How can family members be so inconsiderate?

[Guest guest]

I just want to know how this can happen? They see us go through the

pain on a daily basis, they hear us talk about the pain, talk about

things we can and cannot do but why don't they listen.

For those can still drive but have a hard time with it I know how you

feel. My husband and I have a Saturn, very small car and sits low to

the floor and we have a Bronco that is a stick shift. The Bronco is

easier for me sit in because it is up higher and my legs have more

room but it is a stick shift, it is hard for me to push the clutch in

because of my leg and foot. The Saturn is really hard for me to get

in and out of and by the time I am done driving it I am in a lot of

pain.

So, his cousin is getting rid of her car because she wrecked it, not

bad enough to not be able to drive it but she got a new car. My

husband was talking about buying it from her and I told him I thought

it would be a good idea so then I could have a car to drive that was

more comfortable for me and he agreed. Well once I agreed to it he

changed his mind on who was going to be driving it. Knowing how much

pain I am in after driving our other vehicles he changed his mind

that he is going to be driving it not me. I don't know if I'm more

mad about this or hurt by it. I can't drive the other two vehicles

without being in serious pain and now that we have a car that I can

drive I can't.

This isn't the only thing that I deal with on a daily basis. I live

with my husband and 4 sons, my boys ages are 20, 16, 9, and 11 and I

get absolutely no help from them at all. I can't stand and do the

dishes because it causes the pain in my back to get worse but when it

comes down to it I HAVE to do them otherwise they don't get done. I

had dishes sit in my kitchen from Friday until Wednesday because

nobody would do them so I had to do them. I have even gotten to the

point that I stopped cooking because of this but that didn't change

nothing at all. I don't get help around the house period by any of

them. I can't carry the hamper of laundry towels because it is to

heavy but I can't get anybody else to do it for me so I have to do

it. We will down to no towels left for people to shower with and

they have to be using dirty ones because they always manage to take a

shower when there are no towels left.

I just don't know what to do anymore, I don't know how to get them to

understand what I am going through. I bought a book about Fibro and

told them that I had it so they could read it and learn more about it

but you know what they told me? " I don't like to read so you just

wasted money. " I try to explain things to them and they tune me

completely out. I am at a complete loss. I guess I just quit

talking about it and deal with it without any support or help from

any of them. The one group of people that you would think would help

are the ones that I can't depend on for anything. The one thing that

I expect them to do every night and week is to take the garbage out

of the house and then take it to the street once a week. I can't

even get them to do that. My garbage hasn't been taken to the road

in 3 weeks now. I have to take the recycling to the street because

they won't do it. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Sorry, just needed to rant. I just can't stop crying right now

because this just hurts so much.