quick response, When you dont want to be the adult today.. :D

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I found myself in that place alot more a few years ago than I have

lately, ironically because I actually am probably dealing with more

now than i was then.. The thing that makes it easier at this point is

i know what i'm dealing with I think.

For me, and its different for everybody and everyones situation is

different.. its balance.

I have kids, and things i cant put aside, and in the times I

absolutely cant do anything for periods of time i feel so horrible

like i'm letting my family down.. But I've found I have to balance

things out. Pick the most important. Is it more important that.. The

laundry gets folded and the floor vacuumed(and yea not getting those

done bugs the heck outa me!!!) or that I spend time outside when i can

with my kids? perhaps not the best example, but perhaps the point is

there. I completely know what you mean, its so easy to do everything

that needs to get done because it needs to get done, and yes some

things really do. Heres the balance.. Take the down time, give

yourself time for your body to recover. A little every day, a warm

bath, sitting on the floor and breathing when theres nobody around,

jus easing your mind after a stressful day. If you are married, do a

date night. Date can be going to your old favorite spot and staring at

stars, or going to a movie, nothing extravagant cause the point is

just time, nothing more..

I have found that for me, its very important for me(and my family)

that i pay that focused attention, there was a period where i

absolutely couldnt, and i still have times i just feel like their

lives are fleeting away before me.. But i take every moment I can, and

if there is any way i can.. i do.. But my balance is taking time for

myself, and my me time is usually very mild and calm LOL.

The other thing for me that helps is.. Music. I am a music JUNKIE. I

was raised in music, my mother is a piano teacher and i grew up with

it around, all the time, so its very soothing to me. Different kinds

for different days, ive got probably the most random music library on

the planet lol. When most ppl are huddled on the couch with a dark

quiet house, Im huddled on the couch in a dark houes, with headphones

on zoning into my music. Whatever the choice of the day is.

so when I dont want to be the adult.. Ive found things that help me

funnel that frustration.. and get past it, cause unfortunately, life

doesnt sit still for me to have a good day. Wouldnt that be cool, if

it did?? Hang on, get back to me tomorrow and see if i feel better, k

thanx reality! talk to you tomorrow!!! Lol.

and there are very definitely some days when there arent important

things going on, and if i've had a good streak of days and dont feel

guilty lol.. the kids and i will have a hang out day. Hey kids, lets

cuddle and watch movies and you can eat some popcorn.. as long as the

oldest vacuums it up for me!!! hahah.