Re: Problem manipulating mother in law

[Guest guest]

> Debs,

> I'm not sure you would like my advice about your hubby and

> givingyour mother-in-law money every month. The nicest

> thing I can say, is get a separate account for your money

> (one your hubby doesn't have access to) and tell him if he

> wants to add to her income, he has to do it himself. She's

> not your mother and you have no obligation to give her any

> of your money that you have worked so hard to make

> (especially working with such a terrible illness as

> pancreatitis.). Otherwise, you might as well not be working

> since you don't see any of the money anyways.

> As for the cleaning, get someone else to do it. I'm sure you

> would be paying A LOT less a month and actually get the

> place clean. A professional also wouldn't be upset over the

> list of things you want done.

> If your hubby objects, just tell him you are not getting any

> service for the money you pay your mother-in-law to clean.

> Kimber

>

> --

> Kimber

> Vallejo, CA

> hominid2@c...

> Southwest Representative

> Pancreatitis Association, International

[Guest guest]

> Debs,

> I'm not sure you would like my advice about your hubby and

> givingyour mother-in-law money every month. The nicest

> thing I can say, is get a separate account for your money

> (one your hubby doesn't have access to) and tell him if he

> wants to add to her income, he has to do it himself. She's

> not your mother and you have no obligation to give her any

> of your money that you have worked so hard to make

> (especially working with such a terrible illness as

> pancreatitis.). Otherwise, you might as well not be working

> since you don't see any of the money anyways.

> As for the cleaning, get someone else to do it. I'm sure you

> would be paying A LOT less a month and actually get the

> place clean. A professional also wouldn't be upset over the

> list of things you want done.

> If your hubby objects, just tell him you are not getting any

> service for the money you pay your mother-in-law to clean.

> Kimber

>

> --

> Kimber

> Vallejo, CA

> hominid2@c...

> Southwest Representative

> Pancreatitis Association, International

[Guest guest]

> Debs,

> I'm not sure you would like my advice about your hubby and

> givingyour mother-in-law money every month. The nicest

> thing I can say, is get a separate account for your money

> (one your hubby doesn't have access to) and tell him if he

> wants to add to her income, he has to do it himself. She's

> not your mother and you have no obligation to give her any

> of your money that you have worked so hard to make

> (especially working with such a terrible illness as

> pancreatitis.). Otherwise, you might as well not be working

> since you don't see any of the money anyways.

> As for the cleaning, get someone else to do it. I'm sure you

> would be paying A LOT less a month and actually get the

> place clean. A professional also wouldn't be upset over the

> list of things you want done.

> If your hubby objects, just tell him you are not getting any

> service for the money you pay your mother-in-law to clean.

> Kimber

>

> --

> Kimber

> Vallejo, CA

> hominid2@c...

> Southwest Representative

> Pancreatitis Association, International

[Guest guest]

Cheryl

Hi thanks...how do you work 72 hours man oh man.

Yes

I am at the end stage enough is enough we also pay child support as

well. Its like shes in here 50 ealy years and needs to look after

herself I dont know how long I got to work and I have my dreams and

holidays I want to go on . We my partner and I have never had on yet

in 5 years plus so I want to save some for that

Thanks

Debs

> > Dear Debs,

> >

> > If you can and your partner can afford to continue to help out

your

> > mother-in-law financially, that's one thing. But YOU don't have

to

> pay for

> > it. She's your partner's mother, not yours. And you are not

the

> local

> > welfare office. Weren't you having the same sort of (or

similar)

> problems

> > with your spouse's daughter a while back? Perhaps you need to

be a

> bit more

> > firm. And perhaps your partner needs a class on codependency.

In

> fact, you

> > better go along. :-) Haha.

> >

> > What he does with his money is not something you can control -

I'm

> sorry.

> > But as his spouse, you SHOULD have some say about where your

mutual

> household

> > income goes. I assume you split your bills - and savings - and

> earnings -

> > etc.?? If so, of COURSE you should find a way to agree on how

it's

> spent.

> > But I would think that if you don't want to pay for her, you

> certainly should

> > not HAVE to... How about he pays for her from his OWN account,

> after all

> > other family bills are met? Seems perfectly reasonable to me.

> >

> > As far as the housekeeping goes, you are paying an EXORBITANT

fee

> for a

> > service that you are not getting. It's not a matter of her

being

> your

> > mother-in-law where that is concerned. Hire someone that is

going

> to HELP

> > YOU OUT and DO WHAT YOU NEED DONE.

