Re: I need some friends to listen & hopefully help

[Guest guest]

Thank-you Rose for your input. My kids don't have time for me unless they

need something. They would feel as if they were being punished... LOL I'm

glad it works for you.. Jeanie

[Guest guest]

Hello Jeanie!

I really sympathize with you. Its tough coping both with your CMT and

teenagers.

Just some thoughts, hope you don´t mind: Do you have any possibillity to

rest during the day before your children come home from their schools so

you can spend some hour or so just listening to them, give them an hour

just for them?

My kids are younger than yours (and I have no husband to think about) but

I have noticed that if I try to forget myself for a while and just take me

some time only listening to them etc they often finds something else to do

after a while and I can go on trying to handle myself and the household.

Of course that don´t work always for me either (how many times havn´t the

kids yelled their " Mama... " when I just have layed down feeling I´m almost

going to relax). But if I decide for myself some kind of schedule like

that hour will I spend whith the children and then will I tell them I have

to rest 30 minutes or so it use to work at least many times.

And I really wish you a good recovery from your depression.

Rose

[Guest guest]

Hello Jeanie!

I really sympathize with you. Its tough coping both with your CMT and

teenagers.

Just some thoughts, hope you don´t mind: Do you have any possibillity to

rest during the day before your children come home from their schools so

you can spend some hour or so just listening to them, give them an hour

just for them?

My kids are younger than yours (and I have no husband to think about) but

I have noticed that if I try to forget myself for a while and just take me

some time only listening to them etc they often finds something else to do

after a while and I can go on trying to handle myself and the household.

Of course that don´t work always for me either (how many times havn´t the

kids yelled their " Mama... " when I just have layed down feeling I´m almost

going to relax). But if I decide for myself some kind of schedule like

that hour will I spend whith the children and then will I tell them I have

to rest 30 minutes or so it use to work at least many times.

And I really wish you a good recovery from your depression.

Rose

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 19/05/00 11:13:03 a.m. Pacific Daylight Time,

Moonglow21@... writes:

<< Please, I'm not asking for sympathy..... I do have a medical

depression and I'm on medication for it. I don not want to

hospitalize myself.... I'm always fine as soon as I'm out of the

situation..... Please understand!!!! Jeanie

>>

Well now I know where my depression went.. The wind blew it over to you.

First off I know how you are feeling. Second it's not really your thoughts.

It's the depression making you feel so bad. Nothing is good when your

depressed... The black hole swallows you up and you can't get out..

I need you to be my friend.. Don't do anything to take yourself away from us.

We need you... I need you. I think of my CMT friends everyday. That is what

gets me through each awful day... We are here for you... You are not alone

with this stuff. When ever your depressed think of my life and how bad it

sucks then your life will look better. Haha

[Guest guest]

Dear Jeanie,

You have all my empathy. I am married , but have NO kids - and

still have days that are hard to get through. I am on Seroxat for

depression - and they do help me alot. I understand very well that

you people that have kids to look after as well as husband, house etc.

find it exhausting. I can now see how fortunate I am to be able to

lay down and rest any time of the day and not having to get up early.

I am also very grateful for the fact that through AA I have gotten

great help to " arrest " my alcoholism. I can tell everybody that

living with an illness like CMT is difficult - but I would rather go

through ANY kind of physical illness, than have to live with alcohol

again. That was truly hard. Don't take me wrong, CMT is a struggle,

but to suffer from alcoholism was much worse, because then you get no

sympathy or empathy what so ever, and it is the brain that suffers -

more than the body.

Anyway, I can truly say I am grateful for all the experiences this

has given me - good and particurlarly bad - because now I can (and

do) help others. I would love to feel stronger so that I could do

even more for AA, but I do all I can.

I know depression is an illness in it's own right and it is hard to

get through, but remember with your " experiences " you REALLY can

empathise and be a lifeline to others (even if it is writing to

this pages).

At least we have our brains intact and have a lot to be grateful for.

I think Rose's reply sounded very good. Try to plan the day thinking

about you and the kids first. To have a spotless home etc. is not

that important. (This is actually written by a " perfectionist " who

have learnt that doing our best is ALL we need to do.)

I hope you will get some help and I wish you all the best!

This is a little AA-prayer that always helps me in difficult times:

God, Grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And the wisdom to know the difference.

Love, Nina Cat.

[Guest guest]

Keep up the good work. I am proud of you.

" Nina Cat. Browning " wrote:

Dear Jeanie,

You have all my empathy. I am married , but have NO kids - and

still have days that are hard to get through. I am on Seroxat for

depression - and they do help me alot. I understand very well that

you people that have kids to look after as well as husband, house etc.

find it exhausting. I can now see how fortunate I am to be able to

lay down and rest any time of the day and not having to get up early.

I am also very grateful for the fact that through AA I have gotten

great help to " arrest " my alcoholism. I can tell everybody that

living with an illness like CMT is difficult - but I would rather go

through ANY kind of physical illness, than have to live with alcohol

again. That was truly hard. Don't take me wrong, CMT is a struggle,

but to suffer from alcoholism was much worse, because then you get no

sympathy or empathy what so ever, and it is the brain that suffers -

more than the body.

Anyway, I can truly say I am grateful for all the experiences this

has given me - good and particurlarly bad - because now I can (and

do) help others. I would love to feel stronger so that I could do

even more for AA, but I do all I can.

I know depression is an illness in it's own right and it is hard to

get through, but remember with your " experiences " you REALLY can

empathise and be a lifeline to others (even if it is writing to

this pages).

At least we have our brains intact and have a lot to be grateful for.

I think Rose's reply sounded very good. Try to plan the day thinking

about you and the kids first. To have a spotless home etc. is not

that important. (This is actually written by a " perfectionist " who

have learnt that doing our best is ALL we need to do.)

I hope you will get some help and I wish you all the best!

This is a little AA-prayer that always helps me in difficult times:

God, Grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And the wisdom to know the difference.

Love, Nina Cat.

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