Re: Thought it was impossible (pg, babies ment)

[Guest guest]

Hi Elaine,

I also have a UU and a solitary kidney.

Hm. I wonder where your doctors got that 35% statistic...

The OB/GYN that diagnosed my UU also seemed to encourage the use of a

surrogate for me. Mostly because she hadn't dealt with a UU very much before.

She

was willing to help me try to get pg though if that's what I wanted to try

first; but she did want to send me to high-risk doctors if I actually did

become pregnant.

I found this site early on in my diagnosis process so I decided I really

wanted to attempt pregnancy myself. I also decided I couldn't handle a

surrogate; I would be so jealous of the woman that got to experience the

pregnancy I

so desired. I really wanted to know what it felt like when the baby moved or

kicked inside me. I knew that if I couldn't become/stay pregnant, we would

adopt instead.

How did I move forward after reading online that women with a UU have a 40%

live-birth rate? I found this web site and realized the women here had VERY

different experiences. And I would never know if I didn't at least try and I

would likely regret it for the rest of my life if I didn't at least attempt

it.

I did 6 rounds of Clomid, some with my regular OB and some with my RE (I

didn't ovulate at all without the Clomid). I became pregnant with my first son

in June of 2001. I had a relatively easy pregnancy. I saw high-risk doctors

at s Hopkins about every 2 weeks. I did not have issues with

incompetent cervix and only minor preterm labor concerns (I lost my mucous plug

at 32

weeks and started contracting). I was on modified bedrest the last 6 weeks of

my pregnancy and delivered a healthy baby at 38w2d! My doctors were

surprised to see me coming for regular appointments after 35 weeks. My son was

breech so I had a C-section, and he was on the smaller side at 6 lbs, 11 oz.,

but

was very healthy.

I got pg with our second child last October, completely on my own and even

while nursing my son! We were surprised and thrilled to say the least. We

had moved since the birth of our first child and I was now being treated at a

military hospital. My chart was marked high-risk because of the UU, preterm

labor, and pre-eclampsia (not MA-related), but their plan was to treat me as a

normal pregnancy until I showed signs of complications. I never had any

with my second pregnancy. In fact, I exercised at the gym up until the birth

(my gym has prenatal exercise classes with certified prenatal instructors). My

second did come early at only 36w6d, but he was 3/4 " longer and weighed a

whole half-pound more than my first! He didn't suffer any breathing or feeding

difficulties either.

Though my second is less than 6 weeks old now, I'm looking forward to a

third pregnancy! =)

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the best luck! The women here

will be here to support, encourage, and inspire you!

Becki

28, UU, solitary kidney

Mommy to:

ds, Canaan, 3/2/03

ds, , 7/1/05

In a message dated 8/10/2005 9:14:12 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time,

MullerianAnomalies writes:

I am 30 years old with a UU, one kidney and 3 doctors who have said I

have a 35% chance of carrying a a baby to term at best. Each one has

reccomended a surrogate. We went to a surrogacy firm and the cost is

70-100K. That amount of money would take us years to accumulate.

Reading all of these stories it sounds like women are trying and

being succesful. I am SCARED to death to try. None of my doctors have

said it is a good idea and have discouraged us from going that route.

I am in Houston with an amazing medical center and great doctors. I

guess my questions are:

1. Do you know any great high risk doctors in Houston?

2. Does anyone know a surrogate or tried this road?

3. How in the world do you move forward KNOWING that the cards are

stacked against you?

I have been inspired by these stories and who knows maybe we are

supposed to try. Look forward to any wisdom from you all.

Thanks

Elaine

UU 30 years old

Never been pregnant