alternative thinking-RLS

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Ana,

Thank you so much for your kind words of wisdom. I truly felt in my heart

that these were the points that I was attempting to get across in my

communicating with the group. Your list was a very good one.

My remarks were meant to further the cause of caution and deeper

understanding of the treatments and medications being utilized. I try so

hard to word my letters in a way that will not offend anyone. On my honor, I

am truly happy for anything that you can do to help yourself, and the last

thing I would ever want is to split the group into opposing views. I believe

in that old axiom.... " United we stand.... " ......:-)

I must admit that I did not expect Jill to be totally pleased with my letter.

I wasn't sure what it would be, but I felt there would be something in there

that she would not approve of. I'm very sorry that she feels I was so far

out of line with my advice, but I have faced the fact long ago that we will

never have a total meeting of the minds. As we say in the group " We have

agreed to disagree " and we respect each other's feelings.

I strongly disagree with her theory about advice to children,

athough....lol........:-)........but hey, to each his own. I'm certainly not

saying that my way is right. It's just right for me. Jill knows that I am

rather timid and not strong-willed, and I admire her strength and confidence.

Her way of teaching her children may well be the way to make them strong

like she is. But rather than allow my children to make mistakes and then

tell them what they did wrong when it doesn't work out, I find it better to

continue to teach and advise as I did when they learned to walk and talk. I

will always explain what I think is the best way to handle a situation and

why I feel that way. I then leave the decision up to them.

" I told you so " is not in my vocabulary...........

It's really funny that this subject has come up because just two days ago I

asked my daughter (35) if she felt I was intruding on her life by offering so

much advice on her particular concerns at this time. I was quite relieved

when she told me " Absolutely not........I want all the advice you care to

give me as long as you leave the decision up to me, and I know that you

always do. " As parents, I think we are never really quite sure how we can

best help our children........we all do the best we can at that place in

time...and that's really all we can do, other than to be here to help pick up

the pieces.

The best compliment that I can give to this group is to tell you that I give

my daughter the very same medical advice that I give you. And lest you think

I have nothing to worry about here, let me remind you that she lives in

California......land of many alternatives. I caution her about things that I

find questionable, both alternative and traditional, then I sit here and

worry that she will make a wise and safe decision.

Now I think it's time to put this situation to rest. ...........do anything

you want, Guys, and keep us informed of your progress.

Sincerely,

Connie