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Hi le and all,

You were feeling left out and that's ok. You wrote what you felt

that is really OK. Dysfunction is when you don't know how you

feel and how to express it, SO YOU ARE OK.

One of the reasons that I like this list is because you get to read

& exchange info and feel like you belong somewhere. My hubby

says I spend too much time researching, reading & replying mail. What I

told him was: If I had more support from you, my family and yours, I

wouldn't have to seek outside support. He took that as a slap in the

face. His reply was, I should have told him long before...

What one has to realize is, if you don't make your feelings

known, no one is going to care cause they assume you're ok.

You start feeling like a martyr and all the stresses of life are all of a

sudden your burden & no one else's because you feel you have no one to share

them with. BUT THAT'S WHAT WE ARE HERE FOR... to help you, so do share.

If someone out there felt guilty after reading your post, it is because it

triggered something within themselves deep inside. For example, I felt

badly too but it was because I felt same way too a few times.

I know how lonely it can get, I believe this loneliness is what triggers

my depression. RLS doesn't help, but when your family isn't there

for you, it makes everything else much, much worse.

So what you do is adopt US as a surrogate family. Try to think of it

in those terms & hopefully you won't feel so alone when adversity strikes.

Lots of good wishes & prayers being sent your way......

Have a really good day.

Raining here, but my pansies & tulips are lovin' it.

Ana Casinha, 34

Woodbridge, Ont.