RE: people really stink....or is it only some?

[Guest guest]

Colleen,

Actually, what they want to do is give a 15 minute class alone

before the actual class, but he is no longer able to be in the actual class.

There was no instructor who volunteered, but they would pay another

instructor to work with him. Seems like a good thing on the surface.

I understand your thinking and this was actually my initial reaction. At

first I thought, okay, but then I realized is only getting 15

minutes in the water, by himself, with no one else but the teacher to watch,

no other kids. He would then have to watch his sister in the class he was

previously in, and not really understand why he isn't in that class,

although I could lie to him and tell him it is because he is such an

incredible swimmer, however, he knows he isn't Let's face it, he is 10 now

and no dummy.

really does benefit from being in a group of swimmers so he can

watch and copy, and also feel included and not " different " or " special " and

it is the only activity he is actually good at that he enjoys. He really can

swim. Now, because of others insecurities or whatever, HE is being asked

to leave. We are not the ones asking for special accommodations because

is just fine in the class. That doesn't sit well with me. I know

this won't be the last time and I can't let it go without making my point to

these people. They need to see he is a person, a capable person with the

same rights as all the other kids to be included. It could very well be

that these other kids in the class are not comfortable with there,

who knows.

Thanks though, for your feedback. All views of this are helpful to me right

now.

Debbie

people really stink....or is it only some?

Ok, I might seem narrow minded in this however I hope to bring a

positive spin. is asked to come 15 minutes early for some

extra one on one time. Are you being asked to pay for it? Did the

instructor voluntarily suggest this solution and is willing to do

it? If it is at a YMCA, this is prime swim lesson season so if you

are not asked to pay extra and the instructor volunteered this, they

are actually losing money while trying to support . What a

blessing to have an instructor willing to make the extra effort and

not just ask you to come a different time. Make it a " lucky you, you

get to spend more time swimming " situation.

The other mom is out to try to get her money's worth. Unfortunately

it's human nature. At my daughter's Y, when the kids instruction

time is over, it is adult lap swim. The adults complain EVERY week

that the kids are not getting out of the pool fast enough for them.

Meanwhile they have the whole middle of the pool to start thier

exercise. And these are regularly developing kids with the exception

of . (Her instructor actually told the adults to stop being

babies!!) Dealing with people who have no understanding of our lives

and our kids SUCKS. Sometimes I get angry and it only makes ME

miserable. People who do not live it and who I just come into

contact with for a season, like swim lessons, will move out of my

life. I hope they might learn to appreciate our kids and who they

are but it is actually their loss if they don't and I feel sorry for

them.

Colleen

CHARGE (AT) yahoogroups (DOT) com, " supermama95 "

wrote:

>

> I worry about things like that all the time when I think about

Eva's

> future and what kinds of classes I can put her in. I would voice my

> oppion and if the mom doesnt like it TO BAD!! Some people!! IT was

> the 1st class give me a break, she doesnt know what is to come.

> Hugs,

> Crystal mom to (11), (4), and Eva (2 year old CHARGEr)

> wife to Dan in Illinois

>

>

>

>

> >

> > I have to share my frustration with people who understand.

> >

> >

> >

> > is taking swimming lessons and is in a class of 4 kids

> (him and his

> > sister) and these two other girls who are sisters. I got a call

> today from

> > the swim place and they want me to bring 15 minutes early

> to class

> > so he can get more one on one instruction because apparently, as

> he was

> > DOING FINE, just a little slower than the other kids and needed

> help getting

> > out of the pool because there isn't a ladder, the other girls

> mother called

> > and complained that was taking up too much time in the

> class! There

> > was only 1 class so far.

> >

> >

> >

> > I am so frustrated, he now is being singled out and will know

> something is

> > up. What do I do? I know the swim place is trying to

accommodate

> him but

> > this just doesn't seem that fair. All kids are at different

> levels within

> > this class which is the beginner advanced. This woman is going

to

> force me

> > to get him private swim lessons. I should make her pay for them.

> >

> >

> >

> > Debbie Matasker

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi Debbie,

I'm so sorry, I misunderstood. I thought the 15 minutes was to get

him into the water and adjusted, like a head start. I hadn't

realized that they were only offering 15 minutes and it was

isolated....I absolutely support you. I supported you before but

wanted to offer encouragment. And I am sorry you have to go throught

that.

Colleen

>

> Colleen,

>

>

>

> Actually, what they want to do is give a 15 minute class

alone

> before the actual class, but he is no longer able to be in the

actual class.

> There was no instructor who volunteered, but they would pay another

> instructor to work with him. Seems like a good thing on the surface.

>

>

>

> I understand your thinking and this was actually my initial

reaction. At

> first I thought, okay, but then I realized is only getting

15

> minutes in the water, by himself, with no one else but the teacher

to watch,

> no other kids. He would then have to watch his sister in the class

he was

> previously in, and not really understand why he isn't in that class,

> although I could lie to him and tell him it is because he is such an

> incredible swimmer, however, he knows he isn't Let's face it, he

is 10 now

> and no dummy.

>

>

>

> really does benefit from being in a group of swimmers so he

can

> watch and copy, and also feel included and not " different "

or " special " and

> it is the only activity he is actually good at that he enjoys. He

really can

> swim. Now, because of others insecurities or whatever, HE is

being asked

> to leave. We are not the ones asking for special accommodations

because

> is just fine in the class. That doesn't sit well with me.

I know

> this won't be the last time and I can't let it go without making my

point to

> these people. They need to see he is a person, a capable person

with the

> same rights as all the other kids to be included. It could very

well be

> that these other kids in the class are not comfortable with

there,

> who knows.

>

>

>

> Thanks though, for your feedback. All views of this are helpful to

me right

> now.

>

>

>

> Debbie

>