> >

> > $600 should pay for some DAMN FINE HOUSEKEEPING. Reduce it to

half

> of that

> > and get somebody who knows how to clean house. At least in the

> states, $300

> > should get you one CONTINUALLY SPOTLESS house. It's not a

matter

> of

> > " helping " someone - and paying them for it - if they won't help

you

> back and

> > do the simple things agreed upon.

> >

> > Especially if you're already " giving " them cash to live on in

the

> first

> > place. I'm so sorry that you are caught up in this nonsense,

but

> clearly

> > it's causing you grief, which just makes your CP worse and your

> life a living

> > hell. It's up to you, but I'd put an end to it. If your

partner

> argues and

> > whines, tell him it's a matter of your health - and it is. If

he

> wants to go

> > live at home with mommy, he knows the way. Meanwhile, stop

being a

> doormat.

> >

> > She is your mother-in-law. You are her daughter-in-law. That

is

> the only

> > relationship that you should have. A financial relationship is

out

> of line,

> > inappropriate, and causing you a great deal of stress, and

causing

> stress in

> > your primary relationship. Clearly it's time to redefine roles

> into

> > something far more healthy and realistic - to say nothing

> of " traditional " -

> > or reasonable.

> >

> > You live daily with a terminal illness that is extremely

expensive

> and

> > terrifically stressful. You should not have the bare the burden

of

> someone

> > else that doesn't live in your home simply because they

mismanage

> their money

> > - or for any other reason for that matter. Put your foot down.

> Don't wait

> > for it to get any further out of hand than it is already. And

put

> your

> > husband on-line. We have a few choice words for him as well.

> >

> > Ann Landers in Kansas City,

> > Terry

> >

> > In a message dated 7/27/02 12:01:30 AM, colind@x writes:

> >

> > << Hi

> >

> > Things arent going all that well I have problems with my mother

> > inlaw whose meddling and making my life hell with my partner and

I.

> > We pay her to clean house and she does what she wants when she

> feels

> > like it.Not helping me at all just making me fuming. It of

course

> > puts added strain on me and my partner.we also have to bail her

out

> > to the tune of 500 to $1000 a month as she needs 4k a month to

live

> > on with her hubby cos they smoke drink and have race horses. He

> > doesnt work just trians his horses that dont win on their small

> farm.

> > I am tired of it. I have been bailing her out for a year. We

also

> > pay her $150 a week to clean and my house is not clean.

> > So its all very draining and it make sme wonder why I work at

all

> as

> > she takes all my money

> > Any ideas on sorting her would be great.

> > I am worried that if I end up in hospital again she will take

over

> > and everything wil turn to weetbix.

> > She folds clothes in wrong way, bathrooms filthy till I left a

list

> > now she ignorse my list and tells me what shes been doing

> > arghhhhhhhhhhhh. Shes very manipulating and winds her son up

does

> > the tears act if you ask her to do anything .

> > Shes stressing me outand I have talked to my partner but he gets

> all

> > defensive as she leans on him for money. I am at a loss as to

what

> > to do

> >

> > Debs >>

[Guest guest]

Cheryl

Hi thanks...how do you work 72 hours man oh man.

Yes

I am at the end stage enough is enough we also pay child support as

well. Its like shes in here 50 ealy years and needs to look after

herself I dont know how long I got to work and I have my dreams and

holidays I want to go on . We my partner and I have never had on yet

in 5 years plus so I want to save some for that

Thanks

Debs

> > Dear Debs,

> >

> > If you can and your partner can afford to continue to help out

your

> > mother-in-law financially, that's one thing. But YOU don't have

to

> pay for

> > it. She's your partner's mother, not yours. And you are not

the

> local

> > welfare office. Weren't you having the same sort of (or

similar)

> problems

> > with your spouse's daughter a while back? Perhaps you need to

be a

> bit more

> > firm. And perhaps your partner needs a class on codependency.

In

> fact, you

> > better go along. :-) Haha.

> >

> > What he does with his money is not something you can control -

I'm

> sorry.

> > But as his spouse, you SHOULD have some say about where your

mutual

> household

> > income goes. I assume you split your bills - and savings - and

> earnings -

> > etc.?? If so, of COURSE you should find a way to agree on how

it's

> spent.

> > But I would think that if you don't want to pay for her, you

> certainly should

> > not HAVE to... How about he pays for her from his OWN account,

> after all

> > other family bills are met? Seems perfectly reasonable to me.

