Re: : Resected and so sad (loss, m/c ment)

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i am so sorry

i dont know why they make you wait 3 cycles- i wish i

had an answer, but the bottom line is that it sucks

(excuse my language).

waiting completely stinks. the " its meant to be "

philosophy was also of no use to me either in our

frustrations. just let yourself cry. I cant tell you

how many times i was crying and slobbering/snotnosed

walking down the halls of my hospital after

appointments, unable to stop. just cry for now and

know that were all with you and thinking so much about

you.

absolutley stay away from regular pregnant people who

complain about being fat and sore nipples. i sort of

went into hiding from those friends during my almost 2

year wait bc of these types.

THE SEPTUM WONT REGROW.

dont think about 2nd surgeries. you have to let

yourself believe right now that wont be the case for

you- just dont go there.

use your faith in God as much as possible. but also,

just let yourself be sad, and, if you can, MAD.

sometimes being MAD is better than being sad. It is

completely valid for you to be both mad and sad. But

if it(the emotion) starts to really take over- kind of

have a mind of its own (i.e., cant stop crying for

several hours)- what i do at this point, (because its

not healthy for you or your brain to go through this

much of this grieving all at once- no one can take

that-- its too big to handle in this big of chunks

psychologically and can put you at risk for real

depression)--i try to think of my brain as just having

a seizure-like chemical process- its a natural

adaptive process that has run out of control. this

kind of separates me from the sadness a little - i

have no idea if this will help you, but it can

sometimes help me (in all my years of severe

depression, & uncontrollable crying). you can try

saying 'ok, i went to this really despairing place

for today, now i need to give myself a break.' you

can come back to it the next day. in little bits. try

to honor fletcher and honor that baby that will soon

be inside you by doing this slowly and taking care of

yourself in this way. you dont have to do the

grieving all at once, and you absolutely dont want to

put yourself at risk for depression. if you think you

are starting to get depressed- call your doctor right

away. it needs to get nipped in the bud.

i hope you are feeling better soon- physical recovery

wise and emotionally. make sure to get alot of sleep

right now- you need it to help your brain recover from

all this grieving.

Sending many prayers and hugs to you.

xoxox

Heidi