Yuka Re: Re: if you were coming home now....

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Don't worry your mother in law story didn't upset me at all, its

great when someone finally gets a great mother in law.

I guess I have a hard time understanding how she doesn't understand

what I am going threw when she herself has a child with Autism and

she lost anther one shortly after he was born. For example my oldest

one was born 8 weeks early and I was so scared and young I

didn't understand why this was happening and she said to someone " I

don't understand why she is so depressed? " WHAT??? I just don't

understand her sometimes its scarey!!

I know she loves her grandkids but she is just not all about whats

going on. Like Eva's therapy she hates that they come to the house

that if she is home she hides in her room and doesnt watch her

granddaughter do great things.

Now my mom would be right there she is also learning sign to help

her communicate with Eva.

Sorry for the vent but I just wanted to let you know I have learned

to just live with it and not let others not show their joy about

something I dont really have.

I am so happy you have a great mother in law and family.

Hugs,

Crystal

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> Dear Crystal-

>

> Thank you for the reminders ) My mother-in-law was famously

good at this basic day-to-day life stuff - and so non-chalant about

it that I never felt anxious or flustered. It was almost as if I

was doing her a favor by accepting the stuff and not making a fuss

over the bother!

>

> I know that sometimes your own mother-in-law seems to miss the

picture entirely and I hope my warm mother-in-law story doesn't make

you feel that sadness again. My own mother is famously self-

absorbed and can't fathom that has anything differently than

anyone else! Drives my mother-in-law (and us) batty!

>

> As for trusting anyone with , after we lost nursing, we

didn't have anyone. Then we had two more after him - each as unique

in their care as , just not medically remarkable. By the time

I could leave I was leaving all three, and now takes

care of himself )

>

> Thank you again-

>

> yuka

>

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> Re: if you were coming home now....

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> Well my mom came over a lot the 1st month and helped upkeep the

> house. It was so helpful, the most helpful thing my mother in

law

> did was she bought some odds and ends we needs like snacks and

> toilet paper. Sometimes the littlest things are the best things.

> Also when people offered to watch the boys for me was very

helpful

> so I could catch up on sleep while Eva slept. I never trusted

anyone

> to really watch Eva til she was much older.

>

> Crystal

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cris i could say dads mum is like ur mil but thatd b unfair to her memory an

her coz she really was a great woman she just lived to far away was 12 hrs

by care an hour or soemthing by plane and when i came along she was quite

sick her self she had cancer but i do say mums mums the best but she just

lived closer lol ten mins as apsoed to twelve hours LOL but i still love and

miss my dads mum i was closer to her than dads dad he died when i was very

very little think i mite of been three ro foru maybe bit older when he went

dads mum hung round till 96 when i was bout 11 i still miss her and wish i

could of seen her more than i did she mite not of been rite there but she

was allways a phone call away and was often down in the hosp rite near where

i went to hosp wich was good to she had an understanding of all my line and

vein probs LOL rite now i think shes looking down calling me a silly little

one but very happy that i am doign so well

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> Don't worry your mother in law story didn't upset me at all, its

> great when someone finally gets a great mother in law.

> I guess I have a hard time understanding how she doesn't understand

> what I am going threw when she herself has a child with Autism and

> she lost anther one shortly after he was born. For example my oldest

> one was born 8 weeks early and I was so scared and young I

> didn't understand why this was happening and she said to someone " I

> don't understand why she is so depressed? " WHAT??? I just don't

> understand her sometimes its scarey!!

> I know she loves her grandkids but she is just not all about whats

> going on. Like Eva's therapy she hates that they come to the house

> that if she is home she hides in her room and doesnt watch her

> granddaughter do great things.

> Now my mom would be right there she is also learning sign to help

> her communicate with Eva.

> Sorry for the vent but I just wanted to let you know I have learned

> to just live with it and not let others not show their joy about

> something I dont really have.

> I am so happy you have a great mother in law and family.

> Hugs,

> Crystal

>

>

> >

> > Dear Crystal-

> >

> > Thank you for the reminders ) My mother-in-law was famously

> good at this basic day-to-day life stuff - and so non-chalant about

> it that I never felt anxious or flustered. It was almost as if I

> was doing her a favor by accepting the stuff and not making a fuss

> over the bother!

> >

> > I know that sometimes your own mother-in-law seems to miss the

> picture entirely and I hope my warm mother-in-law story doesn't make

> you feel that sadness again. My own mother is famously self-

> absorbed and can't fathom that has anything differently than

> anyone else! Drives my mother-in-law (and us) batty!

> >

> > As for trusting anyone with , after we lost nursing, we

> didn't have anyone. Then we had two more after him - each as unique

> in their care as , just not medically remarkable. By the time

> I could leave I was leaving all three, and now takes

> care of himself )

> >

> > Thank you again-

> >

> > yuka

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Re: if you were coming home now....

> >

> >

> > Well my mom came over a lot the 1st month and helped upkeep the

> > house. It was so helpful, the most helpful thing my mother in

> law

> > did was she bought some odds and ends we needs like snacks and

> > toilet paper. Sometimes the littlest things are the best things.

> > Also when people offered to watch the boys for me was very

> helpful

> > so I could catch up on sleep while Eva slept. I never trusted

> anyone

> > to really watch Eva til she was much older.

> >

> > Crystal

> >

> >

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