Re: Any 40 year olds trying to get pregnant for the first time?

[Guest guest]

Hi Gspeak -

I am 39 and just lost my first baby at 8 weeks also (they also

discovered the death at 10 weeks after we had seen the heartbeat two

weeks prior - much the same as you). I also just had my D&C

yesterday after waiting 13 days to miscarry naturally. We

discovered the lost heartbeat when I was getting a 3D ultrasound to

evaluate my uterus, which is when I discovered that I have a septate

uterus. I'm so sorry about what you are going through, and I can

totally relate to the experience.

I am planning to get a definitive diagnosis for my SU as soon as I

get back on a normal period cycle and am planning at this point to

have the corrective surgery (by which time I will probably be 40 as

well). I know SU isn't the same as BU, but I still don't think you

should let your age interfere with looking into the surgery. Go see

an RE and get a definitive diagnosis and find out what your options

are. Don't immediately rule things out because of your age...I was

doing the same thing until I found this forum, and now I actually

feel hope - !!

Hang in there and good luck with everything! Send me a personal

email if you'd like to talk more.

All the best -

Siamar

> Hello,

>

> i've been diagnosed with a bicornate uterus though i still don't

know

> exactly how it looks. i'm really looking forward to an MRI

because i

> want to SEE it. I had been told a long time ago that i had a

septum

> but no other doctors could find it. I just miscarried my first

> pregnancy at 10 weeks (it was a missed miscarriage that probably

> occurred at about 8 weeks) but it was shocking because i had seen

the

> heartbeat and convinced myself i was out of the woods. I had my

d&c

> yesterday 12 days after finding out about the heartbeat because i

had

> a bad cold and i needed general because of the bicornate etc. etc.

so

> that was hard, carrying the baby that long knowing he or she was

gone

> but that's another story.

>

> My question is, i'm obviously too old for that surgery plus with a

> bicornate it's a pretty major surgery I don't think i want

anyway.

> Are there any other women here who have had their first baby at or

> after 40 with a bicornate? Also, what is it like being pregnant

with

> a bicornate. Do you really feel the baby on one side? We did

> conceive once (took a while, i don't think we were having enough

sex

> at the right time but i figured that out ...hey we're older now!)

> But is the combo of age AND bicornate a shared experience out

there?

> Would love to know. Thanks for having me! Gspeak777

[Guest guest]

Hi Gspeak -

I am 39 and just lost my first baby at 8 weeks also (they also

discovered the death at 10 weeks after we had seen the heartbeat two

weeks prior - much the same as you). I also just had my D&C

yesterday after waiting 13 days to miscarry naturally. We

discovered the lost heartbeat when I was getting a 3D ultrasound to

evaluate my uterus, which is when I discovered that I have a septate

uterus. I'm so sorry about what you are going through, and I can

totally relate to the experience.

I am planning to get a definitive diagnosis for my SU as soon as I

get back on a normal period cycle and am planning at this point to

have the corrective surgery (by which time I will probably be 40 as

well). I know SU isn't the same as BU, but I still don't think you

should let your age interfere with looking into the surgery. Go see

an RE and get a definitive diagnosis and find out what your options

are. Don't immediately rule things out because of your age...I was

doing the same thing until I found this forum, and now I actually

feel hope - !!

Hang in there and good luck with everything! Send me a personal

email if you'd like to talk more.

All the best -

Siamar

> Hello,

>

> i've been diagnosed with a bicornate uterus though i still don't

know

> exactly how it looks. i'm really looking forward to an MRI

because i

> want to SEE it. I had been told a long time ago that i had a

septum

> but no other doctors could find it. I just miscarried my first

> pregnancy at 10 weeks (it was a missed miscarriage that probably

> occurred at about 8 weeks) but it was shocking because i had seen

the

> heartbeat and convinced myself i was out of the woods. I had my

d&c

> yesterday 12 days after finding out about the heartbeat because i

had

> a bad cold and i needed general because of the bicornate etc. etc.

so

> that was hard, carrying the baby that long knowing he or she was

gone

> but that's another story.

>

> My question is, i'm obviously too old for that surgery plus with a

> bicornate it's a pretty major surgery I don't think i want

anyway.

> Are there any other women here who have had their first baby at or

> after 40 with a bicornate? Also, what is it like being pregnant

with

> a bicornate. Do you really feel the baby on one side? We did

> conceive once (took a while, i don't think we were having enough

sex

> at the right time but i figured that out ...hey we're older now!)

> But is the combo of age AND bicornate a shared experience out

there?

> Would love to know. Thanks for having me! Gspeak777

[Guest guest]

Hi Gspeak -

I am 39 and just lost my first baby at 8 weeks also (they also

discovered the death at 10 weeks after we had seen the heartbeat two

weeks prior - much the same as you). I also just had my D&C

yesterday after waiting 13 days to miscarry naturally. We

discovered the lost heartbeat when I was getting a 3D ultrasound to

evaluate my uterus, which is when I discovered that I have a septate

uterus. I'm so sorry about what you are going through, and I can

totally relate to the experience.

I am planning to get a definitive diagnosis for my SU as soon as I

get back on a normal period cycle and am planning at this point to

have the corrective surgery (by which time I will probably be 40 as

well). I know SU isn't the same as BU, but I still don't think you

should let your age interfere with looking into the surgery. Go see

an RE and get a definitive diagnosis and find out what your options

are. Don't immediately rule things out because of your age...I was

doing the same thing until I found this forum, and now I actually

feel hope - !!

