Guest guest Posted May 16, 2007 Report Share Posted May 16, 2007 When Evan was younger, anytime we would hold him he wanted to put his hands down the front of our shirts. For , the worst that became of it would Evan stretched out the collars on all his t-shirts. For me though, he liked to grab onto my bra (who knows--maybe he thought it was a good handle). It was embarrasing for me in public and he would do it to anyone who held him. It took a few weeks, but everytime he did it we would sign and say no and pull his hands out and put them by his side or on our shoulders. Eventually he stopped doing it. Now his thing is putting his hands up my sleeves--I can handle that much better though. I think the secret is to keep being firm and consistant, just like you are. If every time she does it, you take her hands away and put them to her sides then she will eventually get the idea that you aren't going to give in. (mom to Evan, 22 months) supermama95 supermama95@...> wrote: Eva has been starting to pinch A LOT!! Whenever I carry her she pinches my neck and it hurts so bad. She also LOVES to pull hair and bite other peoples hands. She thinks its so funny when we yell in pain but I dont want her to think that. I tell her no all the time and hold her hands down when she pulls hair and pinches I also take my hand away and tell her no but its hard to tell if she can really understand or if she thinks its a game. I think she thinks its a game but its a habit we need to nip in the butt now!! Anyone else deal with things like this and how did you deal with it?? Thanks, Crystal and Eva(2 year old CHARGEr) --------------------------------- Get the free Yahoo! toolbar and rest assured with the added security of spyware protection. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2007 Report Share Posted May 17, 2007 Crystal, Every child is different so you'll have to do what is best for you, kind of. When Patty was little she used to pull my hair when I was holding her. At first I said no and made a nasty face. I had to do it calmly or else she would do it more. Being upset made it become about being upset and not the consequence of what she did. She had no idea she was hurting me. Instead I CALMLY said no and put her down and gave her something to hold. Patty loved being held and would ask, physically, to be held. Of course I waited about a minute which would seem like an hour and picked her up again. If she did it again I would do the same but not pick her up again. She would get really upset but I would calmly point to my hair and shake my head no. It took a while but she stopped. The weird part is when I held her she would gently hold my hair. It was a sensory thing. I had to stop that as the hair pulling behavior had to stop. There are many more ideas out there and I am sure someone will guide you how to specifically look this up on the CHARGE Foundation home page. Tim Hartshorne and Laurie Denno (and others) have written articles about behavior. Good luck. It's so hard but don't give up. Bonnie, Mom to Kris 24, Patty CHARGE 22, and wife to ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2007 Report Share Posted May 17, 2007 Crystal, once again we are on the same page. Alissa bit me really hard for the first time last week!! When she gets really frustrated she squeezes her own neck or pinches or bites us. I feel soooo bad when she does it cause it's completley out of frustration and a result of the lack of communication skills. We say no too but in the mean time I agree...we gotta nip it early. I can't wait to hear other stories. ! > > Eva has been starting to pinch A LOT!! Whenever I carry her she > pinches my neck and it hurts so bad. She also LOVES to pull hair and > bite other peoples hands. She thinks its so funny when we yell in pain > but I dont want her to think that. I tell her no all the time and hold > her hands down when she pulls hair and pinches I also take my hand > away and tell her no but its hard to tell if she can really understand > or if she thinks its a game. I think she thinks its a game but its a > habit we need to nip in the butt now!! > Anyone else deal with things like this and how did you deal with it?? > Thanks, > Crystal and Eva(2 year old CHARGEr) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2007 Report Share Posted May 17, 2007 Chrystine has " fits " now. I can't stand it... I haven't the foggiest idea how to discipline her. I know she is almost 19 months old, but she's no bigger than she was at 6 months old. I know she needs some sort of structure. My father " taught " her to bite. She thinks she is doing some sort of funny trick. Sounds like Eva and Chrystine are both going through their slapstick comedy phase. chrystaL & chrystinE ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2007 Report Share Posted May 17, 2007 Chrystine has " fits " now. I can't stand it... I haven't the foggiest idea how to discipline her. I know she is almost 19 months old, but she's no bigger than she was at 6 months old. I know she needs some sort of structure. My father " taught " her to bite. She thinks she is doing some sort of funny trick. Sounds like Eva and Chrystine are both going through their slapstick comedy phase. chrystaL & chrystinE ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2007 Report Share Posted May 17, 2007 oh my word Amélie does all of this she has her hands down every top and doesnt settle until she is holding my bra strap, and then hands up sleeves...how odd. Crystal Eva sounds like most terrible two's dont you think...they all go through this stage syndromes or not!! I know its not nice but I agree with Sara, keep on saying bo and move her hands! love Les x > > When Evan was younger, anytime we would hold him he wanted to put his > hands down the front of our shirts. For , the worst that became of it > would Evan stretched out the collars on all his t-shirts. For me though, he > liked to grab onto my bra (who knows--maybe he thought it was a good > handle). It was embarrasing for me in public and he would do it to anyone > who held him. It took a few weeks, but everytime he did it we would sign and > say no and pull his hands out and put them by his side or on our shoulders. > Eventually he stopped doing it. Now his thing is putting his hands up my > sleeves--I can handle that much better though. > > I think the secret is to keep being firm and consistant, just like you > are. If every time she does it, you take her hands away and put them to her > sides then she will eventually get the idea that you aren't going to give > in. > > (mom to Evan, 22 months) > > supermama95 supermama95@... > wrote: > Eva has been starting to pinch A LOT!! Whenever I carry her she > pinches my neck and it hurts so bad. She also LOVES to pull hair and > bite other peoples hands. She thinks its so funny when we yell in pain > but I dont want her to think that. I tell her no all the time and hold > her hands down when she pulls hair and pinches I also take my hand > away and tell her no but its hard to tell if she can really understand > or if she thinks its a game. I think she thinks its a game but its a > habit we need to nip in the butt now!! > Anyone else deal with things like this and how did you deal with it?? > Thanks, > Crystal and Eva(2 year old CHARGEr) > > --------------------------------- > Get the free Yahoo! toolbar and rest assured with the added security of > spyware protection. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2007 Report Share Posted May 17, 2007 Crystal, I had to smile when I read your post, as did this all the time and it remided me of all the times she did it and I screamed and cried in pain. She thought it was funny, but would immediately sign sorry and kiss it. I would give anything for one more bruise or scar from the Princess. , friend for life to , 26 forever, CHARGE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2007 Report Share Posted May 18, 2007 , it is nice to see your post. As a CHARGE Mom I appreciate your love and support of . Lori Myers Re: Pinch, pull, bite Crystal, I had to smile when I read your post, as did this all the time and it remided me of all the times she did it and I screamed and cried in pain. She thought it was funny, but would immediately sign sorry and kiss it. I would give anything for one more bruise or scar from the Princess. , friend for life to , 26 forever, CHARGE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2007 Report Share Posted May 18, 2007 , Thanks for your post, I have to say I agree, we complain when they are here and do things wrong over and over again. Then one day they are gone and we wish they could be here again even if they are doing the things that upset us. Hugs, Crystal and Eva - In CHARGE , " Lori Myers " wrote: > > , it is nice to see your post. As a CHARGE Mom I appreciate your love and support of . > > Lori Myers > Re: Pinch, pull, bite > > > Crystal, > > I had to smile when I read your post, as did this all the > time and it remided me of all the times she did it and I screamed and > cried in pain. She thought it was funny, but would immediately sign > sorry and kiss it. I would give anything for one more bruise or scar > from the Princess. > > , friend for life to , 26 forever, CHARGE > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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