Re: Re: Response to Susie G

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 5/9/2000 12:21:54 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

valmaboyz@... writes:

WATCH OUT NOW THE NEW NANCY WILL BE ARRIVING

<< hey, Nanz, that could be a song (my names not Pam, my name is nanz)

I am not Pam, I am , but of course, I do have something to share on

this

one! Because I grew up basically a fat person, I thought every problem I

had

in life was because I was fat. That was why I didn't have a boyfriend when

I

was 16, that was why this teacher didn't like me, why I wasn't picked for >>

[Guest guest]

- have I told you lately how much I love you???? You are a constant

inspiration, a wonderful writer who is able to clearly express and share her

ideas, and I just think you're FABULOUS! (Not to mention that I now feel I must

join a " Bunko " group because I am missing out on something here!!!) Anyway - I

just wanted to let you know how much your wonderful posts have improved my life,

and to say THANKS so much for sharing!!!

M.

(MGB pre-op...but not for long!)

[Guest guest]

GOOOOOO NANCY!!!!!!!!!

Re: Response to Susie G

> In a message dated 5/9/00 10:19:24 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

> MiniGastricBypass (AT) e writes:

>

> > Pam, I

> > was fascinated about what you said about the visits to the psychiatrist

> > after the surgery. Is it mandatory? and what issues do they address.

> > Its funny that I think after the surgery if all goes well, and I pray

> > that they do, that my issues would start to lessen,but I guess that

> > certainly is not the case.

>

> I am not Pam, I am , but of course, I do have something to share on

this

> one! Because I grew up basically a fat person, I thought every problem I

had

> in life was because I was fat. That was why I didn't have a boyfriend

when I

> was 16, that was why this teacher didn't like me, why I wasn't picked for

> this job....yada yada, yada. The world DOES treat you differently if you

are

> a fat person. We ALL have experienced that, but you know what, I treat

the

> world differently when I am fat too. I translate so many abuses from the

> world as " because I am fat " , when that isn't always the reason. God

forbid

> that someone just not like me!

>

> As a FAT FEMALE attorney, let me tell you, I know all about first

> impressions. I have had to be twice as good and work twice as hard to get

> the recognition, but I was able to do that even as a fat attorney. I was

> hired as the General Counsel of a software company when I weighed 300 lbs.

I

> was the first woman they made a vice-president. I was sure I would be

> rejected because of my weight, but I was able to overcome it. Was it a

> strike against me? Sure? Should it have been? Probably not, but I would

> bet my bottom dollar they had a discussion about whether or not i fit the

> " image " .

>

> The first, and only time, I lived life in a thin body, I was stunned that

> life wasn't perfect. It WAS a lot better. I didn't have to be as

defensive,

> I was more accepted, I could do more things, I was less self conscious,

but I

> WAS still me. I have been in therapy off an on for 20 years. I adhere to

> the principle that people don't come preshrunk and that EVERYONE can

benefit

> from a good therapist.

>

> My expectations have changed about thinness. I am also at a very

different

> place in my life. I am happy, I am married, I have 3 kids I adore, I am a

> success in my career, I have plenty of friends. Whether I lose or gain a

> pound, I am a good person and thinness won't make me better or worse, just

> thin. It will increase the pleasure in my life, restore my health and

make

> me live longer, but it may even increase some problems, too. (What if my

> husband and I fight over my new clothes budget!!!) This is an exciting

> venture and I am up for the task. I wouldn't dare start such a courageous

> adventure without guidance and support and I get that from all my friends

AND

> a wonderful therapist!

>

> Safe journey,

>

>

> MGB 03 MAY 00

> Safely on the other side!!!!

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