> >

> > As far as the housekeeping goes, you are paying an EXORBITANT

fee

> for a

> > service that you are not getting. It's not a matter of her

being

> your

> > mother-in-law where that is concerned. Hire someone that is

going

> to HELP

> > YOU OUT and DO WHAT YOU NEED DONE.

> >

> > $600 should pay for some DAMN FINE HOUSEKEEPING. Reduce it to

half

> of that

> > and get somebody who knows how to clean house. At least in the

> states, $300

> > should get you one CONTINUALLY SPOTLESS house. It's not a

matter

> of

> > " helping " someone - and paying them for it - if they won't help

you

> back and

> > do the simple things agreed upon.

> >

> > Especially if you're already " giving " them cash to live on in

the

> first

> > place. I'm so sorry that you are caught up in this nonsense,

but

> clearly

> > it's causing you grief, which just makes your CP worse and your

> life a living

> > hell. It's up to you, but I'd put an end to it. If your

partner

> argues and

> > whines, tell him it's a matter of your health - and it is. If

he

> wants to go

> > live at home with mommy, he knows the way. Meanwhile, stop

being a

> doormat.

> >

> > She is your mother-in-law. You are her daughter-in-law. That

is

> the only

> > relationship that you should have. A financial relationship is

out

> of line,

> > inappropriate, and causing you a great deal of stress, and

causing

> stress in

> > your primary relationship. Clearly it's time to redefine roles

> into

> > something far more healthy and realistic - to say nothing

> of " traditional " -

> > or reasonable.

> >

> > You live daily with a terminal illness that is extremely

expensive

> and

> > terrifically stressful. You should not have the bare the burden

of

> someone

> > else that doesn't live in your home simply because they

mismanage

> their money

> > - or for any other reason for that matter. Put your foot down.

> Don't wait

> > for it to get any further out of hand than it is already. And

put

> your

> > husband on-line. We have a few choice words for him as well.

> >

> > Ann Landers in Kansas City,

> > Terry

> >

> > In a message dated 7/27/02 12:01:30 AM, colind@x writes:

> >

> > << Hi

> >

> > Things arent going all that well I have problems with my mother

> > inlaw whose meddling and making my life hell with my partner and

I.

> > We pay her to clean house and she does what she wants when she

> feels

> > like it.Not helping me at all just making me fuming. It of

course

> > puts added strain on me and my partner.we also have to bail her

out

> > to the tune of 500 to $1000 a month as she needs 4k a month to

live

> > on with her hubby cos they smoke drink and have race horses. He

> > doesnt work just trians his horses that dont win on their small

> farm.

> > I am tired of it. I have been bailing her out for a year. We

also

> > pay her $150 a week to clean and my house is not clean.

> > So its all very draining and it make sme wonder why I work at

all

> as

> > she takes all my money

> > Any ideas on sorting her would be great.

> > I am worried that if I end up in hospital again she will take

over

> > and everything wil turn to weetbix.

> > She folds clothes in wrong way, bathrooms filthy till I left a

list

> > now she ignorse my list and tells me what shes been doing

> > arghhhhhhhhhhhh. Shes very manipulating and winds her son up

does

> > the tears act if you ask her to do anything .

> > Shes stressing me outand I have talked to my partner but he gets

> all

> > defensive as she leans on him for money. I am at a loss as to

what

> > to do

> >

> > Debs >>

[Guest guest]

Cheryl

Hi thanks...how do you work 72 hours man oh man.

Yes

I am at the end stage enough is enough we also pay child support as

well. Its like shes in here 50 ealy years and needs to look after

herself I dont know how long I got to work and I have my dreams and

holidays I want to go on . We my partner and I have never had on yet

in 5 years plus so I want to save some for that

Thanks

Debs

> > Dear Debs,

> >

> > If you can and your partner can afford to continue to help out

your

> > mother-in-law financially, that's one thing. But YOU don't have

to

> pay for

> > it. She's your partner's mother, not yours. And you are not

the

> local

> > welfare office. Weren't you having the same sort of (or

similar)

> problems

> > with your spouse's daughter a while back? Perhaps you need to

be a

> bit more

> > firm. And perhaps your partner needs a class on codependency.

In

> fact, you

> > better go along. :-) Haha.

> >

> > What he does with his money is not something you can control -

I'm

> sorry.