Hang in there and good luck with everything! Send me a personal

email if you'd like to talk more.

All the best -

Siamar

> Hello,

>

> i've been diagnosed with a bicornate uterus though i still don't

know

> exactly how it looks. i'm really looking forward to an MRI

because i

> want to SEE it. I had been told a long time ago that i had a

septum

> but no other doctors could find it. I just miscarried my first

> pregnancy at 10 weeks (it was a missed miscarriage that probably

> occurred at about 8 weeks) but it was shocking because i had seen

the

> heartbeat and convinced myself i was out of the woods. I had my

d&c

> yesterday 12 days after finding out about the heartbeat because i

had

> a bad cold and i needed general because of the bicornate etc. etc.

so

> that was hard, carrying the baby that long knowing he or she was

gone

> but that's another story.

>

> My question is, i'm obviously too old for that surgery plus with a

> bicornate it's a pretty major surgery I don't think i want

anyway.

> Are there any other women here who have had their first baby at or

> after 40 with a bicornate? Also, what is it like being pregnant

with

> a bicornate. Do you really feel the baby on one side? We did

> conceive once (took a while, i don't think we were having enough

sex

> at the right time but i figured that out ...hey we're older now!)

> But is the combo of age AND bicornate a shared experience out

there?

> Would love to know. Thanks for having me! Gspeak777

[Guest guest]

Hi Gspeak - I agree with some of the other posters, don't let your age

dictate what you can and/or should not do. Other than perhaps trying

to see doctors and move ahead a little quicker, I don't think age

should play a big factor in whether or not you have surgery. Do you

have a definitive dx for BU? BU and SU are often misdiagnosed and the

surgery to correct most SUs is minor and simple, with only a month or

two of recovery time needed before ttc again.

" Do you really feel the baby on one side? "

Yep! I am technically SU, but my septum is thick and muscular and

cannot be removed during a simple lap - I would have to have major

abdominal surgery to remove it, which I have decided not to do. So

essentially my MA is SU but functions like a BU. In any case, when I

was pregnant last year, my dd was in my left horn - and yes, it was

very noticeable! I should post this one picture I have of me about 8

months pregnant - I am obviously carrying on my left side! At around

the 8 month mark I started to feel her regularly kicking on my lower

right side, but generally she stayed entirely on the left.

I'm very sorry for your loss and wish you the best of luck.

Cheers,

a

36

Complete SU

[Guest guest]

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Hi G,

I have a baby already (2½) whom I gave birth to at 37, and my uterus is

basically SU with some BU traits. I had it fixed, but imperfectly, so there

was a lot of partition left.

Now I'm 40 and thinking of TTC later this summer, very mindful of how much

harder it can be to conceive after 38, plus how much more common

miscarriages are. Good luck to you.

I had some lopsidedness because only one side of my uterus had been pregnant

before and not the other horn, but eventually it all looked and felt normal.

A friend of mine carried twins in one horn of a BU and a singleton in the

other, and really didn't notice much different (renee, renbo54733, here on

the list archives). Some people report lopsidedness and some don't--it all

depends. Before I had my surgery, I noticed that my uterus was very narrow

and high. After surgery it was round and low--and pressing on my bladder!

If you really want to have a baby of your own body (and of course this does

not matter to many women), you would do well to find out exactly whether or

not you have a BU or SU. SU surgery is easy, easy, easy (hardly worse than

a D&C) and really seems to help pregnancy outcome. We over-40s need plenty

of deck-stacking in that respect. If you have a true BU, you probably would

not need surgery.

Also, if you saw the baby's heartbeat around 7 or 8 weeks or later and then

miscarried, it points to some problem such as clotting disorder or fibrous

septum that could be remedied, and could prevent another miscarriage, so it

would be good to have a miscarriage workup now.

Good luck in sorting everything out.

Beth

SU resected x 2

Teddy 12/3/02

p.s. I have a cousin who just gave birth to her fifth child this week--she

is 41. Got pg on her first cycle. Some people! :-)

[Guest guest]

Gspeak,

I'm 38 and working on baby #1. I have a UU and also mc'd my first

pg. My doctor insists I'm not too old and encourages me to keep

trying. Be sure you're taking lots of Folic Acid. It's water

soluible, which means the excess is washed out with your urine. As

we get older, our bodies don't retain as much.

Hang in there and keep us posted.

Michele

> Hello,

>

> i've been diagnosed with a bicornate uterus though i still don't

know

> exactly how it looks. i'm really looking forward to an MRI

because i

> want to SEE it. I had been told a long time ago that i had a

septum

> but no other doctors could find it. I just miscarried my first

> pregnancy at 10 weeks (it was a missed miscarriage that probably

> occurred at about 8 weeks) but it was shocking because i had seen

the

> heartbeat and convinced myself i was out of the woods. I had my

d&c

> yesterday 12 days after finding out about the heartbeat because i

had

> a bad cold and i needed general because of the bicornate etc. etc.

so

> that was hard, carrying the baby that long knowing he or she was

gone

> but that's another story.

>

> My question is, i'm obviously too old for that surgery plus with a

> bicornate it's a pretty major surgery I don't think i want

anyway.

> Are there any other women here who have had their first baby at or

> after 40 with a bicornate? Also, what is it like being pregnant

with

> a bicornate. Do you really feel the baby on one side? We did

> conceive once (took a while, i don't think we were having enough

sex

> at the right time but i figured that out ...hey we're older now!)

> But is the combo of age AND bicornate a shared experience out

there?

> Would love to know. Thanks for having me! Gspeak777