Re: Possiblity of repeating a grade due to maturity level?

June 7, 2007

Sandi-

Too bad you're not in the US because funding is not a valid reason to cut an

aide if it's necessary for the child's educational progress.

My gut response to the question about holding her back due to social

immaturity is that our kids typically have social delays well into adulthood

so holding back will do nothing to help it. It's not about lack of maturity

as typical kids may have. It's about neurological and sensory differences

that make social and emotional development more challenging.

My daughter, Aubrie, just completed 3rd grade (age 9.5 yrs). The gap

between her and her peers grows each year. The best support for that has

been weekly visits with the social worker at school to help her understand

and manage social and emotional situations better and more quickly than she

might without any support.

Aubrie is also doing fairly well academically (with appropriate

accommodations). Her biggest challenges are math and spelling, but she is

holding her own so far.

Good luck.

Michele W

Aubrie's mom 9 yrs

June 7, 2007

Hi,

My daughter is also 8 and entering grade 3 this fall. From what I

understand, academically there is a leap in the amount of work the

kids have to do and learn in grade 3. And again there are kids of

all academic levels in a classroom. I am sure that there will be

other kids at your daughters level in her class. I think, Sylvan

will help your daughter by giving her a bit of a head start

academically. This way she can maintain that mid level or improve on

it by the time school starts.

My daughter is also not as mature(I would put her a couple of years

younger in maturity) as the other kids in her class. I see it, I am

sure the other kids and her teachers see it but Amita is blissfully

unaware of it. I try to help Amita out by talking to her about

appropiate topics for conversation with peers and also by telling

her teachers quite strongly to help her out in making friends and

relating with peers. This approach may help your daughter also.

Think about the pros and cons of holding her back. Will she feel bad

or feel like she failed somehow or will she adapt and do well? Will

she miss the friends she has? These are some of the questions I

would ask myself and I would ask my daughter as well to gauge her

response. I hope this helps you out.

Deepta

>

> I know it has been a terribly long time since I have posted. But

I do

> check in and read the posts from time to time. I am having a very

> difficult day today and was wondering if any of you have been

faced

> with this with your charge children. My daughter Emma is

currently in

> grade two. She has had some adaptations to her academics, but is

doing

> quite well. She is considered to be at about mid grade two

level.

> After being at the school for her IPP evalution for Grade 3 and

being

> told Emma's aid time will be cut next year due to school cut backs

and

> since she has made such remarkable improvements blah blah.

Anyhow, I

> spoke with her grade 2 teacher regarding Sylvan learning for Emma

to

> see if this would help her prepare for grade 3. She felt this

would

> probably be okay, but then proceeded to ask how I would feel about

> holding Emma back due to her maturity level. She feels Emma is

> beginning to show signs of struggling to relate with the other

girls in

> her class. If she was to be held back she would be placed in a

grade

> one/two spilt. How is this going to help her maturity level if

she is

> going to be with children that much younger than her. I do belive

Emma

> is somewhat immature for her age, but she spends alot of time in

our

> home environment and plays with her twin brothers who are 4. Any

> advice on this would be greatly apprecitated.

> TIA

> Sandi McKerie, mom to 9, Emma 8, Twins and Clay 4 and

wife

> to Colin. Estevan, Saskatchewan Canada.

>

June 8, 2007

as I said tim was held back in pre-k, but is maturity level is not where it

should be still. we kept him back for academics. no offense to our older

chargers, but I feel this may be something most of our wonderful children suffer

from...not all certainly, but tim definitely does.

maria

Possiblity of repeating a grade due to maturity level?

I know it has been a terribly long time since I have posted. But I do

check in and read the posts from time to time. I am having a very

difficult day today and was wondering if any of you have been faced

with this with your charge children. My daughter Emma is currently in

grade two. She has had some adaptations to her academics, but is doing

quite well. She is considered to be at about mid grade two level.

After being at the school for her IPP evalution for Grade 3 and being

told Emma's aid time will be cut next year due to school cut backs and

since she has made such remarkable improvements blah blah. Anyhow, I

spoke with her grade 2 teacher regarding Sylvan learning for Emma to

see if this would help her prepare for grade 3. She felt this would

probably be okay, but then proceeded to ask how I would feel about

holding Emma back due to her maturity level. She feels Emma is

beginning to show signs of struggling to relate with the other girls in

her class. If she was to be held back she would be placed in a grade

one/two spilt. How is this going to help her maturity level if she is

going to be with children that much younger than her. I do belive Emma

is somewhat immature for her age, but she spends alot of time in our

home environment and plays with her twin brothers who are 4. Any

advice on this would be greatly apprecitated.

TIA

Sandi McKerie, mom to 9, Emma 8, Twins and Clay 4 and wife

to Colin. Estevan, Saskatchewan Canada.

June 8, 2007