> > But as his spouse, you SHOULD have some say about where your

mutual

> household

> > income goes. I assume you split your bills - and savings - and

> earnings -

> > etc.?? If so, of COURSE you should find a way to agree on how

it's

> spent.

> > But I would think that if you don't want to pay for her, you

> certainly should

> > not HAVE to... How about he pays for her from his OWN account,

> after all

> > other family bills are met? Seems perfectly reasonable to me.

> >

> > As far as the housekeeping goes, you are paying an EXORBITANT

fee

> for a

> > service that you are not getting. It's not a matter of her

being

> your

> > mother-in-law where that is concerned. Hire someone that is

going

> to HELP

> > YOU OUT and DO WHAT YOU NEED DONE.

> >

> > $600 should pay for some DAMN FINE HOUSEKEEPING. Reduce it to

half

> of that

> > and get somebody who knows how to clean house. At least in the

> states, $300

> > should get you one CONTINUALLY SPOTLESS house. It's not a

matter

> of

> > " helping " someone - and paying them for it - if they won't help

you

> back and

> > do the simple things agreed upon.

> >

> > Especially if you're already " giving " them cash to live on in

the

> first

> > place. I'm so sorry that you are caught up in this nonsense,

but

> clearly

> > it's causing you grief, which just makes your CP worse and your

> life a living

> > hell. It's up to you, but I'd put an end to it. If your

partner

> argues and

> > whines, tell him it's a matter of your health - and it is. If

he

> wants to go

> > live at home with mommy, he knows the way. Meanwhile, stop

being a

> doormat.

> >

> > She is your mother-in-law. You are her daughter-in-law. That

is

> the only

> > relationship that you should have. A financial relationship is

out

> of line,

> > inappropriate, and causing you a great deal of stress, and

causing

> stress in

> > your primary relationship. Clearly it's time to redefine roles

> into

> > something far more healthy and realistic - to say nothing

> of " traditional " -

> > or reasonable.

> >

> > You live daily with a terminal illness that is extremely

expensive

> and

> > terrifically stressful. You should not have the bare the burden

of

> someone

> > else that doesn't live in your home simply because they

mismanage

> their money

> > - or for any other reason for that matter. Put your foot down.

> Don't wait

> > for it to get any further out of hand than it is already. And

put

> your

> > husband on-line. We have a few choice words for him as well.

> >

> > Ann Landers in Kansas City,

> > Terry

> >

> > In a message dated 7/27/02 12:01:30 AM, colind@x writes:

> >

> > << Hi

> >

> > Things arent going all that well I have problems with my mother

> > inlaw whose meddling and making my life hell with my partner and

I.

> > We pay her to clean house and she does what she wants when she

> feels

> > like it.Not helping me at all just making me fuming. It of

course

> > puts added strain on me and my partner.we also have to bail her

out

> > to the tune of 500 to $1000 a month as she needs 4k a month to

live

> > on with her hubby cos they smoke drink and have race horses. He

> > doesnt work just trians his horses that dont win on their small

> farm.

> > I am tired of it. I have been bailing her out for a year. We

also

> > pay her $150 a week to clean and my house is not clean.

> > So its all very draining and it make sme wonder why I work at

all

> as

> > she takes all my money

> > Any ideas on sorting her would be great.

> > I am worried that if I end up in hospital again she will take

over

> > and everything wil turn to weetbix.

> > She folds clothes in wrong way, bathrooms filthy till I left a

list

> > now she ignorse my list and tells me what shes been doing

> > arghhhhhhhhhhhh. Shes very manipulating and winds her son up

does

> > the tears act if you ask her to do anything .

> > Shes stressing me outand I have talked to my partner but he gets

> all

> > defensive as she leans on him for money. I am at a loss as to

what

> > to do

> >

> > Debs >>

[Guest guest]

Cheryl

Hi thanks...how do you work 72 hours man oh man.

Yes

I am at the end stage enough is enough we also pay child support as

well. Its like shes in here 50 ealy years and needs to look after

herself I dont know how long I got to work and I have my dreams and

holidays I want to go on . We my partner and I have never had on yet

in 5 years plus so I want to save some for that

Thanks

Debs

> > Dear Debs,

> >

> > If you can and your partner can afford to continue to help out

your

> > mother-in-law financially, that's one thing. But YOU don't have

to

> pay for

> > it. She's your partner's mother, not yours. And you are not

the

> local

> > welfare office. Weren't you having the same sort of (or

similar)

> problems

> > with your spouse's daughter a while back? Perhaps you need to

be a

> bit more

> > firm. And perhaps your partner needs a class on codependency.

