after all these years (pg ment)

November 12, 2005

I am 51 and just found out definitively that I had UD. Aha, " had "

is the " operative " word here because I had a total abdominal

hysterectomy (tah) 11 days ago. I'm happy to say that I have two

grown children and a grandson, so there's no tragedy there. Their

births were, how shall we say, difficult, to say the least. Anyway,

here's what I want to share with you young women who are ttc and

giving birth. The reason for my tah was a year of excruciatingly

agonizing pain. When the dr opened me up even he was shocked at the

number and complication of my adhesions -- the apparent cause of the

pain. Why the terrible adhesions? Well, as MA women, we are more

prone to

them. In addition, I had two cesareans, and like many women, I

didn't rest. I didn't avoid lifting anything heavy (like a toddler)

for six weeks, as prescribed. I didn't take more than two days off

of housework. I didn't leave the driving or grocery shopping to

someone else. I didn't really have a choice as there was no one to

help me with my two premature infants, but I just want you to know

that you must be strong and INSIST that you get the help you need

when your babies are born by cesarean or when you have any other

major abdominal surgery. Please accept this word from the wise to

help you avoid years of future suffering.

November 13, 2005

Thanks so much for sharing your story. I know that it is very easy to

shift into " mommy mode " and to forget about taking care of ourselves

when everyone else is depending on us! You offer good advice, though,

and I appreciate that you took the time to share it. Hope that you

have a smooth recovery and that your surgery will finally alleviate

all of the pain that you've experienced.

Best wishes,

UU, 31

14w, 4d w/ #2

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