Guest guest Posted July 2, 2007 Report Share Posted July 2, 2007 Oh yeah... the old 'rules ain't for me just everybody else' and especially the way I interpret it. That's Ken..... not , he's just fine with following rules, keeps his life on track I think,, he's a great one for being 'on track' Ya know, maybe the conf will be a good thing for Ms Mac. She'll be around ppl that undersgtand CHARGE, wont see her lil tizzy fits as something that needs corrected but something to ignore (if possible) and not putting her in the center of attention for her behaviors. Don't know how that works on CHARGE kids but worked well with Ken.. is my 'good kid' if ya want more fun I can send my 17yo and 28yo to you LOL Casey thinking seriously about changing the locks when the luggage goes out on the porch (in 13 days.. YIPPIE !!) ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Choose the right car based on your needs. Check out Yahoo! Autos new Car Finder tool. http://autos.yahoo.com/carfinder/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 Rules are ment for others to follow but we dont have to thats also part of the R in charge, Joking aside, Maby that will change as she gets older. I find I like it if people say at my old work would follow rules and that caused problems lol. Chantelle > > MacKenzie likes rules ae well; only just for other people. She is very > quick to point out to the teacher when someone is not following the class > rules, but is not a great follower of them herself. I can see a few > personality conflicts at the conference. I hope the daycare staff are > getting danger pay. > > Jeanie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 Chantelle, I'm hoping that you're right and some of Mac's behaviors improve as she gets older. I do think she's matured this year and my biggest hope is that her aggression be toned down some. Knowing you, Bel,Chip, , Ellen, etc. gives me lots of hope for her future. Jeanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 Thank you, your words are very comforting to me too. Some of my behaviors have had to be worked on with both medication and councelling. Some of my behaviors are related to life events weather family issues or helth, but some may be just a part of who I am. I can look now and work on my behaviors and its a little tricky to make suggestions for a child as I am not a parent, only a person who has grown up with deafblindness. I can try to give my perspective but remember that I am also still learning. I respond best to positive reinforcing the good behaviors but I really have to think hard to why I may have the urge to, for example, hit and say a bad word when I am angry and frustrated. I need to remind myself I am justified in my feelings, but that dosnt mean my actions or words are justified. I am not sure how you could translate that to a 9 year old. Maby tell her, I know you are frustrated then ask her if she can write, draw or communicate what is bothering her. I guess if Mac likes others to have rules but dosnt like the rules herself you could ask her how she would like to change the rules for her. ask her open ended questions when your just having fun girl mom and daughter time or her siblings having sibling time. She might not be able to verbalize what it is about the rules she dosnt feel she should listen to, but maby practicing that may help her think about the rules. Also having a look at the rules and reminding her the rules are for safety and that that includes hers. I just thought maby having activities that would illustrate cause and effect might be worthwhile to help her make the connection that the rules apply to her too. say if its shoes must be worn outside in the mud, if she says no and wants to wear socked feet, first ask her what would happen if she went out without her shoes on and weather permitting go out in the mud with her socks and then when going back inside ask her what she thinks will happen if she had wet socks on the carpet or floor (slipping, staining). make it plesent but be firm i suppose. I realize this is just a random idea but hopefully that gives you some stuff you can think about. Chantelle > > Chantelle, > > I'm hoping that you're right and some of Mac's behaviors improve as she > gets older. I do think she's matured this year and my biggest hope is that > her aggression be toned down some. Knowing you, Bel,Chip, , Ellen, etc. > gives me lots of hope for her future. > > Jeanie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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