In

> fact, you

> > better go along. :-) Haha.

> >

> > What he does with his money is not something you can control -

I'm

> sorry.

> > But as his spouse, you SHOULD have some say about where your

mutual

> household

> > income goes. I assume you split your bills - and savings - and

> earnings -

> > etc.?? If so, of COURSE you should find a way to agree on how

it's

> spent.

> > But I would think that if you don't want to pay for her, you

> certainly should

> > not HAVE to... How about he pays for her from his OWN account,

> after all

> > other family bills are met? Seems perfectly reasonable to me.

> >

> > As far as the housekeeping goes, you are paying an EXORBITANT

fee

> for a

> > service that you are not getting. It's not a matter of her

being

> your

> > mother-in-law where that is concerned. Hire someone that is

going

> to HELP

> > YOU OUT and DO WHAT YOU NEED DONE.

> >

> > $600 should pay for some DAMN FINE HOUSEKEEPING. Reduce it to

half

> of that

> > and get somebody who knows how to clean house. At least in the

> states, $300

> > should get you one CONTINUALLY SPOTLESS house. It's not a

matter

> of

> > " helping " someone - and paying them for it - if they won't help

you

> back and

> > do the simple things agreed upon.

> >

> > Especially if you're already " giving " them cash to live on in

the

> first

> > place. I'm so sorry that you are caught up in this nonsense,

but

> clearly

> > it's causing you grief, which just makes your CP worse and your

> life a living

> > hell. It's up to you, but I'd put an end to it. If your

partner

> argues and

> > whines, tell him it's a matter of your health - and it is. If

he

> wants to go

> > live at home with mommy, he knows the way. Meanwhile, stop

being a

> doormat.

> >

> > She is your mother-in-law. You are her daughter-in-law. That

is

> the only

> > relationship that you should have. A financial relationship is

out

> of line,

> > inappropriate, and causing you a great deal of stress, and

causing

> stress in

> > your primary relationship. Clearly it's time to redefine roles

> into

> > something far more healthy and realistic - to say nothing

> of " traditional " -

> > or reasonable.

> >

> > You live daily with a terminal illness that is extremely

expensive

> and

> > terrifically stressful. You should not have the bare the burden

of

> someone

> > else that doesn't live in your home simply because they

mismanage

> their money

> > - or for any other reason for that matter. Put your foot down.

> Don't wait

> > for it to get any further out of hand than it is already. And

put

> your

> > husband on-line. We have a few choice words for him as well.

> >

> > Ann Landers in Kansas City,

> > Terry

> >

> > In a message dated 7/27/02 12:01:30 AM, colind@x writes:

> >

> > << Hi

> >

> > Things arent going all that well I have problems with my mother

> > inlaw whose meddling and making my life hell with my partner and

I.

> > We pay her to clean house and she does what she wants when she

> feels

> > like it.Not helping me at all just making me fuming. It of

course

> > puts added strain on me and my partner.we also have to bail her

out

> > to the tune of 500 to $1000 a month as she needs 4k a month to

live

> > on with her hubby cos they smoke drink and have race horses. He

> > doesnt work just trians his horses that dont win on their small

> farm.

> > I am tired of it. I have been bailing her out for a year. We

also

> > pay her $150 a week to clean and my house is not clean.

> > So its all very draining and it make sme wonder why I work at

all

> as

> > she takes all my money

> > Any ideas on sorting her would be great.

> > I am worried that if I end up in hospital again she will take

over

> > and everything wil turn to weetbix.

> > She folds clothes in wrong way, bathrooms filthy till I left a

list

> > now she ignorse my list and tells me what shes been doing

> > arghhhhhhhhhhhh. Shes very manipulating and winds her son up

does

> > the tears act if you ask her to do anything .

> > Shes stressing me outand I have talked to my partner but he gets

> all

> > defensive as she leans on him for money. I am at a loss as to

what

> > to do

> >

> > Debs >>

[Guest guest]

Cheryl

Hi thanks...how do you work 72 hours man oh man.

