monday, Wednesday and

Thursdays from 4:30 pm to 7 pm.

I did hire my daughter and two of her best friends for this weekend.

The three of them are going to clean my mobile home (18'x80') from

top to bottom and then the next weekend they are going to rake and

bag up all the pine straw in our front and back yard. Will cost me a

little money but 1) I can't do all of it and I would really like to

get it all done in one day (good thorough cleaning) and 2) I'd rather

hire them to do the house and yard instead of paying a company or

someone I dont know 3) I know the girls need the money for a trip

they are wanting to go on to a Japanese Animation Convention the

first of June.

So all of us benefit from the arrangment. And maybe, if I can get the

house cleaned and organized in one fell swoop it will be a little

easier to maintain. Especially since school is almost out and both me

and my daughter will be working full time this summer. She's got a

six week class the first six weeks of the summer for ACT Prep and

then will work all afternoon and then will work full time after the

six weeks is up.

N.

>

> Have you sat your kids down and talked to them about all of the

things you

> do, that you do not have help with?