Guest guest Posted July 26, 2000 Report Share Posted July 26, 2000 In a message dated 7/25/00 5:44:46 PM Pacific Daylight Time, rmax@... writes: > Maybe your daughter is holding in fears of this happening to her? She resents the CMT, resents your having it, resents the knowledge that she may some day have it too and its just too many fears for her to handle? Have you talked with her about the chances of her having it? >> **************** Yes, this is a big part of it..... she is very afraid of the CMT. I have talked with many times about CMT and the possibilities of her having it or being a carrier or both. The whole thing upsets her horribly..... I understand that..... I have tried to be there for her. is very strong headed and will only listen if she wants. I've learned over time that if I like something I tell her I don't, otherwise if I tell her I like it she will hate it.... It's always the opposite of what mom says, thinks, feels, she's been this way since she was very young.... And it's always driven me crazy.... LOL Thank-you for your thoughts and encouragement. jeanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2000 Report Share Posted July 26, 2000 In a message dated 7/25/00 5:43:04 PM Pacific Daylight Time, oregonpapa@... writes: > I hope your daughter and your husband are drinking lots of ice water ... they are > going to need it, where they are going ... > ************* Hopefully they will both change before that time comes and be more responsible for thier actions. I know that when I wsa still able to get around and my daughter was shorter I still had control of her and she paid the consequences even if her dad didn't get involved. I'm the disiplinarian (SP) in our family. My husband just looks at me and doesn't know what to do. After I told my hubby what had said to me and how she acted he didn't say or do anything. However, the next day when asked him if she could go out with a friend he talked to her about what she had done and said. She did come in and apologize to me and I accepted and told her it couldn't happen again PERIOD.... But yet...... (I have a rule with .... She's not allowed to go anywhere if her dishes and room aren't done.... even if her ride is there).... Well, her ride came and her room was clean but the counter was a mess. I ;ooked at her and said the dishes... She said, dad said I needed to TRY to get them done.... So I got on Bill's case and told him that that was not acceptable.... Jon my son wasn't allowed to play with friends ALL DAY becasue of his attitude... But yet he let her off the hook... I think this is why I am alwayss sick and stressed out... I have no way to actually make her do anything because I don't have the support behind me.... Her dad could say no and stand up to her.... She wouldn't dare say anything to himmmmm. She knows he would bean her.... like she should be beaned,. like she should've when she said it to me.... So I feel unimportant to my hubby.... I know I shouldn't... But it says to me that he doesn't care how I'm treated. CMT or not. Know what I'm saying.... Anyway, sorry I went on. Jeanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2000 Report Share Posted July 26, 2000 In a message dated 7/25/00 5:10:11 PM Pacific Daylight Time, Pepperbrammer@... writes: > Moonglo I dont know what to say to you but I want you to understand that > there are those who care . Do you have a pastor? **************************** Gwen, thank-you for your thought's. I am not against prayer at all, but I certainly what to thankyou that you didn't say something like. I'll pray and know it will be O.K..... As I've learned with being a preachers daughter, some things are mean't to be.... I just wish God would realize that I'm not as strong as he thinks I am. LOL I know one day things will be better for me. SOme days my kids are there for me thru thick and thin.... I'm just not strong enoough nerve wise to deal with the bad times. Thank-you and God Bless..... Jeanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2000 Report Share Posted July 26, 2000 In a message dated 7/25/00 5:10:11 PM Pacific Daylight Time, Pepperbrammer@... writes: > Moonglo I dont know what to say to you but I want you to understand that > there are those who care . Do you have a pastor? **************************** Gwen, thank-you for your thought's. I am not against prayer at all, but I certainly what to thankyou that you didn't say something like. I'll pray and know it will be O.K..... As I've learned with being a preachers daughter, some things are mean't to be.... I just wish God would realize that I'm not as strong as he thinks I am. LOL I know one day things will be better for me. SOme days my kids are there for me thru thick and thin.... I'm just not strong enoough nerve wise to deal with the bad times. Thank-you and God Bless..... Jeanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2000 Report Share Posted July 26, 2000 In a message dated 7/25/00 5:27:22 PM Pacific Daylight Time, mikerobertac@... writes: > I will be praying for you. > a > PS Did you see, got on and wrote a response. She was watching me go > through me E mail and she said " let me respond to that on OK? " Whoa, is this > the same kid who left our support group in May? *************** Thank-you, and yes I did notice that did a post.... I was very excited that she got involved and very thankfull..... Jeanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 Dearest Jeanie, I have been reading your postings and my heart swells for you. I know I don't know you personally, although I would like to, and I won't give you parenting advice, answers for your husband, but I will tell you, YOU ARE A WORTHWHILE, BEAUTIFUL PERSON, and YOU ARE IMPORTANT. Your imput in this group, your wise advice, your general compassion for the people in this group, even though you don't know them, does you credit. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you, including your children and your husband. I read many years ago and have lived by it, that if you love yourself, make sure everybody knows this, and those around you can't help but love you back. Please don't be so hard on yourself and know that I and I'm sure 99% of the people in this group are rooting for you. So please try and relax, get the help that YOU need to make YOU feel good. Loving Kindness and Compassion be with you always, Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 Dearest Jeanie, I have been reading your postings and my heart swells for you. I know I don't know you personally, although I would like to, and I won't give you parenting advice, answers for your husband, but I will tell you, YOU ARE A WORTHWHILE, BEAUTIFUL PERSON, and YOU ARE IMPORTANT. Your imput in this group, your wise advice, your general compassion for the people in this group, even though you don't know them, does you credit. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you, including your children and your husband. I read many years ago and have lived by it, that if you love yourself, make sure everybody knows this, and those around you can't help but love you back. Please don't be so hard on yourself and know that I and I'm sure 99% of the people in this group are rooting for you. So please try and relax, get the help that YOU need to make YOU feel good. Loving Kindness and Compassion be with you always, Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 Dearest Jeanie, I have been reading your postings and my heart swells for you. I know I don't know you personally, although I would like to, and I won't give you parenting advice, answers for your husband, but I will tell you, YOU ARE A WORTHWHILE, BEAUTIFUL PERSON, and YOU ARE IMPORTANT. Your imput in this group, your wise advice, your general compassion for the people in this group, even though you don't know them, does you credit. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you, including your children and your husband. I read many years ago and have lived by it, that if you love yourself, make sure everybody knows this, and those around you can't help but love you back. Please don't be so hard on yourself and know that I and I'm sure 99% of the people in this group are rooting for you. So please try and relax, get the help that YOU need to make YOU feel good. Loving Kindness and Compassion be with you always, Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 Right on Michele.You too show the compassion you have for others .See what lessons we are learningfrom having CMT! GWEN Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2000 Report Share Posted July 28, 2000 In a message dated 7/27/00 8:27:52 AM Pacific Daylight Time, Grmifo91@... writes: > Dearest Jeanie, > I have been reading your postings and my heart swells for you. I know I > don't know you personally, although I would like to, and I won't give you > parenting advice, answers for your husband, but I will tell you, YOU ARE A > WORTHWHILE, BEAUTIFUL PERSON, and YOU ARE IMPORTANT. ***************** Michele, Thank-you so very much for your kind words.... And you are correct. If you love yourself it can make a big difference.... This is an area I have to work on. Thank-you, Jeanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2000 Report Share Posted July 28, 2000 In a message dated 7/27/00 8:27:52 AM Pacific Daylight Time, Grmifo91@... writes: > Dearest Jeanie, > I have been reading your postings and my heart swells for you. I know I > don't know you personally, although I would like to, and I won't give you > parenting advice, answers for your husband, but I will tell you, YOU ARE A > WORTHWHILE, BEAUTIFUL PERSON, and YOU ARE IMPORTANT. ***************** Michele, Thank-you so very much for your kind words.... And you are correct. If you love yourself it can make a big difference.... This is an area I have to work on. Thank-you, Jeanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 5, 2002 Report Share Posted November 5, 2002 We adopted our daughter at 3 months, almost 21 1/2 years ago -- I remember worrying a lot about whether I could fully love a child to whom I had no biological connection. That lasted until I gave her her first bottle. At that point I was Dad, she was my daughter, and it's been that way, come hell or high water, ever since and will ever be so. /john Re: Having children > and any other " birth moms " , > I never would have guessed that on the grad list I would have been blessed to be given the opportunity to do something that I have wanted all my life to do and never been given the opportunity. I was adopted at birth by a wonderful family. I was placed for adoption by an even more wonderful 16 year old young lady who had to have loved me more than I can imagine. I have always wanted to find her and write her a letter. In it I would tell her thank you for giving me life, something that was not easy in 1960 at 16 years old. Second, I was, and am, happy and have had a good family, because I would always wonder, if I had given a child up, if I had done the right thing, was my child happy. Thirdly, I would ask if I loved softball and athletics because she did, and things like that. Next I would tell her I loved her, very much, and that the enclosed, sealed envelope contained information about me and my family; and that I realized she had gone on with her life and I didn't ! > want to interfere with it. If she wanted to contact me, she was very welcome to do so, I would love to talk to her, meet her and whatever she was comfortable with. If she was not comfortable with this, throw the envelope away, I will not contact her again. I had done what I wanted to do. And I would close by saying thank you mom, I love you. > So to all birth moms, thank you, I love you. You are a priceless gift from God, > doc Carolyn > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 5, 2002 Report Share Posted November 5, 2002 We adopted our daughter at 3 months, almost 21 1/2 years ago -- I remember worrying a lot about whether I could fully love a child to whom I had no biological connection. That lasted until I gave her her first bottle. At that point I was Dad, she was my daughter, and it's been that way, come hell or high water, ever since and will ever be so. /john Re: Having children > and any other " birth moms " , > I never would have guessed that on the grad list I would have been blessed to be given the opportunity to do something that I have wanted all my life to do and never been given the opportunity. I was adopted at birth by a wonderful family. I was placed for adoption by an even more wonderful 16 year old young lady who had to have loved me more than I can imagine. I have always wanted to find her and write her a letter. In it I would tell her thank you for giving me life, something that was not easy in 1960 at 16 years old. Second, I was, and am, happy and have had a good family, because I would always wonder, if I had given a child up, if I had done the right thing, was my child happy. Thirdly, I would ask if I loved softball and athletics because she did, and things like that. Next I would tell her I loved her, very much, and that the enclosed, sealed envelope contained information about me and my family; and that I realized she had gone on with her life and I didn't ! > want to interfere with it. If she wanted to contact me, she was very welcome to do so, I would love to talk to her, meet her and whatever she was comfortable with. If she was not comfortable with this, throw the envelope away, I will not contact her again. I had done what I wanted to do. And I would close by saying thank you mom, I love you. > So to all birth moms, thank you, I love you. You are a priceless gift from God, > doc Carolyn > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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