Yes

I am at the end stage enough is enough we also pay child support as

well. Its like shes in here 50 ealy years and needs to look after

herself I dont know how long I got to work and I have my dreams and

holidays I want to go on . We my partner and I have never had on yet

in 5 years plus so I want to save some for that

Thanks

Debs

> > Dear Debs,

> >

> > If you can and your partner can afford to continue to help out

your

> > mother-in-law financially, that's one thing. But YOU don't have

to

> pay for

> > it. She's your partner's mother, not yours. And you are not

the

> local

> > welfare office. Weren't you having the same sort of (or

similar)

> problems

> > with your spouse's daughter a while back? Perhaps you need to

be a

> bit more

> > firm. And perhaps your partner needs a class on codependency.

In

> fact, you

> > better go along. :-) Haha.

> >

> > What he does with his money is not something you can control -

I'm

> sorry.

> > But as his spouse, you SHOULD have some say about where your

mutual

> household

> > income goes. I assume you split your bills - and savings - and

> earnings -

> > etc.?? If so, of COURSE you should find a way to agree on how

it's

> spent.

> > But I would think that if you don't want to pay for her, you

> certainly should

> > not HAVE to... How about he pays for her from his OWN account,

> after all

> > other family bills are met? Seems perfectly reasonable to me.

> >

> > As far as the housekeeping goes, you are paying an EXORBITANT

fee

> for a

> > service that you are not getting. It's not a matter of her

being

> your

> > mother-in-law where that is concerned. Hire someone that is

going

> to HELP

> > YOU OUT and DO WHAT YOU NEED DONE.

> >

> > $600 should pay for some DAMN FINE HOUSEKEEPING. Reduce it to

half

> of that

> > and get somebody who knows how to clean house. At least in the

> states, $300

> > should get you one CONTINUALLY SPOTLESS house. It's not a

matter

> of

> > " helping " someone - and paying them for it - if they won't help

you

> back and

> > do the simple things agreed upon.

> >

> > Especially if you're already " giving " them cash to live on in

the

> first

> > place. I'm so sorry that you are caught up in this nonsense,

but

> clearly

> > it's causing you grief, which just makes your CP worse and your

> life a living

> > hell. It's up to you, but I'd put an end to it. If your

partner

> argues and

> > whines, tell him it's a matter of your health - and it is. If

he

> wants to go

> > live at home with mommy, he knows the way. Meanwhile, stop

being a

> doormat.

> >

> > She is your mother-in-law. You are her daughter-in-law. That

is

> the only

> > relationship that you should have. A financial relationship is

out

> of line,

> > inappropriate, and causing you a great deal of stress, and

causing

> stress in

> > your primary relationship. Clearly it's time to redefine roles

> into

> > something far more healthy and realistic - to say nothing

> of " traditional " -

> > or reasonable.

> >

> > You live daily with a terminal illness that is extremely

expensive

> and

> > terrifically stressful. You should not have the bare the burden

of

> someone

> > else that doesn't live in your home simply because they

mismanage

> their money

> > - or for any other reason for that matter. Put your foot down.

> Don't wait

> > for it to get any further out of hand than it is already. And

put

> your

> > husband on-line. We have a few choice words for him as well.

> >

> > Ann Landers in Kansas City,

> > Terry

> >

> > In a message dated 7/27/02 12:01:30 AM, colind@x writes:

> >

> > << Hi

> >

> > Things arent going all that well I have problems with my mother

> > inlaw whose meddling and making my life hell with my partner and

I.

> > We pay her to clean house and she does what she wants when she

> feels

> > like it.Not helping me at all just making me fuming. It of

course

> > puts added strain on me and my partner.we also have to bail her

out

> > to the tune of 500 to $1000 a month as she needs 4k a month to

live

> > on with her hubby cos they smoke drink and have race horses. He

> > doesnt work just trians his horses that dont win on their small

> farm.

> > I am tired of it. I have been bailing her out for a year. We

also

> > pay her $150 a week to clean and my house is not clean.

> > So its all very draining and it make sme wonder why I work at

all

> as

> > she takes all my money

> > Any ideas on sorting her would be great.

> > I am worried that if I end up in hospital again she will take

over

> > and everything wil turn to weetbix.

> > She folds clothes in wrong way, bathrooms filthy till I left a

list

> > now she ignorse my list and tells me what shes been doing

> > arghhhhhhhhhhhh. Shes very manipulating and winds her son up

does

> > the tears act if you ask her to do anything .

> > Shes stressing me outand I have talked to my partner but he gets

> all

> > defensive as she leans on him for money. I am at a loss as to

what

> > to do

> >

> > Debs >>