Re: - Bedrest & contraction question

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This is just my take on it-

I think you should COMPLETELY IGNORE DH when he acts

out. Pretend like he is thin air, and don't

emotionally react to him to whatever extent possible.

Go get in a bath read your book and go to bed. You

can tersely remind him to do all of several things on

a list in a flat voice and honestly dont respond to

him at all. The more you fight back, the more this

implicitly sanctions his complaining and makes him

think (unconciously) that you feel guilty and that his

complaints are justified/ deserve a counter-argument

(and will promote the complaining). Dont be the

victim here: Stand your ground. I really dont want

things to go back to the way they used to be for you-

this is an opportunity to make him ACT LIKE A MAN.

And I would use those words at some point, again,

tersely, not emotionally, b/c you a delivering FACT,

NOT OPINION: " A real man takes care of his family in

whatever way that needs to occur, PERIOD. " " A REAL MAN

is responsible to his family, ... " " A REAL MANs #1

priority is his family and the health and safety of

his unborn baby... "

Many prayers that your contractions calm down and DH

starts learning FAST.

xo

Heidi

--- Springstead rachelspringstead@...>

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> Mikell,

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> Sounds like you are hanging in there and doing all

> the right things. I was having contractions again

> last night, stress I believe from DH, that were

> about 5 minutes apart. I got a bath and waited to

> take the meds, then went to sleep, hoping they would

> be better in the morning. I seem to be still having

> a few but not as close.

>

> DH has improved some. He was doing great the last

> couple weeks and then started to regress again. He

> is back in this pity party stage of " I have to do

> everything around here! " I know as soon as Caleb

> gets here it is going to go back to the way it used

> to be. 6 weeks has definately not been long enough

> to mold him. We got into an arguement about it last

> night and then I started having contractions. He

> was all apologies then. Really the only things I am

> asking him to reallly keep up on are the dishes,

> laundry and the bathrooms. Bathrooms and laundry do

> not need to be done everyday. Well I guess grocery

> shopping needs to be done too, but that is not daily

> either and I truly think he enjoys spending money.

>

> Hang in there and hope everything is going well,

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